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Women have changed considerably in the last 10-20 years. An older man's perspective

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sid3 Established Member

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Back in the days a woman can go to a thrift shop and look hot. Nowadays they feel they have to but absurdly expensive clothes and make themselves look like living barbie dolls in order to be attractive.

 

Well I for one do not miss the big hair. Or acid washed jeans, members only jackets and parachute pants. Not that I had any of those things, just saying.

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Back in the days a woman can go to a thrift shop and look hot. Nowadays they feel they have to but absurdly expensive clothes and make themselves look like living barbie dolls in order to be attractive.

 

Woggle, I never shopped anywhere but the thrift shop back then. And my dad's closet :laugh:

 

No make up, either. And no hair spray. The natural look really was in.

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xxoo Established Member

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Well I for one do not miss the big hair. Or acid washed jeans, members only jackets and parachute pants. Not that I had any of those things, just saying.

 

Wrong decade. That was 80s!

 

I remember some of that in the early 90s, but those folks were behind the times :p

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Wrong decade. That was 80s!

 

I remember some of that in the early 90s, but those folks were behind the times :p

 

Behind the times, no they just didn't want to let go. Once in awhile I spot one of them. Endangered but not quite extinct.:laugh:

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Woggle Established Member

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The 80s were cool too. At least people actually had some fun with the crazy hair and makeup and the music was awesome too. Every time I hear one of those new wave songs I get a smile on my face.

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Ruby Slippers Established Member

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Woggle, I never shopped anywhere but the thrift shop back then. And my dad's closet :laugh:

 

No make up, either. And no hair spray. The natural look really was in.

My dad had this AWESOME shirt from the 70s I used to wear ALL the time, with a skirt and combat boots. When he saw me in it, he would rhapsodize about how he used to go disco dancing in that shirt. lmao

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xxoo Established Member

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My dad had this AWESOME shirt from the 70s I used to wear ALL the time, with a skirt and combat boots. When he saw me in it, he would rhapsodize about how he used to go disco dancing in that shirt. lmao

 

Ah, skirt and combat boots. I loved that look.

 

I'm going to buy a pair of docs and bring it back. Who's with me???

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Pierre Established Member

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Hysterical! :lmao:

 

Let's not forget the platform boots that go with the leisure suit, chunky gold (fake) rolex and big medallion buried in the mound of chest hair since his shirt's open to his big-ass belt buckle!

 

Fashion in the 1970s could be awful. However; many men nowadays wear more jewelry or bling

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somedude81 Established Member

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Damn, sounds like things were slightly easier those days.

 

Right now it seems that the only guys who can actually get girls nowadays are the players and each one has his little harem.

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Ya know what attracts me to a girl?

 

When she LOOKS at me, smiles, and does NOT have her head buried in a smartphone, crackberry, etc.

 

Shut the darn things off and enjoy life OUTSIDE that box!

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Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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Can you compare women in 2012 to 10 yrs? 20 yrs ago? How have they changed since y'all were younger

 

It's true. I am a woman, and I most definitely have changed over the last 10 - 20 years. Yep. Haven't we all?

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That is how I think all PUA guys will end up washed up and alone because they keep trying for the BBD. Guys have changed too haven't they? They have become sissy little boys that are too scared to come up to a girl. This is why us girls have had to resort to online dating, because just going out does not = meeting guys anymore.

 

Maybe guys would approach girls if they appeared even remotely approachable. When I (rarely) go out, the girls appear aloof or in their own little worlds, usually already with their girl friends or a guy or something.

 

I don't want to be shooting in the dark. Give me a sign.. ANY sort of encouraging body language. Hell, just a LOOK in the eyes and the flash of A smile if you think I'm handsome, I'll return the favor as I walk over to you. A girl can work the muscles in her lower face for just a moment, can't she?

 

Is smiling an aggressive, masculine thing now? I thought it could be flirty.. I'd sure as hell have no problem going up to a girl and just saying hi or whatever to see where it goes, but I'm not going to bother if she doesn't appear to give two ****s and appears to want to be left alone.

 

If she makes me feel welcomed to do so, I'll go for it, but just as a person can come off as nervous and awkward in their non-verbal demeanor, a girl can appear to be unwelcome towards advances.

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thatone Established Member

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Me in 10th grade. :laugh:

 

It's true, ya gotta look a little shinier now to get the boys' attention. I never asked for this. But time marches on!

 

Met my current gf at a Tool concert. Everyone there was early to mid 30s, was like a reunion, lol.

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The early 90s were awesome. A girl could look hot in ripped jeans and a flannel shirt, with combat boots :lmao: I'm hoping for that style to come back when my kids are dating.

 

I was not aware the PUA was around in the 90s. Happy to have bypassed that entirely.

 

 

A girl in ripped jeans and a flannel shirt with combat boots still looks ****ing hot (30yr old here), men still like the 'little flash' looks especially if it's on a girl that's honest with her boobs and doesn't have a pushup that screams 'DD'. :)

 

As for PUA, it was around since the early '80s through Ross Jeffries.

 

OP, has it actually occured to you that you are now older and that less women overall like having an older man (over 15yrs difference).

Forget that PUA bull**** that Mystery is spouting, clubs are only for 25 and below. The only good stuff in PUA is the one you are not looking at.

Just go up to a girl on the street you like (who doesn't wear a wedding ring), and ask her out.

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Radu Established Member

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Haven't read this thread but I'm guessing this is what the OP is talking about?

http://www.jumpoverthere.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/women.jpg

 

I must be a freak, i always preferred the one on the left ... even when i was pre-HS.

 

OP is right about Smartphones.

It's gotten to the point where i will end a date early if she starts using it and it is not a life-threatening emergency.

 

I can understand where it comes from, it's both a ****test and a desire of women to socialize through a new technology but still ... no respect shown.

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I must be a freak, i always preferred the one on the left ... even when i was pre-HS.

 

OP is right about Smartphones.

It's gotten to the point where i will end a date early if she starts using it and it is not a life-threatening emergency.

 

I can understand where it comes from, it's both a ****test and a desire of women to socialize through a new technology but still ... no respect shown.

 

The one on the left looks alot more classy to me as well.

Radu Established Member

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And it's even MORE hysterical to watch!

 

A couple years ago, an old boyfriend and I had stopped for a drink at a place that was predominantly a younger crowd - it was a friend's birthday and a small group of folks were there having drinks.

 

We hung out for a bit and noticed these two guys - both bald or balding (and what remained was grey) and both wearing jeans and informal lesiure jackets (not polyester, though! lol) These two guys were desperately trying to glom onto two 20-somethings sitting at the bar. You could see these two "studs" were irritating the young ladies because they were showing these two clowns VERY little courtesy, interest or patience when these guys would try to involve them in a conversation. I was actually embarrassed for both of them watching them being treated with such disdain, but they kept right on trying, anyway.

 

Why these two middle-aged goats thought two young, pretty ladies would even be REMOTELY interested in them is beyond me. It just proves my theory - most men DON'T own mirrors and still think they're 'hot' enough to attract pretty young things. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

 

 

So you enjoy watching 2 ppl being publicly humiliated ?

What exactly makes you a catch again ?

 

Yeah, they are old, and they are balding, and they may be trying to relive their youths, but they had the balls to put themselves out there and who knows ... maybe they found a girl who is into older guys.

 

Having the courage to do this knowing they might be ridiculed deserves respect and is something that you will either experience yourself (if your male) or will never have.

Woggle Established Member

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Maybe guys would approach girls if they appeared even remotely approachable. When I (rarely) go out, the girls appear aloof or in their own little worlds, usually already with their girl friends or a guy or something.

 

I don't want to be shooting in the dark. Give me a sign.. ANY sort of encouraging body language. Hell, just a LOOK in the eyes and the flash of A smile if you think I'm handsome, I'll return the favor as I walk over to you. A girl can work the muscles in her lower face for just a moment, can't she?

 

Is smiling an aggressive, masculine thing now? I thought it could be flirty.. I'd sure as hell have no problem going up to a girl and just saying hi or whatever to see where it goes, but I'm not going to bother if she doesn't appear to give two ****s and appears to want to be left alone.

 

If she makes me feel welcomed to do so, I'll go for it, but just as a person can come off as nervous and awkward in their non-verbal demeanor, a girl can appear to be unwelcome towards advances.

 

This I agree with. Women complain that men don't have the balls to approach women anymore but it is because there is nothing more soul crushing than being humiliated in public for simply breathing the same air as a woman.

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Disenchantedly Yours Established Member

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.....Women actually went out to clubs to meet guys, not to be digital attention whores.

 

Ladies and gentlemen, what do you think?

 

I think I am sick and tired of hearing guys call women names "digital attention whores" with a causualness while no one says boo to you for doing it and then expecting a serious dicussion on the topic of how women have changed due to technology.

 

Just because I think men have changed too, for the worse, doesn't mean I get to call men names because of it. I think men today are lost in technology as much as women. And while women might be posting pictures of themselves, men are lost in a haze of staring at all the pretty ladies on porn and masturbating themselves into a dull haze where they just turn to porn and stop looking to get to know real women.

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RedRobin Established Member

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....Or fishing for that random younger woman online rather than giving the women around them IRL a chance.

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Dusk1983 Established Member

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Having the courage to do this knowing they might be ridiculed deserve respect

 

No, they deserve utter pity. What must have gone so wrong in their lives that they are frozen in time like overweight, overgrown teenagers? Why would they so willingly give away any sense of mature dignity in the desperate hope of assuaging an all consuming loneliness, if just for one night?

 

Where is their life partner, the person who knows them inside out? Where is their family?

 

And as for the OP, any 40+ guy who still refers to chasing "girls" with PUA terms (including girls who are clearly c. 20 years their junior given the Facebook reference) is just equally tragic.

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phineas Established Member

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Fashion in the 1970s could be awful. However; many men nowadays wear more jewelry or bling

 

I really only see the older Italian's with the gold.

The younger kids have the titanium bling mounted in their bodies somewhere.

 

Loops in their ears, rings, piercings ect.

One of the neighbor boys as all of the above plus he mows his lawn in black skinny jeans that aren't pulled up all the way.:sick:

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