Insegura Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 A week ago I found out that my husband was dating a co-worker, and they had sex, they were sending emails with the things they wanted to do in bed, I saw all those emails, they made dates outside of work and worst of all a month ago I discovered phone calls and texts from her and confront him, but he deny everything, and said that I was crazy, jealous, and that our marriage was going to finish because of me, that everything is my fault, he left home that night, but then he text me that he want this to work that we should try to this out, and I should get help for my jealousy, I said yes, but I didn't knew that they were already going out. After that fight I started to go with the therapist to help me with the suppose problems that I got, he never had a problem, well at least that what he said, and on the other side of the coin he was still going out with her, and just keep acting like nothing happen, when I find out about everything it was happening between both of them I told him to get out of the house, and he left. Now he is crying for forgiveness, he keep saying that he will never do it again, that he realize that he love me more than anything, I really do not know what to do, we have a 3 year old daughter and she realizes everything because now she has to go and stays with his father for a few hours, and she doesn't see his dad at home and gets sad and say I miss my daddy. I really don't know what to do, its just hurting so much
Philosoraptor Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I would demand no less than couples therapy and individual therapy for him. He was cheating on you yet did everything he could to make you feel bad and take the blame off of himself.
Author Insegura Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 He said he is willing to do that but right now he doesn't have the time to do it, and more now he acts like nothing happen and want everything to be like it was
Philosoraptor Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 He said he is willing to do that but right now he doesn't have the time to do it, and more now he acts like nothing happen and want everything to be like it was If he wants it to work he will make time. I'd accept nothing less. 3
wow04 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 He said he is willing to do that but right now he doesn't have the time to do it, and more now he acts like nothing happen and want everything to be like it was It can't be like it was. If he isn't willing to make time for counseling then he isn't willing to change.
luvkitties Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 He said he is willing to do that but right now he doesn't have the time to do it, and more now he acts like nothing happen and want everything to be like it was I think he is feeding you a line of crap. He "doesn't have time" to work on your relationship, but he has somehow found time to have an affair. I would start setting up some boundaries and expectations; if he doesn't follow through, you need to decide if this is how you and your daughter want to live.
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