wwwjd Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 All I know is, the women who go to Target get all dressed up, hair, make-up, etc. You don't see that at Wal-mart, though. The women at Target are looking hot. Married, single. It doesn't matter. Why do they do this if they don't want to be approached? HAHAHAHA! I'VE NOTICED THAT!!! We eat lunch at Target a lot and a lot of the ladies are OVER DOING their shopping presentation experience. What is the deal?
zengirl Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 HAHAHAHA! I'VE NOTICED THAT!!! We eat lunch at Target a lot and a lot of the ladies are OVER DOING their shopping presentation experience. What is the deal? How do you know where they came from before or where they're going after? Most of the time I'm shopping and look nice, it's after some other out and about activities. I would never assume someone who's dressed up in Target dressed up FOR Target. It's easier just to stay dressy all day if you have dressy things to do. At any rate, I've frequently gotten approached in public in my casual clothes. So it's not like me approach because of clothes anyhow.
wwwjd Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 just surf to people of walmart dot com photos to see what we mean
Author TheSingleGuy Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 Most women tell me they would only go out with a guy if there was good conversation. How are you supposed to generate that on a grocery store approach? Is that even possible?
FitChick Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 could you give specific examples of what I guy says approaching you at a GROCERY STORE? I'm genuinely curious Trader Joe's carries wonderful stuff and I always overhear strangers recommending things to each other, "Have you tried their cookie dough spread? It's addictive!" "Those marinated mahi mahi fillets are wicked." "Don't they sell red velvet cupcakes any more?" Say something that is appropriate to the aisle you are shopping in, not "How do I cook purple potatoes?" when you are standing in front of toilet paper.
WildHorses Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 My girlfriend used to give out her number to guys she found attractive at the grocery store. She knew to go after work hours to find these men. She has ended up dating the ones she has met there. She also says to go to upscale grocery stores between the hours of 5-8 PM. There is more going on in Aisle 5 than just cookies and snacks.
sid3 Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 My girlfriend used to give out her number to guys she found attractive at the grocery store. She knew to go after work hours to find these men. She has ended up dating the ones she has met there. She also says to go to upscale grocery stores between the hours of 5-8 PM. There is more going on in Aisle 5 than just cookies and snacks. Yep, she's right. There's always some women to flirt with at the grocery store, here its good from 4-7. But that's nothing compared to going to Starbucks in the morning from 8-11
ForgetMeNots Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 At first I thought this to be a mythic legend about meeting people in grocery stores, until it finally happened to me a couple of weeks ago at. I was in line and a guy and his friend were making talking about the candy that was right behind me while I was texting. I turned around to check out and see who exactly was behind me and one of them gave me a huge smile. I smiled back alittle surprised and flustered,but went back to texting cause Im shy. After that they kept getting closer,even tho the line wasnt moving, and were invading my personal space almost being against my back and I dont like that when Im alone, so I casually moved in a way to make my cart a shield by getting on the inside of it and the moving register ramp to get some space in between them. They were talking more about the chocolates and it seemed as if they were trying to get me to turn around again,and as much as I do like fun conversation- I just realized I had a some lingerie in my cart on the small seat part, visible for all to see,or would be very shortly when placed on the ramp, and died from embarrassment. <XD There was no way I could face them after realizing they would see that. I think maybe under different circumstances, meeting at the grocery/supermarket store could be a great way to meet people and probably isnt as mythical as originally thought. It all starts with engaging small talk.
aeh Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I agree on the topics of conversation usually being something about a product or something. That happens frequently. Alternately, I've had a guy just walk past my aisle, then backtrack and approach me and say, "You are a very, very attractive woman". Um, thanks.
WildHorses Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I agree on the topics of conversation usually being something about a product or something. That happens frequently. Alternately, I've had a guy just walk past my aisle, then backtrack and approach me and say, "You are a very, very attractive woman". Um, thanks. This can happen at gas stations too! I have noticed that being a "hot spot."
wwwjd Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I just realized I had a some lingerie in my cart on the small seat part, visible for all to see,or would be very shortly when placed on the ramp, my witty retort would have been: "Those are great! I'm wearing that exact one right now"
wwwjd Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 A funny thing happened to me on the way to pick up milk at Trader Joe's... I needed milk and was near Trader Joe's so I thought, what the heck. let's see who shops Sunday afternoon. The place was PACKED. Way busier than right after work. Well, I just needed some milk, get in and get out, so I made B-line strait for the cooler at the back. On my way, I noticed a nice girl about 20 feet from the milk section, sort of looking at the cooler in front of her. I got to the milk section and noticed she was coming my way and starting to get into my 2 foot personal space zone. Looked like maybe she wanted the same milk area I was at? She kept coming and I thought she might just run into me. She stopped short, and while I was still removing my milk from the cooler, she shyly said, "excuse me", and leaned down and reached right in front of me. Usually, people will just wait the extra 2 seconds for their turn to get products. She was very polite but didn't really seem to be in any big hurry. My mind raced through a ton of clever quips I could have dropped right then, but then I thought, "naw...... too easy" and went to the checkout. I lost her on the next isle I took, but looked back and saw her looking right at me as I passed the isle she went down. Missed opportunity maybe?
riggs Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 A funny thing happened to me on the way to pick up milk at Trader Joe's... I needed milk and was near Trader Joe's so I thought, what the heck. let's see who shops Sunday afternoon. The place was PACKED. Way busier than right after work. Well, I just needed some milk, get in and get out, so I made B-line strait for the cooler at the back. On my way, I noticed a nice girl about 20 feet from the milk section, sort of looking at the cooler in front of her. I got to the milk section and noticed she was coming my way and starting to get into my 2 foot personal space zone. Looked like maybe she wanted the same milk area I was at? She kept coming and I thought she might just run into me. She stopped short, and while I was still removing my milk from the cooler, she shyly said, "excuse me", and leaned down and reached right in front of me. Usually, people will just wait the extra 2 seconds for their turn to get products. She was very polite but didn't really seem to be in any big hurry. My mind raced through a ton of clever quips I could have dropped right then, but then I thought, "naw...... too easy" and went to the checkout. I lost her on the next isle I took, but looked back and saw her looking right at me as I passed the isle she went down. Missed opportunity maybe? Missed opportunity. At the very least you could have built up your tolerance for rejection.
wwwjd Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Missed opportunity. At the very least you could have built up your tolerance for rejection. yeah, maybe. I'm a talker but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. Seemed so "cliche"!!
riggs Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 yeah, maybe. I'm a talker but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. Seemed so "cliche"!! You could have said something along the lines of...."there are way to many milk choices in this aisle...." Only trying to help.
FitChick Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 You could have said something along the lines of...."there are way to many milk choices in this aisle...." Or "That strawberry kefir is sooooo good. Have you tried it?" Maybe they don't sell kefir in Iowa. Maybe everything is made from corn.
snug.bunny Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Women I meet in real life always tell me they get hit on all the time. When I ask them where this happens, the grocery store always comes up. Always. What I'd like to know is, when these guys hit on you, are they getting your number or leaving theirs? Here's my question for the ladies who get hit on in grocery stores: Over the last 12 months, how many times has a phone number been exchanged? Or, if you are not single, how many times has it been offered or asked? Zero.
wwwjd Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 so, "my glands seek you" might not be a good opener?
Imajerk17 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Cripes, I hit on women at the grocery store every chance I get. In the smaller town I'm in they all have boyfriends (if they don't already have a ring on the 4th finger of their left hand that is) but I'm still going to keep doing it. If a woman is smiling at you--hell even if she isn't, ask her what she is getting. Talk to her like you already know her. Go for it!
FitChick Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Saying ..."I must say, I like your bag". If you mean her handbag, that is too gay. If you mean her bring-your-own shopping bag, I'd add "Where did you get it?" unless it says quite clearly the name of the store.
wwwjd Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 ooh! How about this one... "Hey, there's a guy over in isle 6 that is too shy to talk to you, so he sent me over to ask for your number..." or "I hate to intrude, but I am looking for a fish that will not smell up my Ferarri on the way home to cook up my normal Tuesday five course champagne and caviar dinner, before the polo match in my backyard... any recommendations? I use my culinary skills on Tuesdays because I let the cook and butler have the night off, and it is the only night I am not on call as an emergency neuro surgeon." or "I would LOVE to cook for you. Dinner or breakfast?" or "Hello.... I'm George Mcfly... I'm your DESTINY!" or "Excuse me, are THOSE real?? I mean they are so round and perfect and usually lemons are kind of oblong. Those must be those fake plastic lemon bottles..."
Imajerk17 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 (edited) ooh! How about this one... "Hey, there's a guy over in isle 6 that is too shy to talk to you, so he sent me over to ask for your number..." or "I hate to intrude, but I am looking for a fish that will not smell up my Ferarri on the way home to cook up my normal Tuesday five course champagne and caviar dinner, before the polo match in my backyard... any recommendations? I use my culinary skills on Tuesdays because I let the cook and butler have the night off, and it is the only night I am not on call as an emergency neuro surgeon." or "I would LOVE to cook for you. Dinner or breakfast?" or "Hello.... I'm George Mcfly... I'm your DESTINY!" or "Excuse me, are THOSE real?? I mean they are so round and perfect and usually lemons are kind of oblong. Those must be those fake plastic lemon bottles..." Maybe you're just joking here. That said: No. No lines. Especially not those lines. They are way too long and/or cheesy. You'll never get them out without coming across as scripted. That's terrible. Tell her that you saw her and had to meet her, or make some comment related to the environment/her. Edited April 23, 2012 by Imajerk17
GravityMan Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Sorry, but I tend to believe that most guys should not approach women at the grocery store (or any other public establishment). Only those men who are confident and have adept social skills and etiquette should even bother with such approaches...they're the only ones who are capable of pulling it off successfully without coming off as creepy and/or making utter fools of themselves. As for the rest? Just buy your groceries and get out of the store, and stick to safer, lower risk avenues such as your social circles when it comes to opportunites to meet women.
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