TheSingleGuy Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Women I meet in real life always tell me they get hit on all the time. When I ask them where this happens, the grocery store always comes up. Always. What I'd like to know is, when these guys hit on you, are they getting your number or leaving theirs? Here's my question for the ladies who get hit on in grocery stores: Over the last 12 months, how many times has a phone number been exchanged? Or, if you are not single, how many times has it been offered or asked?
Ruby Slippers Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 They always ask for my number. Even if he offered his number, I would also give him mine and wait for him to contact me. I'm old school. Most of the grocery store approaches are not serious - they just want to flirt and give me a compliment, which is cool. I had one serious, assertive approach in the cookie aisle that turned into a fun 6-month casual relationship.
wwwjd Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I like to linger around the hot pepper and spices isle, smiling wryly and making kissy lips at girls when they look at me. Ladies, does that work on ya? Hasn't yet that I know of, but I'll keep trying. 1
FitChick Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Trader Joe's is the place if you want to meet more upscale types than the local supermarket. Same with Whole Foods. You could also try Fresh & Easy -- the name alone speaks volumes! Unfortunately, the guys who flirt with me are much too young so I am generally mildly amused. Perhaps they are just practicing their pickup technique, knowing nothing will come of it. I would never give my phone number to a stranger. I'd ask him if he was on a dating website and I'd look him up there.
thatone Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 (edited) I would never give my phone number to a stranger. I'd ask him if he was on a dating website and I'd look him up there. from a man's perspective, by virtue of having face to face ability i don't need dating websites. furthermore i would think that anyone scared to give out a cell number is probably a flake, and as such just give up at that point. at the very least, in your shoes i would say something to the effect of "i'm about to change numbers, how about an email" or some such. bottom line is confidence in women is just as attractive in women as it is in men, and someone who in the first few minutes of conversation points out that they're scared to talk to the person they're already talking to just told me that they have none. Edited April 16, 2012 by thatone
wwwjd Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 YES! We have a Trader Joes, and a Whole Foods is opening very soon. yeah, I don't use dating sites either, so I guess there is a whole cache of women now on the PLUGGED IN yet not really available list. Shame. Oh well, their loss. 2
thatone Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 yeah, I don't use dating sites either, so I guess there is a whole cache of women now on the PLUGGED IN yet not really available list. nothing says 'interest' like "here, message me on a dating site, i'll compare you to 50 other retards who keep sending me penis pics" 3
wwwjd Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 hahahahaha yeah! THAT's how I want to be perceived We end up as face to face human beings together, we can start that way too. It's worked fine like that for centuries. All this tech makes us lazy and lacking. And my CAREER is the tech field!!! 1
Ruby Slippers Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 hahahahaha yeah! THAT's how I want to be perceived We end up as face to face human beings together, we can start that way too. It's worked fine like that for centuries. All this tech makes us lazy and lacking. And my CAREER is the tech field!!! I totally agree. I would vastly prefer to meet a guy the old-fashioned way, randomly out and about, than online - for so many reasons, not the least of which is that it's much more romantic and magical to me. Don't worry about all the women who aren't open to meeting spontaneously. Keep looking for the ones who are single and ready to mingle, like me. We're worth it 1
Woggle Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 No way would I ever want to meet anybody at my local grocery store. If they didn't offer great sales I would never step foot inside the place.
wwwjd Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I totally agree. I would vastly prefer to meet a guy the old-fashioned way, randomly out and about, than online - for so many reasons, not the least of which is that it's much more romantic and magical to me. Don't worry about all the women who aren't open to meeting spontaneously. Keep looking for the ones who are single and ready to mingle, like me. We're worth it I think you just gave me a million dollar "dating system" idea that I will not discuss here! You are brilliant and get 20% if it works into some sort of success. 1
irc333 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Thing is, I don't know if this has to do with geography or location. It seems women around these parts are not open to being approached, or if you do approach them...they have this "Why is this guy, I don't even know, talking to me?" BE it a bookstore or grocery store. Around here, people feel the have to KNOW you for you to approach them. Also, typically either their boyfriend or husband is around, this is an area where women have wedding rings even at legal drinking age. (not that I'm approachign women that age, but it was kind of weird, when I was early 20's at a local community college, where just about every single woman had an engagement ring on or married young. I totally agree. I would vastly prefer to meet a guy the old-fashioned way, randomly out and about, than online - for so many reasons, not the least of which is that it's much more romantic and magical to me. Don't worry about all the women who aren't open to meeting spontaneously. Keep looking for the ones who are single and ready to mingle, like me. We're worth it
veggirl Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I have never been hit on at the grocery store. Then again, I go on Monday mornings and keep my head kidna down with a small "FML" look on my face. That keeps away strangers I would feel awkward with some dude chatting me up at the apple pile.
wwwjd Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I'll admit, I've never approached anyone at the grocery place. Usually like to get in and out and get back to living. I've heard it happens and have seen some girls with no rings that looked WAY TOO DOLLED UP to just shop, and they were looking around more than shopping.... or maybe I just THOUGHT they were. Anymore, seems women don't just sit there and drink coffee and look about, they are glued to a laptop or a smart phone with no hope of looking like they want to be approached. But I plan to do some stealth recon at Trader JOes and Whole foods now!!! hahahaha
Ruby Slippers Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Thing is, I don't know if this has to do with geography or location. It seems women around these parts are not open to being approached, or if you do approach them...they have this "Why is this guy, I don't even know, talking to me?" BE it a bookstore or grocery store. Well, I'm sure there are regional differences. I live in the big city of Chicago, where there are tons of singles and you cross paths with intriguing people all day long. But if I were a guy, wherever I lived, I would see it as my challenge to melt that icy exterior and get the ladies smiling, laughing, and digging me. The modern world is in some ways a disaster, and many of us (including myself) have become too isolated and closed off. The best way to affect this is to interact with people and get them smiling. I have a new attitude lately, and I make it my goal to get people smiling and having a little fun wherever I go. No surprise, they eat it up with a spoon - men and women! Also, typically either their boyfriend or husband is around, this is an area where women have wedding rings even at legal drinking age. (not that I'm approachign women that age, but it was kind of weird, when I was early 20's at a local community college, where just about every single woman had an engagement ring on or married young. Yeah, that sucks. I suggest visiting some other places if you can
thatone Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I totally agree. I would vastly prefer to meet a guy the old-fashioned way, randomly out and about, than online - for so many reasons, not the least of which is that it's much more romantic and magical to me. Don't worry about all the women who aren't open to meeting spontaneously. Keep looking for the ones who are single and ready to mingle, like me. We're worth it and just as you like meeting men that way, men like approaching women that way. it's an ego boost to chat up a random stranger and get a phone number. don't worry about men worrying . the dating sites are doing us a favor by separating the weirdos from public life. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Well, I know of some great people who have found love through online dating, and I have no judgment about it. But yeah, birds of a feather do tend to flock together. I'm interested in meeting men out in the world, so when I'm out, I'm relaxed, make eye contact with men, smile at them. Even if it doesn't go anywhere, flirting is fun.
riggs Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Is it safe to assume most women shopping alone in groceries are single? I've always believed the grocery would be a great way to meet women. It's also a perfect way to build your rejection tolerance.
FitChick Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 from a man's perspective, by virtue of having face to face ability i don't need dating websites. furthermore i would think that anyone scared to give out a cell number is probably a flake, and as such just give up at that point. at the very least, in your shoes i would say something to the effect of "i'm about to change numbers, how about an email" or some such. bottom line is confidence in women is just as attractive in women as it is in men, and someone who in the first few minutes of conversation points out that they're scared to talk to the person they're already talking to just told me that they have none. Maybe. Or perhaps she has been stalked in the past. Giving them an email separate from my regular one would be an alternative.
EasyHeart Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 The best time to go is right after work. The grocery store near where I live is swarming with attractive women around 5:00 pm. I'd say about 80% of the people in the store are younger women. It makes me sad that I have a GF.
FitChick Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Some women like to shop. They go on weekends, they go during their lunch hour. Not really looking for anything in particular, just wandering around. It's a hobby. If they spot something they like, it's down to luck. They spend many hours doing this. Shopping that way is my idea of hell. I'd rather shop online because I know what I want. It saves me time, aggravation and gas money. My dating life is the same. I know what I want and I go looking for it online. To each their own.
thatone Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Maybe. Or perhaps she has been stalked in the past. Giving them an email separate from my regular one would be an alternative. assuming every man is a stalker is not the solution. 1
El Brujo Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Women I meet in real life always tell me they get hit on all the time. When I ask them where this happens, the grocery store always comes up. Always. Where I live, the women in the grocery stores are short, fat, brown, older, and they don't speak English.
riggs Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Where I live, the women in the grocery stores are short, fat, brown, older, and they don't speak English. Hey, I might have a chance! 2
wwwjd Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Is it safe to assume most women shopping alone in groceries are single? I've always believed the grocery would be a great way to meet women. It's also a perfect way to build your rejection tolerance. I don't think that is safe to assume. Look for a ring on the left hand first. Ya know... the Amish may be on to something with that whole "have beard, am taken" thing. WAY more easier to spot.
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