lottierose Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 My partner of 6 months finished with me on sunday, as he was told by his ex (who he has a son with) that he would not be allowed access if he didnt finish with me and move bk to where he lived before (300 miles away). He has said he still loves me but had to make the decision and admits that his ex is backmailing him. We had a strong realtionship and i dint know if i should fight for it or let him go. There are other options where he could have everything he wanted. I am so confused and would appreciate any advice. Thanks
Leigh 87 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Mann..... What an evil witch his Ex is!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well, if you are THAt tight, do long distance, and if it feels like your relationship is worth it, truly worth it, you will eventually move to be with him.
Philosoraptor Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I'd tell this guy to start logging the threats and to take the ex to court for custody of the child.
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I'd tell this guy to start logging the threats and to take the ex to court for custody of the child. Yea definitely go this route. Is this some sort of court order?! I can't imagine what that verbiage would look like.... As of <DATE>, defendant will not be allowed to pursue a romantic relationship with <NAME> under penalty of not being allowed to see his own children. Seriously?
Author lottierose Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 I know its crazy and ive heard other stories about her that you wouldnt believe. She even made him call me to finish things while she was there so she could hear him tell me. He cant afford to take it to court, he is clearly a coward for what he's done but i dont know whether to try and fight for it or not.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 My partner of 6 months finished with me on sunday, as he was told by his ex (who he has a son with) that he would not be allowed access if he didnt finish with me and move bk to where he lived before (300 miles away). He has said he still loves me but had to make the decision and admits that his ex is backmailing him. We had a strong realtionship and i dint know if i should fight for it or let him go. There are other options where he could have everything he wanted. I am so confused and would appreciate any advice. Thanks He's not telling you the whole story. He has a child/ a history with this other person. It's odd to me that she said this to him. He's probably been rekindling with her through emails and such. His story does not add up.
Zahara Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Three sides to every story. I have a strong feeling there's more behind this story that he's not divulging. If he is incapable of fighting for himself and for what he wants, then I'm not sure what you're fighting for. If there are other options that can give him everything he wants, discuss it with him and if he's still hiding behind her then he's just doing what a coward would do and that is to have someone else make a decision that he just can't make for himself. Since he has no ability to go to court, you can move to be with him, but I have a strong feeling he's going back to be with her. And if he's not, he'll accept your decision with open arms and have all that he wants. Present your options, and see how he responds. That will most likely be very telling. 1
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