I want to get back but BF has another girl in his life?

[nhs14324]

I had left my bf after a 4 years relationship coz my family had pressurized me against marrying him, he isn't from my religion. He was also not financially well settled i loved him and wanted to marry him but i gave into these pressures and left him. I tried to search guys in my community for a year but that was unwillingly and all the time i was in constant touch with him in that 1 year and v planned to elope once but i didn't gather the courage. I was weak and didn't have the courage to stand up for my love. I was also thinking abt money an religion. Now when i have the chance of marrying a well settled guy from my religion i realized that no matter how much money i get or wat religion i follow i cant be happy without my BF so i decided to take a firm decision and get married to him. But when i approached him he wasn't interested in me and he said v were in touch just as friends, upon further probing he told he that he has another girl in his life, he said he doesn't love her but they r having fun.

For the 4 years v were together he always noted to have sex with me but he never forced me i told him i wil wait til v get married, this girl it seems had sex with him in 2 months. he said it too late for me to come back and that everything is messed up now.

I am lost i don't know what to do . i I told him i can still accept him with the fact that he slept with some other girl coz that has happened at a time when i dumped him. but i am very scared and hurt. i know its wrong to expect that he will wait till i get married an all but i don't know what to do now. I love him and want to spend my life with him but he said he is with some else.

 

i am shattered i dont know what to do. he is the love of my life...i agree i made a mistake

 

well i begged him to take me back but he said its way to late I was angry with my family coz they pressurized me but den i again feel that i had the option of running away with him and not listinening to my family and my family wanted only my good so i cant blame anyone but myself. now what can i do. i am also scared that even if he comes back to me i wont forget that he slept with some one even though it was when i dumped him,,,in fact i feel yuck now only imagining him with some1 else

 

One more thing is that just in feb he asked me to have sex with him and i told him to wait which means he was not wid dat girl until feb , i am shocked that how can he get another girl and also sleep with her in 1 month.

I am 29 and he is 30, we meet 5 years ago. i have a strong feeling that we belong to each other and that this is not how its meant to end v are meant to be together

 

he said he is blank and doesn't know what to do but den also told me that he is with some one else now. this girl works with him so they are bound to meet and they also meet on work offs and go out. we hardly meet in fact ours was more like a long distance relationship even though we stayed in the same city...i am not saying i am not wrong i hurt him a lot by saying nasty things i hurt him and his ego but i want him back wat can i do now:(

[CarrieT]

he said its way to late

 

he also told me that he is with some one else now.

 

I would say it is time to move on... It hurts, but you made the decision you made and now have to live with it.