Ruth10uk Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and everything has been good apart from when I mention about us living together. We already spend most of our free time together and me and my cat live at his house for a month or so at a time but he still says he is not ready to live together. He lived on his own for 6 years before we got together, has been hurt in the past and he is very stuck in his ways, likes things done in a certain way etc. But I am concerned that if he is not ready to live together now he never will be. The question is do I just wait and hope that he will be ready to live together some time in the future or do I make the decision to end it because he is never going to be ready.
Lauriebell82 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Don't spend a month or two at a time there. He has no reason to "officially" move in with you if you are already staying there so much. Spend a night or two over there a week, the rest of the time spend at home. He doesn't want/isn't ready for a live in girlfriend, so don't give him one. This is just a theory however, and he may not be ready even after you stop staying there so much. If he continues to say he isn't ready, then it's up to you to decide if you can wait for him to be ready.
FitChick Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Ask him if you got a big house where you each had your own private space as well as communal space if he'd do it.
writergal Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Don't spend a month or two at a time there. He has no reason to "officially" move in with you if you are already staying there so much. Spend a night or two over there a week, the rest of the time spend at home. He doesn't want/isn't ready for a live in girlfriend, so don't give him one. This is just a theory however, and he may not be ready even after you stop staying there so much. If he continues to say he isn't ready, then it's up to you to decide if you can wait for him to be ready. I agree with Lauriebell82. After two years of dating, moving in together seems like the next step. His hesitation isn't a good sign. You already spend all your time together. His fear of commitment needs to be addressed. You should never just wait and hope your boyfriend will change. You're in the relationship too, so you have a say in what happens. Remember that.
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