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[ExtremeMeow]

Hi,

Ive been with my girlfriend for around 2 1/2 years.

All was going well , and has been but something dramatic has changed and its getting the better of me.

 

Our first year was pretty good. Sex was frequent , fun and arguments were not so frequent and pressure to do things i didnt want to do was not there..

 

I had been on holiday with her for 1 week and it went pretty well!.

 

after about 1 and a half years into our relationship , we went on holiday for 2 weeks. It was awful , she kept having a go at me for little things . She was falling asleep really early when people were having a great time in the bar below us , and i ended up just staying up on my own till like 1am in the darkness.

 

She changes her jobs often because of the people and she moved out for university then quit about a month later. She just recently moved out again and is thinking of moving back in with her mother already.

 

The problem im having is , she is always sad and upset and im always the one having to cheer her up.

I think its right i should cheer her up.... but everyday? for like 4 months now?

Its emotionally knackering!.

She's putting a little weight on.

She's complaining about my sports (I play 3 times a week).

I cant go out with friends because i have to take her and my friends get a little uneasy about a girlfriend on a 'lads' night.

Shes always too tired for sex and often puts it off.

Shes always talking about having a baby and wanting me to move in with her.

 

Im so confused what to do. This is the longest relationship ive had ; im only 19 but im not completely sure i still love her... or i just say 'i love you' because i know it cheers her up?

 

Ive begun to get very depressed and drink alcohol a lot more often. Im not blaming her but .... i cant remember feeling happy?

 

Ive had an awful football season aswell which has really knocked me down to.

 

 

HELP!

[HollyBolly]

You sound like a woman's worst nightmare! What are you complaining about?

 

The problem im having is , she is always sad and upset and im always the one having to cheer her up.

I think its right i should cheer her up.... but everyday? for like 4 months now?

Its emotionally knackering!.

She's putting a little weight on.

She's complaining about my sports (I play 3 times a week).

I cant go out with friends because i have to take her and my friends get a little uneasy about a girlfriend on a 'lads' night.

Shes always too tired for sex and often puts it off.

Shes always talking about having a baby and wanting me to move in with her.

 

She is putting a little weight on. That IS dash pitiful, isn't it?

 

Ive had an awful football season aswell which has really knocked me down to.

 

Now if that footie doesn't just mean everything to us, eh? I mean, ALL women should understand why they are treated like s**t when their lads' team doesn't win!

 

I have ONE thing to say to you. F**K YOU, arsehole!

[LasVegasGuy]

You sound like a woman's worst nightmare! What are you complaining about?

 

 

 

She is putting a little weight on. That IS dash pitiful, isn't it?

 

 

 

Now if that footie doesn't just mean everything to us, eh? I mean, ALL women should understand why they are treated like s**t when their lads' team doesn't win!

 

I have ONE thing to say to you. F**K YOU, arsehole!

 

Holly chill out, it would seem that you are taking out your frustrations on your ex on the thread starter. Does he remind you of your ex?

[EgoJoe]

Whatever you decide to do, own your decision and be honest.

 

Also, look up the word, "objectivity" and try to find it in your situation.

[BewitchedandBothered]

Hi,

Ive been with my girlfriend for around 2 1/2 years.

All was going well , and has been but something dramatic has changed and its getting the better of me.

 

Our first year was pretty good. Sex was frequent , fun and arguments were not so frequent and pressure to do things i didnt want to do was not there..

 

I had been on holiday with her for 1 week and it went pretty well!.

 

after about 1 and a half years into our relationship , we went on holiday for 2 weeks. It was awful , she kept having a go at me for little things . She was falling asleep really early when people were having a great time in the bar below us , and i ended up just staying up on my own till like 1am in the darkness.

 

She changes her jobs often because of the people and she moved out for university then quit about a month later. She just recently moved out again and is thinking of moving back in with her mother already.

 

The problem im having is , she is always sad and upset and im always the one having to cheer her up.

I think its right i should cheer her up.... but everyday? for like 4 months now?

Its emotionally knackering!.

She's putting a little weight on.

She's complaining about my sports (I play 3 times a week).

I cant go out with friends because i have to take her and my friends get a little uneasy about a girlfriend on a 'lads' night.

Shes always too tired for sex and often puts it off.

Shes always talking about having a baby and wanting me to move in with her.

 

Im so confused what to do. This is the longest relationship ive had ; im only 19 but im not completely sure i still love her... or i just say 'i love you' because i know it cheers her up?

 

Ive begun to get very depressed and drink alcohol a lot more often. Im not blaming her but .... i cant remember feeling happy?

 

Ive had an awful football season aswell which has really knocked me down to.

 

 

HELP!

 

You say you are only 19, no? How old is she? She seems to feel like she wants more in life and you aren't ready to give that. And I don't blame you, you are only 19. You are an athlete; lay off the drink or you will have other crappy seasons;) Gotta take care of the bod. But i digress, whatever you do, do NOT say "I love you" just to appease someone. Stay true to your feelings and if it's not love, that so be it. Your feelings are your feelings---just be up front with her.

 

Sounds like she's going through a depression and it's too much for you to handle right now. And regarding weight gain; she is a lady and ladies gain weight; that whole hormonal thing messes with us from time to time;) Focus more on talking with her. Communicate about what you are feeling and you have to find out everything she's feeling, and then go from there.