i'mfaraway Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 This guy I think I have a connection with seems to have friendzoned me. He tells me how much he likes talking to me. He sure does. He can talk my ears off. But he rarely asks me about me, like personal things. Should I just write this one off?
Emilia Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 If you can't have a two-way conversation then sure. What's the point hanging out with someone like that? Must be boring. Or maybe he is trying to impress you?
Author i'mfaraway Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 If you can't have a two-way conversation then sure. What's the point hanging out with someone like that? Must be boring. Or maybe he is trying to impress you? We have great conversations actually. He asks questions, but not those personal questions that an interested party would. I'm not sure what he's trying to impress me with. He just talks about his views about issues, his office, his coworkers and things like that.
Emilia Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Oh I thought you meant he just talked at you. Perhaps you are friendzoned yes. If he has good social skills he probably knows how to get close to a girl
Author i'mfaraway Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 Oh I thought you meant he just talked at you. Perhaps you are friendzoned yes. If he has good social skills he probably knows how to get close to a girl For once, I'm upset that the one person I enjoy company with turned out to just treat me as a friend.
Emilia Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 For once' date=' I'm upset that the one person I enjoy company with turned out to just treat me as a friend. [/quote'] Have you tried to flirt with him?
veggirl Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I don't think it means you're FZ necessarily, but does he flirt with you, do you ask him personal questions to kinda get the ball rolling?
dasein Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I was exactly like this early on in teens and early 20s OP, thought the way to talk to women was to make everything clinical to emphasize that I was into them and not just sex. HUGE mistake. Is it possible he is doing this? How is your flirting? Can you ramp things up on your end? Show some leg figuratively or otherwise? He may just need a push to get moving.
Radu Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 It might be he is very shy, i was exactly like this untill 27.
Author i'mfaraway Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 Have you tried to flirt with him? I don't think it means you're FZ necessarily, but does he flirt with you, do you ask him personal questions to kinda get the ball rolling? If I did, I didn't know it consciously. I just didn't think he was interested so I didn't want to be emotionally invested. I can't think of a time that he really flirted with me. But I think there were some moments and then we would shy away or something. I was exactly like this early on in teens and early 20s OP, thought the way to talk to women was to make everything clinical to emphasize that I was into them and not just sex. HUGE mistake. Is it possible he is doing this? How is your flirting? Can you ramp things up on your end? Show some leg figuratively or otherwise? He may just need a push to get moving. He's in his 30s. I can try ramping it up but I don't want to focus on this and get emotional involved when there was no interest on his part.
veggirl Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 He's in his 30s. I can try ramping it up but I don't want to focus on this and get emotional involved when there was no interest on his part. You can ramp it up without getting emotionally involved. Just do it once (flirt openly and ask more personal questions) and see what happens. If he doesn't reciprocate, you have your answer and you can let it be. There won't be emotional involvement unless you keeeeeep trying when he isn't mirroring you 1
Author i'mfaraway Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 Update alert. It's official. I've been friendzoned. He was supposed to drive over to come to breakfast with me but ended up being too sick for it. That's fine and I don't doubt it. But when we were texting and he asked how I was and for an update of something that happened. When I mentioned some things that had been going on, he completely sidetracked! He's just not interested in knowing about me. I don't even know why he bothers to ask. Even if he's interested, in some weird way or whatever, I'm reserving myself for someone that cares.
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