Real36 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I turned 30into last year. As I get older I am beginning to realize that instead of becoming increasingly cynical and dejected I am actually becoming more open minded and accepting of people and their quirks. Imperfections that used to be annoying to me are you now somehow endearing (not all quirks). Dating still sucks, it continues to drag me through the mud but I am less afraid to get out there and give it a good try. I am happier than I have ever been before. I feel like I finally have the ability to relax and enjoy my life a bit. Maybe its because I have taken many of the opportunities I have had to "live" meaning I have moved around a little, experienced different people and been through the ringer more than a few times. Maybe its just because the dating pool gets pretty shallow in your 30s Either way, what I want and what I need are so much clearer to me now. I am looking happily into the future! Anyone else think getting older might actually be kinda cool?
january2011 Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Yes and no. I've always been attracted to imperfections and quirks because I think they make people seem more human, more real and more alive. Though admittedly, I'm heavily influenced by the sci-fi genre in which humans are viewed by some species as beautiful precisely because of their flaws and vulnerabilities. Anyway, I digress. As I get older, I've become more cynical and inflexible. I still enjoy meeting lots of different kinds of people, learning from them and exchanging ideas. However, I find/found that close relationships and romantic relationships are much harder to create and build. Mainly because life gets in the way a lot of the time. And while with age, comes wisdom from accumulated experience. There are many days where I feel that the more I know, the less I know. Thing is though, you make the best of whatever situation you find yourself in. And if you're in your 30s and find yourself back on the dating scene, all you can really do is keep putting yourself out there, as you are doing. It's not easy, but if you don't try, you're unlikely to ever move forward. A review of the threads on this board indicate that it's not that much easier for teens and people in their 20s, though granted their dating pools tend to be a lot bigger.
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