smile4me Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 hey guys so my gf broke up with me after 2 years of being together. She said she i was never able to cheer her up when she was stress because of exams and all. She even said she didnt care that i couldnt cheer her up, as long as i was there. And im always there. I usually drive 2 hours to see her because she lives on campus. and 1 hour when shes at home. Whenever she wanted to see me i would always drive to see her, even when i had classes. So when we broke up she said if i can be there for her as a friend then she would come back. A few weeks later she wouldnt talk to me. then she blocked me on facebook. I ask her if she wanted her stuff back and she said yea. When we met to give our stuff back she wouldnt say a word to me. All she did was open her trunk. She couldnt even said goodbye or anything. Later that day i text her saying this is the last time i would be talking to you so say anything you want. tell me are you happy? sad? tell me how are you feeling. she still said nothing. I feel like shes forcing herself to be happy without me because when i saw her she seemed sad and miserable. But when we broke up she said she was happier without me. I know her family well and we have the same friends. so its hard letting go what i had with her. I dont want to move on at all. so what do i do now? its been a month and i cant seem to let go. I beg and i beg for her to stay to fix things..and yet she said no so easily. She says she loves me but cant be with me. So is it too late to fix things? is it okay letting go?
Philosoraptor Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 She is done and you need to find a way to accept that. For now just concentrate and better yourself. The more focus you put on making yourself and your life better, the easier it will be to let her go. 1
HollyBolly Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I'm really sorry to hear about your pain, but you have to let her go now. I'm sorry.
Author smile4me Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 sigh..i figure everyone would say that. but heres more to the story...i found out that she sent a picture of herself to some dude she barely knows and the caption says " only for your eyes". the guy knows her family too but i never seen him or heard of him when i spent the night at her house. and i go there alot. anyways she said that she wanted to prove that she could of gotten into the club so thats the reason she sent the picture...and she was like do you not trust me? and im here thinking how can i trust you when you did that behind my back. even her sister didnt know about it. she said that she doesnt even like the guy that way and she said something about him having a gf for 3 years. but idk if he still do..
Philosoraptor Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 sigh..i figure everyone would say that. but heres more to the story...i found out that she sent a picture of herself to some dude she barely knows and the caption says " only for your eyes". the guy knows her family too but i never seen him or heard of him when i spent the night at her house. and i go there alot. anyways she said that she wanted to prove that she could of gotten into the club so thats the reason she sent the picture...and she was like do you not trust me? and im here thinking how can i trust you when you did that behind my back. even her sister didnt know about it. she said that she doesnt even like the guy that way and she said something about him having a gf for 3 years. but idk if he still do.. Ok, she's done and someone whom you can't trust. Work on yourself for now and try to find someone that you will be able to trust.
Chi townD Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Dude, for some girl to pop her trunk and not even say one word to you? That is soooo immature and definately not worth your time. ANd you have NO REASON to trust her after she sent some dude a pic of herself! Do you think she would be trusting and understanding if you did that to her? Seriously doubt it! Time to leave her in the past and move on, dude.
Author smile4me Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 well i have been in nc for about a month now. but its so hard. how can she do this to me so easily. i guess i should have saw this coming sooner or later. ever since i met her she would always like me and then leave me for someone else. Even my friends and her sister says she have a flirting problem. Im just gona move on and hopefully everything works out for the better. thx guys for listening! love you all
Philosoraptor Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 well i have been in nc for about a month now. but its so hard. how can she do this to me so easily. i guess i should have saw this coming sooner or later. ever since i met her she would always like me and then leave me for someone else. Even my friends and her sister says she have a flirting problem. Im just gona move on and hopefully everything works out for the better. thx guys for listening! love you all If she was always leaving and coming back then odds are you are safe, but not what she wants long term. A soft place to land so to speak.
Author smile4me Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 this message im writing is just so that i do not break nc. how you been lately?im not doing well. I miss the way we use to talk. i hate all of these negative feelings that surrounds us. all i ever wanted to do was to make you laugh/smile/happy. i just wanted to be by your side. I know it should be easier to move on as the days go by. But each passing day it just keep getting worse and worser. i feel so exhausted thinking about you. and it hurts knowing that your happy and move on so quickly. i dont care how you hurt me. i can look past all that because i love you too much. why cant we be friends and work on things? and to be honest i just really really miss you..i dont want to hide my feelings. I deeply love you. i know im being clingy and annoying but its just because i care and miss you. its impossible for me to not love you.
Chi townD Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 this message im writing is just so that i do not break nc. how you been lately?im not doing well. I miss the way we use to talk. i hate all of these negative feelings that surrounds us. all i ever wanted to do was to make you laugh/smile/happy. i just wanted to be by your side. I know it should be easier to move on as the days go by. But each passing day it just keep getting worse and worser. i feel so exhausted thinking about you. and it hurts knowing that your happy and move on so quickly. i dont care how you hurt me. i can look past all that because i love you too much. why cant we be friends and work on things? and to be honest i just really really miss you..i dont want to hide my feelings. I deeply love you. i know im being clingy and annoying but its just because i care and miss you. its impossible for me to not love you. I'm glad you're posting here and not sending that to her. I know you're down right now and trust me, I've been there. But, tomorrow you might be in a good mood, then the next day you'll be soooo angry at her. Welcome to the roller coaster of emotions and it's NORMAL. Hang in there, dude.
Author smile4me Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 yes i am on a roller coaster of emotion. and i do have some days i cant live without her and some days that are normal. just another passing day.
Author smile4me Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 i just saw this and it got me teary. i think all relationship is like this. relationships go through stages but only some will cross that line together while others will end it.
Chi townD Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Okay dude! You seriously need to snap out of this funk!! Do you think that she's sitting around watching snappy youtube video's? Hell no! She's living her life without a second thought of what she did to you! Proof in the pudding for me is when you returned her stuff and she acted like you weren't even there. Like you were an after thought! Don't do this to yourself. Pick yourself up and move! Don't let her beat you down!
Ben00 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 i just saw this and it got me teary. i think all relationship is like this. relationships go through stages but only some will cross that line together while others will end it. Wow, that's a touching video. I couldn't get through it without tearing up as well, but I think that it's good for us to watch it. For me at least, it helped me realize that this is a normal part of life and that I am not a failure, freak, or unlovable. Breakups happen and although we are brought to our knees thinking that life will not go on... it will. I'm 1 month out of a 2 year relationship. Brighter days are coming.
Author smile4me Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 i know i know i should be focusing on myself. and i am trying my hardest. but its just one of those days when i miss her. and iv been jogging and finding new hobbies which help for the time. its just what it is. i feel you benoo. im 2 months from a 2 year relationship as well. dont worry we all can get through this. just takes time and effort
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