garycoleman Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 life is great? I think most of the problems people have here are due to those things. Why not find someone who appreciates you instead of chasing after the ones that put you through a lot of grief of getting them to like you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SomewhatExperienced Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Very much agreed. I've had a few what I would call successful relationships and in both cases the girl and I didn't play any games. It was always clear that I was interested in them, they were interested in me, and we took the necessary steps to nurture the relationship to find out what it could become. I've NEVER had a relationship form where there was even an inkling of game playing or ambiguity about how we felt. Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 life is great? I think most of the problems people have here are due to those things. Why not find someone who appreciates you instead of chasing after the ones that put you through a lot of grief of getting them to like you? Oh yeah, ppl who play games remind me of high-school romantic comedies ... too bad they are stuck in that timeframe. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Very much agreed. I've had a few what I would call successful relationships and in both cases the girl and I didn't play any games. It was always clear that I was interested in them, they were interested in me, and we took the necessary steps to nurture the relationship to find out what it could become. I've NEVER had a relationship form where there was even an inkling of game playing or ambiguity about how we felt. pretty much this. Link to post Share on other sites
fishtaco Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Yeah, that's the best. Aside from defensive games for keeping me safe, the offensive games are for one purpose only... gain interest/attraction. If I get that already, there's no need to play these games... mission accomplished. My LTR tend to be with women that didn't require game playing. Doesn't mean it'll work out, but at least they'd be worth trying LTR with. Game playing works, it'll get you dates, and it'll get you sex even. But it won't necessarily get you someone that is compatible for LTR. It's simple... when people don't want to date you, it's actually a good thing, because it's a filter. It's not the perfect filter, because a lot of women that are compatible could be filtered out just because they didn't notice or they were distracted by that hot guy that just came out of prison. But nevertheless, usually it keeps incompatible women out. When you play games, you bypass that filter. So now your own judgement of who you want to go after becomes more of a factor. In theory, if you have the perfect judgement, and you have the perfect game, then you're the winner. But in reality, that's impossible. So you end up hooking up with a lot of women that are not compatible, due to your less-than-perfect judgement. But it'll be fun. That's what I think anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Yeah but they need to know if I'm clingy so they ignore my call on purpose to see what I do. What would you guys do? (assuming she's interested) Link to post Share on other sites
fishtaco Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Yeah but they need to know if I'm clingy so they ignore my call on purpose to see what I do. What would you guys do? (assuming she's interested) Ignore them back and get a date with someone else. If they're interested they'll come back running. With the exception... if they have low self esteem and they chose to express it in a passive/shy/introverted manner, i.e. glass is half empty, then they may slink away. If they are not, then their low self esteem will light a fire under their butts, and they will either come back all guns blazing, or some random guy that happened to be at the right time and the right place will get to be their ego booster. If the guy plays his cards right, he could be in her panties before you finish saying WTF? There are things you can try, but never the perfect game. And blind luck actually plays quite a large role. Hence it's always a good thing to be out and about and being social. You never know when it's your turn to be at the right place and the right time. But the beauty of this is that if the game doesn't work... you are kind of dating someone else already. So it's a win-win situation. Link to post Share on other sites
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