phineas Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I used to play their games but not so much anymore. They flake their dead to me. Hot/cold doesn't exist in my world. I ask for a date & the answer is Yes or No. The one game i've started to play is mirroring how long a woman takes to respond to my txt or VM. Since I really only txt or call to set up a date: Some women like to take hrs or even a day to respond just see if i'm waiting for her to call or how fast you will respond to a txt. I used to just respond. but that doesn't work. Now i'll take just as long as they did. She takes a day, I take a day and i'll respond with as little as possible. another game I play is when I ask a woman out & she takes a few days to get back to me or tells me she needs to check her schedule I make alternate plans so when she does get back to me I tell her "Oh, I didn't hear back from you & have something else going on, maybe next time" Then I never initiate contact again & only respond to her if she is asking me out. If you need to play her games to get her, she isn't a quality woman. They have a history of dating dating the type of guy who upgrades his steady piece every 7 months. women that are interested in you make it very easy to spend time with them. PERIOD.
Radu Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 No I am saying by playing the game she can weed out the clingy guys. So if she turns cold and the guy gets emotional about it too early she can see that he's too clingy. So I'm saying the games are providing a way for each person to figure out how stable, mature, able to manage pressure, etc the other person is. And by her playing games, we can weed out the immature ones and deal with the women who are worth it ... the ones who don't play games. This is not a joke, as a guy i used to be affected by flakes and girls who played games ... now i count it as a blessing.
phineas Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 No I am saying by playing the game she can weed out the clingy guys. So if she turns cold and the guy gets emotional about it too early she can see that he's too clingy. So I'm saying the games are providing a way for each person to figure out how stable, mature, able to manage pressure, etc the other person is. Are you retarded? No stable, mature man is going to play a woman's games. The only guys who play those games are desperate losers with no other options & guys who have a new "gf" every few months. Playing games is anything but stable & mature. 2
phineas Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 And by her playing games, we can weed out the immature ones and deal with the women who are worth it ... the ones who don't play games. This is not a joke, as a guy i used to be affected by flakes and girls who played games ... now i count it as a blessing. yep, brb playing immature games to get a mature man. logic. it makes none. 1
Author rbitrage Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 I went out with a girl over the weekend who was not from or live in nyc and she was very nice, open and seemingly straightforward and honest. What was my feeling about her after dealing with all the complicated ny people - found her boring as hell. Not in conversation, not in looks, not even attractiveness, but I guess i have now gotten used to the craziness of this city and all dating in it entails, and prefer women who play the game.
Radu Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Than go for that, i'm sure she will be quite surprised in the future when you can't read her mind over some problem she is having with your relationship.
Author rbitrage Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 I think we call it games, but I just think it's just a more detailed evaluation system in a city where men and women are spoiled for choice of smart, fit successful partners. Though I will admit that big cities like this have a lot of single people for a reason - no one wants to settle and is constantly trying to play games with eachother.
Feelsgoodman Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Are you retarded? No stable, mature man is going to play a woman's games. The only guys who play those games are desperate losers with no other options & guys who have a new "gf" every few months. Playing games is anything but stable & mature. This about sums it up.
loversquarrel Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 No I am saying by playing the game she can weed out the clingy guys. So if she turns cold and the guy gets emotional about it too early she can see that he's too clingy. So I'm saying the games are providing a way for each person to figure out how stable, mature, able to manage pressure, etc the other person is. I fail to see how this works at all. Its simply a sign of female immaturity. This whole "weeding" out process is nothing more than counterproductive. I.E. - She will show her hand early on to a more mature guy who will in turn use her system against her only to "weed" her out, after all, isn't this the type of guy she is trying to get??
loversquarrel Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Are you retarded? No stable, mature man is going to play a woman's games. The only guys who play those games are desperate losers with no other options & guys who have a new "gf" every few months. Playing games is anything but stable & mature. I must have skipped over this when reading through the thread.....You stole my thunder.
Author rbitrage Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 Thanks for that phineas. Am sure that makes you feel better as you spend another lonely night in front of the computer. Try the other hand this time. You'll feel like you are dating someone knew
SJC2008 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I'm not sure exactly how you can tell. If someone is flaky like that it usually means they aren't that interested in you but they like the occasional attention, or they are dating multiple men and haven't figured out whose best for them yet. I don't agree that it's just a game that is fun to play. People who do this have delusions of grandeur IMHO. Weed out the weak men? If someone has to do that it tells me they don't know themselves that well. To me they're already starting a potential relationship off as a manipulator. Is that someone you would want to be with? Not me. Best response yet IMO. OP states how can u like someone so soon without knowing them. I've said this before that women hardly "hook" me early but I was super drawn to the last one BUT I wasn't SURE about her. There were a few eyebrow raisers like, her attitude sometimes, not being able to hold a covo to save her life, etc. So just because she stuck a cord with me doesn't mean I threw those variables out the window and wasn't concerned.
joystickd Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 why worry those women are the ones complaining about not finding a good man lol
Sith Apprentice Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 The biggest games I experience are women not initiating phone calls or taking several days to respond to a message. You'll also have women who reject you, but later come out of the woodwork and throw themselves at you when they learn you're dating someone else. I once had a woman leave a letter on my car in the middle of the night explaining how she regretted not giving me a chance and how she wanted to see me, tough **** sister.
phineas Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Thanks for that phineas. Am sure that makes you feel better as you spend another lonely night in front of the computer. Try the other hand this time. You'll feel like you are dating someone knew Gotta be honest. I honestly thought you were a woman by the way you posted. Considering you have to fabricate a reality based on zero facts about me in order to make yourself feel better about yourself i'm still not convinced you aren't woman.
SJC2008 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Gotta be honest. I honestly thought you were a woman by the way you posted. Considering you have to fabricate a reality based on zero facts about me in order to make yourself feel better about yourself i'm still not convinced you aren't woman. Yeah good call. I mean in one of your responses you said you were married and have the exp to know what games they play but he gives you the lonely night at the computer response like youll never get a woman bc you don't play games.
Author rbitrage Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 If I am a woman, I am pretty sure I won't be attracted to a guy who goes around calling people retards because they like women who play some games. There's nothing productive about calling a poster retarded. Just like there's nothing productive about calling you a loser who spends a lot of time living vicariously through other people's lives because he probably doesn't have one of his own. Let's try something new...perhaps contribute something meaningful to a subject instead of feeding your ego and putting people down. Yes we're all imperfect on her and we post questions because we hope to get genuine help.
SJC2008 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 We can a respectfully disagree without name calling like you say. I'm guilty of a way over the top response a few threads ago and apologized. Answers like follow suit or wait till I find a hag are pointless. Just because a woman doesn't play games it doesn't mean she's a hag. AP said my last date was probably blowing some guy now bc he played, never say never but I'm 99.99% sure there's no way. Anyway, some guys put up with it and some don't. That being said I really think the next time I'll put up with it (to a certain extent) to see what happens.
phineas Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 If I am a woman, I am pretty sure I won't be attracted to a guy who goes around calling people retards because they like women who play some games. There's nothing productive about calling a poster retarded. Just like there's nothing productive about calling you a loser who spends a lot of time living vicariously through other people's lives because he probably doesn't have one of his own. Let's try something new...perhaps contribute something meaningful to a subject instead of feeding your ego and putting people down. Yes we're all imperfect on her and we post questions because we hope to get genuine help. LOL! You talk about not putting people down then still put me down in the same post. Yes, clearly the voice of reason & maturity in this thread. I think people who pull the do as I say, not as I do mantra are retarded.
phineas Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Yeah good call. I mean in one of your responses you said you were married and have the exp to know what games they play but he gives you the lonely night at the computer response like youll never get a woman bc you don't play games. Yep. Divorced, 40yrs old. Last woman I met on match went stage 5 clinger on me then turned into a potential bunny boiler (threatened my kids dog:sick:)& I had to drop her. I'm off women till June. I got a deck, hot tub, gazebo to put in plus a 6-pack to unearth. Got no time for women right now. I also don't NEED a woman in my life to feel like man. A woman is a compliment to my life & one that plays games is a waste of my time, immature, has a history of dysfunctional relationships and is most likely nuts. Yeah you can play her games & get laid. But see the above woman I talked about, it isn't worth the sex. A mature, secure woman doesn't need to play games.
Author rbitrage Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 Well I say this phineas, you are a stronger man than me i guess. I've arleady gotten a bunch of first dates lined up. Do I need women? Well i could say no i don't, but if I can have one in my life without it requiring an amputation even if just for sex or company, I will continue to pursue them. What I will say though is that I'm gonna be a lot more aware of the games now and hopefully won't become the sucker to the next gamer that comes along. Perhaps i am also chosing to stay single as well by dating unavailable women, but at the end of the day, if we get our kicks out of it, and it doesn't harm anyone then might as well do it. That 'normal' girl i went out with this weekend was not very exciting to me, and i'm just being bluntly honest here. Perhaps it's that groucho marx line, 'I wouldn't want to join a club that would accept a person like me as a member' haha I'm making light of it but yes, I got worked over proper by this previous gf. She was quite the gamer I would say, but terribly smart, attractive and fascinating (hence why she could do that i guess). Hopefully I'll grow out of this. May require moving out of nyc. In the meantime, I'll accept the title of immature in this regard. But retarded is a bit much.
Author rbitrage Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 Thanks a lot boston dude. Have a great day. Sorry there are so few women out there for you that you have to lash out at annonymous random people on a forum. Hope things improve for you. Maybe one day every man will behave exactly as you think they should and you'll finally get the woman you want. In the meantime I am gonna go out and enjoy the company of great ny women. Caio
Author rbitrage Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 haha.... this forum is so entertaining
nofool4u Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I know everyone will say stay away from these types, but it's quite common for both men and women in places like ny and london to do this and just wondering if people have experience with this and if one knows how to tell when the relationship past all these games. By games I mean being flakey, hot and cold, sweet and then indifferent. Was having a chat with a bunch of guy friends and in ny, especially the women who are in high demand all do this to weed out the weak men (clingy, needy, not . Men do the same thing but perhaps in different ways. It's like some weird alpha ritual that people do. It's not fun but once you understand it's a game and you play it in such a spirit, you can get past it and be in a normal relationship (i realize this sounds insane, but it seems to be very common here). Funny you should mention that. Seems that when I encounter a woman that likes to play games, like the whole making me chase them thing, playing hard to get, I quickly lose interest. That is when they seem to come around. Nothing they seem to hate more than when you give them the cold shoulder back. Difference is, I'm not playing games. If I give a game playing woman the cold shoulder, it isn't because I'm playing right back at her, it means I'm done with her all together.
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