RedRobin Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 You support a statement like this: and don't think you're biased? This is a generalizing statement that is just stupid. Your sarcasm/irony filter needs some tuning. How about you comment on the thread topic?
PlumPrincess Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Your sarcasm/irony filter needs some tuning. Sure.... How about you comment on the thread topic? It's kind of boring. I think it was the OhMoron who gave a pretty neat summary on this topic.
jobaba Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Only on the internet do I meet UNMARRIED people who have no opposite sex friends. I don't know how you could get through an undergraduate or graduate degree program without making friends with the opposite sex. That atmosphere is just pretty much gender free open socializing... 2
Jane2011 Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Only on the internet do I meet UNMARRIED people who have no opposite sex friends. I don't know how you could get through an undergraduate or graduate degree program without making friends with the opposite sex. That atmosphere is just pretty much gender free open socializing... Totally. I have no desire to argue with people about whether men and women can be friends or not, but every time I read people saying that "the truth" that "no one wants to admit" is that "men and women cannot be friends, it's just a lie..." ...all I can think is What Planet Are These People From? How can you not just chill and shoot the breeze with the opposite sex? I made a bunch of just friends opposite sex friends during undergrad and especially grad school. I say...your social circle is lame if y'all can't do it. 1
joystickd Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Only on the internet do I meet UNMARRIED people who have no opposite sex friends. I don't know how you could get through an undergraduate or graduate degree program without making friends with the opposite sex. That atmosphere is just pretty much gender free open socializing... I think with the guys on the internet most have had a bad experience with female friends that shys them away from it. I myself had a really bad experience and I do have female friends but they are lesbians. I'm a nurse and I work with mostly women. I socialize but its not to a friendship level.
El Brujo Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Perhaps I will give meetup a try this summer. Then you can give OLD the brush and live happily ever after!
BeyondtheClouds Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 The problem with opposite gender friends is that one or the other will push the boundaries. My bf was trying to date someone in addition to me around the time we met. She was only interested in friendship. From a few e-mails and text messages and credit card statements that I read, it transpired that he and she went out and he got stuck with the bar tab on two occasions in the span to 2 weeks (3 figures on the second occassion). My bf (we've been exclusive now for 18 months) admitted that on that evening he also tried to kiss her and she rejected him. and well, that was the end of that. She wanted to go out again and he told her he couldn't plan anything until he made a date with me. the text messages during that time were interesting as she first tried to accuse him of leading her on; then mentioning that she had been out with another guy a couple of times, he seemed to be interested so to avoid leading him on , the two of them should start dating again. and then of course, she told him that he should drop me so that he could date her. This was actually, the second time around that he had tried to date her. and it seems kiss issue sealed the deal, letting him know that no matter she said or what deal she was trying to make with him, that she was not into him for a relationship,but possibly only because he represented a walking credit card to her. Now that we're together, I am glad that he had that defining moment. But I have also told him that I don't want him to be "friends" with her. I don't ever want to deal with that one upmanship or I know your bf better than you do. If my bf ever hoped he had a chance with her, then at that moment that we discussed the future of his "friendship" with her, then he needed to make that decision right at that moment. sorry, but life is too short to be flexible to everyone else's needs.
CarrieT Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 After reading multiple threads like this over the years, I have come to the conclusion that most 20-somethings are not emotionally mature to have opposite gender friends - although I believe I was an exception... Once you get into your late 30s and 40s, it is very easy to do so. In my late 40s now, I still have heterosexual male friends that have been in my life for 20+ and 30+ years with whom I have never had sexual relations or even a consideration therein. It IS possible. 1
joystickd Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 After reading multiple threads like this over the years, I have come to the conclusion that most 20-somethings are not emotionally mature to have opposite gender friends - although I believe I was an exception... Once you get into your late 30s and 40s, it is very easy to do so. In my late 40s now, I still have heterosexual male friends that have been in my life for 20+ and 30+ years with whom I have never had sexual relations or even a consideration therein. It IS possible. I think most know its possible. Hell I'm friends with women, but they are lesbians. I say its not an actual age thing is more of a maturity thing. My friendship with a woman that went sour was with a woman in her late 30s so age is not a factor in this. A user earlier described the main problem with heterosexual man/female platonic friendships and this one person will push the boundaries.
phineas Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Are you the kind of man who is attractive to interesting women? . My post got your attention didn't it. Oh, wait, that would make the answer to your question "no".
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