Eddie Edirol Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Because I'm a girl we're not suppose to approach guys! Lol We show interest so they can come to us. But what you said is true, us girls don't ever look at it from a guys' perspective. We just think he should initiate things if he's interested. Hows that workin out for ya? 1
veggirl Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Because I'm a girl we're not suppose to approach guys! Lol We show interest so they can come to us. But what you said is true, us girls don't ever look at it from a guys' perspective. We just think he should initiate things if he's interested. Gf, blatantly ignoring him when you see him is not "showing interest". 1
Author Lovely Girl Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 Gf, blatantly ignoring him when you see him is not "showing interest". Lol but it is if you smile
Author Lovely Girl Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 You can cling to that if you want, but I think you are completely overreacting. He did what any nice, normal person would do. I never said it wasn't nice. I honestly can't get mad at someone if they were just trying to help me out. I just assumed he knew I liked him and took my number knowing I was expecting him to call me. But no one knows what he thought but him. But I feel like we're getting away from the real question here which is: Regardless of how he got my number, if he really liked me would he have called me anyway?
Eddie Edirol Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 if he really liked me would he have called me anyway? If he thinks theres a possibility you will call his boss and tell them he is harassing you, and he could lose his job, nope. 1
Author Lovely Girl Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 If he thinks theres a possibility you will call his boss and tell them he is harassing you, and he could lose his job, nope. LOL Really?! I'm guessing that's what you would think if a woman did what I did to you. But he seems like a bad a**, like he really doesn't care about getting in trouble [this is just my perception of him].
Imajerk17 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 (edited) I really like this guy (my crush for years) that works at a grocery store. I’ve seen him give me the eye a couple of times but I don’t know if that means anything. He helped me find an item in the store before and would smile at me a lot but I still don’t know if that means anything. He’s really popular so I don’t know if he would even look at me that way. One day I “attempt” to start a conversation. I go up to him and I pretend to lose my keys. I ask if he’s seen them. He says no and I then ask if there’s a lost and found at the store? He replies yes, but then smiles and asks for my number, so if he found them he would call. He puts it in his cell (but I don’t know if he saved it). I actually left a key on purpose so he would find it. But I guess he never did and he never called. So my first question is: Regardless of how he got my number, if he really liked me would he have called me anyway? Even if he just called to say I didn’t find it? He didn’t have to ask me for my number he could have just left it alone and said call the store’s lost and found department, but he didn’t. So what was the point of him asking? I really like this guy but I never actually had a conversation with him and that might be the problem. I felt like we made a non verbal connection. I realize that he might just think I’m attractive but that’s it. If he really wanted to make it happen wouldn’t he have done so already? Should I try one more time to talk to him? Maybe start a real conversation and then ask if he wants to exchange numbers (even though he has mine) or exchange Facebook IDs? So we can stay in touch and get to know each other as friends. Or should I just let it go and let him be the aggressor? Well, I haven't read the rest of the thread yet. Only the above header post. So this is my take for now, only going by that. First of all, I give you props for attempting something. Right now he doesn't seem interested in that he has nothing to go by. He has the cashiers to be flirting with too. You think you gave him a clear signal, but as a guy, I can tell you that you didn't. That said, even if he were interested, he wouldn't call, unless it was for the keys. Maybe next time you can "thank" him for finding your keys--even if you "found" them yourself, and then get into a conversation? Maybe you can tell him that you are looking for a really big cucumber, and can he help you with that. Edited April 19, 2012 by Imajerk17 1
NateC Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 If someone ever did that to me, I wouldn't be thinking anything above "she just needed help finding her keys". Honestly, I would think I was being creepy by calling out of interest or other reasons. Definitely talk to him again but in conversation ask to continue it over the phone or even something like "I'd like to talk to you again sometime!" As far as I know, it's not totally out of the question for a girl to ask a guy something like that. 1
Author Lovely Girl Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 Well, I haven't read the rest of the thread yet. Only the above header post. So this is my take for now, only going by that. First of all, I give you props for attempting something. Right now he doesn't seem interested in that he has nothing to go by. He has the cashiers to be flirting with too. You think you gave him a clear signal, but as a guy, I can tell you that you didn't. That said, even if he were interested, he wouldn't call, unless it was for the keys. Maybe next time you can "thank" him for finding your keys--even if you "found" them yourself, and then get into a conversation? Maybe you can tell him that you are looking for a really big cucumber, and can he help you with that. Lol "I'm looking for a cucumber can you help me with that"? That is hilarious! He would think I was being a slut lol. Someone mentioned that he might have thought I would get him into trouble with his boss if he called asking for a date. Thank you, I thought I made my point clear that I liked him but I guess not.
Author Lovely Girl Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 If someone ever did that to me, I wouldn't be thinking anything above "she just needed help finding her keys". Honestly, I would think I was being creepy by calling out of interest or other reasons. Definitely talk to him again but in conversation ask to continue it over the phone or even something like "I'd like to talk to you again sometime!" As far as I know, it's not totally out of the question for a girl to ask a guy something like that. I probably should have just started a conversation in the beginning, instead of pretending to lose my keys nonsense.
perryb13 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I really like this guy (my crush for years) that works at a grocery store. I’ve seen him give me the eye a couple of times but I don’t know if that means anything. He helped me find an item in the store before and would smile at me a lot but I still don’t know if that means anything. He’s really popular so I don’t know if he would even look at me that way. One day I “attempt” to start a conversation. I go up to him and I pretend to lose my keys. I ask if he’s seen them. He says no and I then ask if there’s a lost and found at the store? He replies yes, but then smiles and asks for my number, so if he found them he would call. He puts it in his cell (but I don’t know if he saved it). I actually left a key on purpose so he would find it. But I guess he never did and he never called. So my first question is: Regardless of how he got my number, if he really liked me would he have called me anyway? Even if he just called to say I didn’t find it? He didn’t have to ask me for my number he could have just left it alone and said call the store’s lost and found department, but he didn’t. So what was the point of him asking? I really like this guy but I never actually had a conversation with him and that might be the problem. I felt like we made a non verbal connection. I realize that he might just think I’m attractive but that’s it. If he really wanted to make it happen wouldn’t he have done so already? Should I try one more time to talk to him? Maybe start a real conversation and then ask if he wants to exchange numbers (even though he has mine) or exchange Facebook IDs? So we can stay in touch and get to know each other as friends. Or should I just let it go and let him be the aggressor? He might be waiting because he doesn't want to scare you off. I've always tried to be careful because when I get a girl's number I tend to text her to give her attention/flirt a little. Maybe try initiating contact yourself? As a guy, normally I wait because I'm always paranoid of scaring a girl off. Hope this helps 1
Author Lovely Girl Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Thank you to everybody for your advice ! I've gotten a lot of different perspectives on the matter. There is one more thing I'm curious about though... Does anyone happen to know anything about Aries males in terms of approaching women? I know that they like to flirt from a distance and are very straightforward but that's it.
Eddie Edirol Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Thank you to everybody for your advice ! I've gotten a lot of different perspectives on the matter. There is one more thing I'm curious about though... Does anyone happen to know anything about Aries males in terms of approaching women? I know that they like to flirt from a distance and are very straightforward but that's it. Horoscopes have nothing to do with his personality. Since you dont know him, theres nothing you can do to make the approach painless if you get rejected, except dont build up expectations. Just go up and start a conversation. Flirt with him obviously, not with subtle hints or eye contact, because your idea of flirting arent the same as his. Just direct your questions to find out quickly if he is interested. If hes not, no big deal. 1
Author Lovely Girl Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Horoscopes have nothing to do with his personality. Since you dont know him, theres nothing you can do to make the approach painless if you get rejected, except dont build up expectations. Just go up and start a conversation. Flirt with him obviously, not with subtle hints or eye contact, because your idea of flirting arent the same as his. Just direct your questions to find out quickly if he is interested. If hes not, no big deal. Okay thanks!
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