NXS Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 That's a very good point. I'm not worried that she's going to be assigning clinical terms and making me want to cry. I'm falsely assuming she'll just be more critical in her thinking, thus the body language nervousness. Typically I wouldn't give it a second thought. You could approach this subject at the start by making a light-hearted joke or comment about it so it's out in the open rather than you worrying about it throughout the date.
dasein Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Just wanted to mention that every time you go out with a woman, you are essentially dating a therapist, at least the pro may do a better job of the analysis. 1
wwwjd Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 You should have fun with it! After she talks about something, ask HER, "so how did that make you feel?" Or tell her you have this issue with your father you want to talk about. Or tell her you want to stop by the pharmacy on the way out to get your meds that keep you from Stalking Jodi Foster or Tom Cruise. Or at the end of the date, "Lets see.... 3 hours is 3 sessions... that will be $297. With this be cash or charge?"
Author sid3 Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 You could approach this subject at the start by making a light-hearted joke or comment about it so it's out in the open rather than you worrying about it throughout the date. Exactly what I plan on doing straight away. She seems to have a good sense of humor from what I can tell. I do intend to let her do the majority of the talking.
FitChick Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 You wouldn't go on a date with a psychotherapist and talk about your emotional problems any more than you would go on a date with a doctor and talk about your aches and pains. As someone said, they like time off from work as much as the next person. The main difference between you and a therapist is that she has had more therapy than you. It doesn't mean she is any better at relationships than you are. Plenty of counselors, therapists, and psychologists have been divorced, some more than once. The one advantage would be she would be more willing to talk about problems in the relationship, should it develop into one. Just treat her the way you would any other woman and enjoy getting to know each other.
dasein Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 any more than you would go on a date with a doctor and talk about your aches and pains. Now this I would actually do, "one of my trusses doesn't seem to fit any more, could you be a dear and take a look? while you are at it my prostate feels a bit swollen...":laugh:
Sanman Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 This thread is hilarious. If you are afraid of being analyzed, don't date half the people that responded to this thread. People are always afraid of getting analyzed, but analyzing people is a lot of work. Frankly, I would not want to listen to your mommy problems or neuroses if I am not being paid to do so. This woman is no more likely to analyze or judge you than anyone else. Some will and some won't. This thread is putting too much thought into a first date. Go have a good time and see what comes of it. The end
FitChick Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Now this I would actually do, "one of my trusses doesn't seem to fit any more, could you be a dear and take a look? while you are at it my prostate feels a bit swollen...":laugh: Flashback: A friend of mine (college student at the time) was hitchhiking and an older man picked her up. She was a hippie chick and looked the part. He asked her if she was a nurse. She said no. He then said exactly what you did! Clearly a common PUA line for many decades. At the time, neither of us even knew what a truss was. 1
RedRobin Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I guess another question might be, how long has she been a therapist and what kind of therapy is she in? I ask because a good friend of mine tried to set me up with an undercover agent friend of his from a federal agency that shall remain nameless, and it was a disaster. Mostly for him, I think. He joked about his 'secret file' on me and about the chip they all wear around in their heads. It was funny for about 5 min until I got the interrogation treatment. That's pretty much all he knew how to do. Question and answer thing. I was a bit over it and so decided I'd joke back... and said "Yea. you work for the government. I bet you can't change your underwear without filling out a form." Oh, and when it finished off with him claiming his ex-wife was manic depressive (um, I think I'd be depressed if my H was gone for weeks at a time and couldn't tell me where). Oh, boy... I found out recently that you can get a copy of your 'secret file'... for anyone who is curious. I may go back in a few years to see if there are any updates in there from my 'date'. so much for friends setting up friends! Good luck with your date though. I'm sure it will be fine!
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