SadBabyGirl Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 Okay i was talking about this earlier, I deeply hurt my ex with a stupid lie which is why he broke up with me but there are subtle signs that he still cares about me, he does things for me still and comes around every once in a while with an email. I really want to send him a bouquet of roses to say im sorry because he says my words arent sinking in, he was the kind of guy that blushes u know when he get something that show u care he gets emotional so what do you guys think? We are in no contact right now but once every couple of weeks we make contact via email to let eachother know we are thinking about eachother and to see how are things going. Let me know what i should do peeps. I know this might not be a method of getting him back but I want him to feel good when he gets the roses/flowers/whatever it maybe! And we are long distance too so thats why i want to send something.
dreamguy Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 If the lie you are talking about was really stupid then perhaps he shouldn't have broke up with you. Have you ever thought that he might have used this "stupid lie" as a reason to break up with you ? Most of the times, people plan a break up for weeks and months before deciding to go for it. Besides, you can never be sure what was exactly going on in your ex's life since it was a long distance relationship. In the end, you have to sit down and evaluate the situation. Did he share everything with you ? All the details of his daily life ? Did you trust all his words ? I'm only asking you to make sure that the real reason behind the break up was the "stupid lie" you mentioned before starting to think how you should apologize to him. The fact is, you have to be sure you did something wrong before apologizing. If the real reason behind the break up turns out to be something else then your apology won't really change things. If, on the other hand, it is the cause of the break up and you insist on sending flowers then I suggest you send a card along and you pick the words to write very carefully ! Your words on the card are what will persuade him of your sincerity. They will make a difference, because anyone can send flowers but not anyone can pick the same words (that will touch his heart) as you.
Author SadBabyGirl Posted June 19, 2004 Author Posted June 19, 2004 Thanks Dream Guy! Well maybe I didnt put it right. I did something very foolish ( its not what you think, i didnt have any affair or cheated on him nothing like that) but he got very hurt and shocked by what i did, and at the time i Knew i did something very wrong and i lied to him about it saying that i said those horrible things to my cousin and it was really my ex boyfriend whom i told and he found out about it later right before we were about to marry. I keep saying sorry, but he feels im being two faced and my apologies arent cutting it. And i lived with him and know how sensitive he is, things like roses or something you do for him would make him emotional and he would miss me i remmeber when i would send him things like e-cards and just little things here and there he would get so happy and smiling in the face and hug me immediately almost with tears so i feel in my heart he didnt use that as an exuse to break up with me, he just couldnt trust me after that and hes being a really good guy, we are doing the no contact thing but hes still willing to help me out he even offered to help pay my tuitions and things and emails me here and there he just says he loves me but thinks the relationship wont work again. Thats pretty sweet huh at least he cares for my future. And boy do i feel like crap about what i did but ive accepted it and learned my lesson and am ready to move forward and not to make the same mistake again. So yeah any suggestions would help and thx dream guy take care!
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