lol91 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I posted here before about it being 6 months since my ex broke up with me. I have had no.contact for only two days but im itching to text him! I want him back. Whats the best thing to say?
smudge21 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 What's the best thing to say to cause you the most hurt... hmm, that's a tough one. Pretty much anything you send will cause you pain and regret, so I'd go with anything. Seriously though, don't do it. I know how hard that can be so why not instead type up a message, but don't send it. Just save it for later. Give it another day or two, and then re-read it back. Emotions go up and do all the time, so although you feel desperate to make contact now, you may feel different later. 2 days of No Contact is nothing and nothing has been gained from it yet, so in reality, making contact now will probably not affect anything, but in the same sense it won't help you heal. Healing takes time and effort. Sadly, we often have to hit rock bottom before we can start to heal properly.
budley12 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 how was your breakup 6months ago and you are only on day 2 of NC? i could never do that to myself. I went 3months NC and drunk texted ex last weekend and i broke down again.
MIK1000 Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 how was your breakup 6months ago and you are only on day 2 of NC? i could never do that to myself. I went 3months NC and drunk texted ex last weekend and i broke down again. I have a good reason not to. I made a thread on here last night because i was itching to contact my ex from 7 months ago who dumped me (after a string of her contacting me inconsistently. I hadn't heard from her in two weeks though and I was down about it. I was asking on here for advice about what to text her. I got good advice on here not to. I wake up today, lunchtime comes and I get a text from my saying "Do you know what today is haha?" I hadn't even realised it was our would be anniversary. So glad i didn't get in contact last night as you can imagine. Maybe you're ex will cave soon, if not you just need to carry on moving on.
Zahara Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I posted here before about it being 6 months since my ex broke up with me. I have had no.contact for only two days but im itching to text him! I want him back. Whats the best thing to say? 6 months and he hasn't made an attempt to get back with you. But you want him back. Yes, text him. In 12 months you will be back saying, my ex broke up with me a year ago and I've been on 4 days NC, what is the best thing to say to get him back? How do you get someone back that does not want to be back, with you? Please be realistic.
Author lol91 Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 Actually Zahara, before you judge my actions, know the full story. Firstly, during these 6 months we have been on and off trying to work things out, even tried to become friends. It was a hard time for both of us because we still had strong feelings there. And secondly, im happy I texted him because we are now trying something new to work things out one last time. thanks anyway for your pointless comment
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Actually Zahara, before you judge my actions, know the full story. Firstly, during these 6 months we have been on and off trying to work things out, even tried to become friends. It was a hard time for both of us because we still had strong feelings there. And secondly, im happy I texted him because we are now trying something new to work things out one last time. thanks anyway for your pointless comment ...you just said your ex broke up with you, though. Z's comment was right on target. You asked for advice and got very good comments on here; no need to get sassy. 1
Zahara Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Actually Zahara, before you judge my actions, know the full story. Firstly, during these 6 months we have been on and off trying to work things out, even tried to become friends. It was a hard time for both of us because we still had strong feelings there. And secondly, im happy I texted him because we are now trying something new to work things out one last time. thanks anyway for your pointless comment Well, most times when you have been on and off "trying" to work things out, it's not so much wanting to work things out but more so the difficulty in detaching and the denial that makes you keep going back round after round. I hope that this one last time around, you both have found a different plan to finally elimninate all the "trying" you both have been doing for the past 6 months. It's pointless because when your head is emotionally bound, you will fail to see logic. If you have to force a relationship to work, most likely it won't It doesn't have to be so hard, especially when you claim feelings are very strong for each other. Good luck. And might I add, pointless or not, it's a public forum. If you don't like it, just too bad. 3
HollyBolly Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Actually Zahara, before you judge my actions, know the full story. Firstly, during these 6 months we have been on and off trying to work things out, even tried to become friends. It was a hard time for both of us because we still had strong feelings there. And secondly, im happy I texted him because we are now trying something new to work things out one last time. thanks anyway for your pointless comment And we'll see when you're back on here. You come on here seeking advice and when someone tries to help, you pi33 all over them. Nice. 2
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 And we'll see when you're back on here. You come on here seeking advice and when someone tries to help, you pi33 all over them. Nice. My sentiments exactly, Holly. 1
Zahara Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 ...you just said your ex broke up with you, though. That's what I thought too. Ex broke up 6 months ago. NC 2 days! 1
olivec Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Actually Zahara, before you judge my actions, know the full story. Firstly, during these 6 months we have been on and off trying to work things out, even tried to become friends. It was a hard time for both of us because we still had strong feelings there. And secondly, im happy I texted him because we are now trying something new to work things out one last time. thanks anyway for your pointless comment I'm gunna be blunt with you as I can tell your very young and foolish. He does not want you back other than to have sex with you when he gets the urge or when he has no other options at the time. Your a fool wanting to work something out with a man who clearly is using you and stringing you around. Everybody on this thread has told you that but you continue to not listen. I'm afraid your gunna get hurt even worse this time and its gunna be your own fault! 2
Zahara Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 (edited) 6 months after break up and my life is still a mess! Its been 6 months since my boyfriend of one year broke up with me by a text message, long story short. We tried again to make things work after I pleaded with him for another chance. We were best friends and did everything together, I felt comfortable with him from.the begining but I always felt insecure when he would speak to other girl friends. I have major trust issues. Since the break up, we even became 'friends with benefits' which I really regret. I never tried no contact with him, I have no.self control! Im so weak and always.find myself texting him telling him I love him and want to try again which makes him annoyed and angry. I hate myself for doing that. I feel so depressed and cry basically everyday and whenever im alone. Does anyone have any advice? Im in need of major help! Lol, the above was your other thread on LS (1 of 2). Seems the "trying" was very one sided. And you were demoted to friends with benefits. No way up but down from there. I rest my case. Edited April 19, 2012 by Zahara 3
HollyBolly Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I'm gunna be blunt with you as I can tell your very young and foolish. He does not want you back other than to have sex with you when he gets the urge or when he has no other options at the time. Your a fool wanting to work something out with a man who clearly is using you and stringing you around. Everybody on this thread has told you that but you continue to not listen. I'm afraid your gunna get hurt even worse this time and its gunna be your own fault! And this time, no one's going to offer advice. Shame... 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Actually Zahara, before you judge my actions, know the full story. Firstly, during these 6 months we have been on and off trying to work things out, even tried to become friends. It was a hard time for both of us because we still had strong feelings there. And secondly, im happy I texted him because we are now trying something new to work things out one last time. thanks anyway for your pointless comment You initiated the contact again? Maybe he took it as a booty call. 2
HollyBolly Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 You initiated the contact again? Maybe he took it as a booty call. Obviously!
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