truth_seeker Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I don't know if this girl is into me or just messing with me. The signals are mixed and could use some opinions on this. Signs of Interest: Smiles at me, face turns red but runs awayEmailed me that she wants to go out and to keep in touchMade it a point to pop up in places I would be and let people I know that she was there.Signs of non-interest: Ignores my Facebook messagesHasn't accepted my friend request but has added other people and updates her page
Author truth_seeker Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 Ask her out,problem solved. I haven't seen her in a long time. Facebook is my only option right now.
sid3 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Well then it may be even longer before you do see her again, if ever. I'd move along. But that's just me. 1
Author truth_seeker Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 Well then it may be even longer before you do see her again, if ever. I'd move along. But that's just me. Yea, I'm moving on. I was just wondering the ignoring on Facebook was an indirect way of her hoping I would go away. It got confusing when she would try to run into me in places. I wasn't sure if the ignoring over Facebook wasn't intentional. I'm not huge on Facebook so I have no idea and was asking.
sid3 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Yea, I'm moving on. I was just wondering the ignoring on Facebook was an indirect way of her hoping I would go away. It got confusing when she would try to run into me in places. I wasn't sure if the ignoring over Facebook wasn't intentional. I'm not huge on Facebook so I have no idea and was asking. Are you sure she was really trying to run into you? I've never had a girl that could track me down and find me when she was interested. Ignoring and interested seldom work well together in dating.
olivec Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I don't know if this girl is into me or just messing with me. The signals are mixed and could use some opinions on this. Signs of Interest: Smiles at me, face turns red but runs awayEmailed me that she wants to go out and to keep in touchMade it a point to pop up in places I would be and let people I know that she was there.Signs of non-interest: Ignores my Facebook messagesHasn't accepted my friend request but has added other people and updates her page Your worrying wayy too much about her number 1. You ask her out once if she makes excuses or doesn't get back to you say no later than a week then you delete the number period and move on. If a girl is interested she will bend over backwards to hangout with you. If shes nonchalant and not really clear on when your gunna hangout even after you suggested it then its never gunna happen. Sorry but thats reality.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 Are you sure she was really trying to run into you? I've never had a girl that could track me down and find me when she was interested. Ignoring and interested seldom work well together in dating. She was popping into the only place where she could find me. She spoke to my friend, the only person there who knows the both of us, and after talking to him would leave. She wouldn't stay and hang out. My friend has a gf and she knows that. I did ask him if he felt she was into him. He said no from how the conversation went. He said she was annoying and acted like a teenage girl.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 Your worrying wayy too much about her number 1. You ask her out once if she makes excuses or doesn't get back to you say no later than a week then you delete the number period and move on. If a girl is interested she will bend over backwards to hangout with you. If shes nonchalant and not really clear on when your gunna hangout even after you suggested it then its never gunna happen. Sorry but thats reality. I agree. I think she was interested, more so curious, but flaked. I do think you are right but sometimes a girl might not make it clear to not seem desperate. They test the guy to see if the guy will keep after them. Some do this for the attention, others to see how interested the guy really is into them.
olivec Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I agree. I think she was interested, more so curious, but flaked. I do think you are right but sometimes a girl might not make it clear to not seem desperate. They test the guy to see if the guy will keep after them. Some do this for the attention, others to see how interested the guy really is into them. You don't want a girl like that brotha trust me she'll play games with you and you'll get frustrated real quickly.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 You don't want a girl like that brotha trust me she'll play games with you and you'll get frustrated real quickly. You're right man. It sucks though as I was hoping she was a good one. Good ones are hard to come by today.
NXS Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 What's the timeline here? It could be that you missed the opportunity by being too hesitant.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 (edited) What's the timeline here? It could be that you missed the opportunity by being too hesitant. It was the beginning of the year when we connected and exchanged emails on OK Cupid. She got rid of her OKC profile then two months ago she came to my spot. Then started the chain of I send her a facebook message she goes to my spot, back and forth which was so ridiculous. This lasted up until a couple of weeks ago. It really felt like she wasn't reading my messages and was trying to bump into me but do it by trying not to be obvious. On her Facebook she has about 900 friends on there so I thought maybe my messages were buried or she doesn't check them. Edited April 18, 2012 by truth_seeker
NXS Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 It was the beginning of the year when we connected and exchanged emails on OK Cupid. She got rid of her OKC profile then two months ago she came to my spot. Then started the chain of I send her a facebook message she goes to my spot, back and forth which was so ridiculous. This lasted up until a couple of weeks ago. It really felt like she wasn't reading my messages and was trying to bump into me but do it by trying not to be obvious. On her Facebook she has about 900 friends on there so I thought maybe my messages were buried or she doesn't check them. Yeah your timings off, you should've moved quicker and taken the opportunities when they were staring you in the face. Unfortunately it may be too late now.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 Yes. I screwed up when I had my chance in person. I tried to make up for it when I found her on OK Cupid, and thought I got a second chance to make it right. This crazy chain of events the last month or so has confused me to no end. You think this could possibly be a mix up? She doesn't read her messages and I'm not there when she shows up?
NXS Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Yes. I screwed up when I had my chance in person. I tried to make up for it when I found her on OK Cupid, and thought I got a second chance to make it right. This crazy chain of events the last month or so has confused me to no end. You think this could possibly be a mix up? She doesn't read her messages and I'm not there when she shows up? Not talking to her when she's there in front of you and then trying to send her messages on FB/OKC or whatever just looks lame.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 Not talking to her when she's there in front of you and then trying to send her messages on FB/OKC or whatever just looks lame. Yea, I know this. I'm not proud of it either. It was out of the blue when I saw her in person. I thought I would see her again. When I found out from a friend she moved, that's when I tried Facebook. It was my only option. If I had known that time would be the last I would have ever seen her in person I would have definitely asked her out.
NXS Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Yea, I know this. I'm not proud of it either. It was out of the blue when I saw her in person. I thought I would see her again. When I found out from a friend she moved, that's when I tried Facebook. It was my only option. If I had known that time would be the last I would have ever seen her in person I would have definitely asked her out. Don't beat yourself up over it, just put it down to experience.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 Don't beat yourself up over it, just put it down to experience. Thanks. Tough one to swallow as I liked her a lot.
olivec Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Thanks. Tough one to swallow as I liked her a lot. You'll be fine bro. Just don"t take it personally and move on. you got plenty of time to meet new people. When your not worried about a woman thats how you get one. Its always the way i find for alot of people.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 You'll be fine bro. Just don"t take it personally and move on. you got plenty of time to meet new people. When your not worried about a woman thats how you get one. Its always the way i find for alot of people. Thanks for the encouragement. It's funny, a part of me feels like there was a mix up. I might have gone overboard with the Facebook, but many of my friends told me using Facebook was fine. Then there's another part of me that thinks she was playing games.
Emilia Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Thanks for the encouragement. It's funny, a part of me feels like there was a mix up. I might have gone overboard with the Facebook, but many of my friends told me using Facebook was fine. Then there's another part of me that thinks she was playing games. From what I have seen, the more 'friends' people have on facebook, the more flaky they come across with correspondence. (generalisation but this is what I have seen so far). I don't know whether messages just get buried with all the other c**p they receive or whether generally they just use it for validation. I'm pretty selective when it comes to befriending people and always reply to everything. Sort of only expect the same from those who use fb in a similar way.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 From what I have seen, the more 'friends' people have on facebook, the more flaky they come across with correspondence. (generalisation but this is what I have seen so far). I don't know whether messages just get buried with all the other c**p they receive or whether generally they just use it for validation. I'm pretty selective when it comes to befriending people and always reply to everything. Sort of only expect the same from those who use fb in a similar way. I don't know what's worse: her not reading my messages, unknowingly overlooking them, or she is reading my messages and choosing to ignore them. Not accepting my friend request was the nail in the coffin.
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