KansasChica Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 Okay, so I really need some opinions on what type of guy my ex was...I think I'm still looking at him with rose-colored glasses or something. I met him- we played on the same softball team. He never talked- was very shy. He was also very aloof and stoic (showing no emotion ever). Always followed around his more outgoing best friend. We started hanging around as a group and I got to know him better- he opened up. We developed a spark and started dating. He's 25 and I was his first real girlfriend. We had an amazing relationship, but he was always very passive. He let me do all the deciding. The first time he told me he loved me, he broke down. Any time we got in an argument, he never raised his voice but would cry again. Again, he treated me amazingly though. He's very smart, has a good job, etc. We dated 9 months and then he broke up with me out of the blue. Said he didn't feel the spark anymore. I was devastated. He then completely withdrew and has avoided me for a good 3 months. I have tried to reach out to him via email twice (since our breakup 4 months ago). The first time he responded very bitterly towards me and the second time, he was so cold. Now when I see him out, he acts like I'm a stranger. Is he just emotionally immature? Avoidant? Link to post Share on other sites
blotter Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 Sounds like a relationship that has just run its course and wasn't working for one of the partners. The withdrawing, avoidance, perceived bitterness is him going No Contact and moving on with his life. This should be your cue to do the same thing. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetheart5381 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 Maybe there is more going on than you have noticed. If he is angry, bitter, ignoring you, there is a reason. Perhaps he feels hurt by something but doesnt feel comfortable telling you. I am personally dealing with a man that is somewhat similar in ways. Perhaps he feels a bit judged - nothing personal, but if you are asking a forum what they think of him, then chances are good that you asked him (judged) him too. Most folks don't like to be judged and can feel it when they are being subjected to another person's perception of them. I would just let him be... if you initiate contact and they are hostile, leave them be. They are likely feeling hurt even if they can't express it openly. If they really care about the relationship they will be back in a positive way... when they are ready. Link to post Share on other sites
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