Gypsie Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 My sister is completely fashion and image obsessed. She is the one that is married with kids. I am the one that is in my 30's and still single. I think I dress fine and yes I can still pick up and stuff so why go on and on about it? But my sister is being a complete bitch about it. She is being so bad that every time I go clothes shopping I am starting to get paranoid about what I am buying. I am my own person and I don't want to end up like my sister's clone or something. She is doing my head in and seriously pissing me off about it. . I know she is just trying to help but she does not have to be a total cow about it all. Is fashion really that important to a guy?
firehawk_1 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 HELL NO! women see to be SOOO obsessed with looks and fashion like life or death. seriously... it sickens me. all about looks and nothing but looks and if the guy doesnt look "hot, sexy, fit" then they always get rejected. trust me on that. thats superficial and shallow. as long as the guy is presentable, thats all that matters. be it in jeans and a tshirt or dressing up for the occasion, thats all. same with a woman... if she wears casual or can dress up for the occasion, thats great. at least you have clothes...other countries in poor areas dont!
carhill Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I have some male friends whom grooming and fashion are definitely a priority. Some are married. One is single. All are in the 45-60yo range, age-wise. You can ignore your sister or tell her to buzz-off. There's no requirement of civility when your boundaries are breached, if such is the case. Of course, you can be civil. If you feel good in your skin and clothes, go with that. It's your life.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Unless you dress like an awkward librarian or somebody's grandmother I really don't care. The last time I went on a date the girl wore jeans and a hoodie. 1
fucpcg Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Totally. Don't you find a guy in a great suit more appealing than a guy in jean shorts, sandals, and a Nascar tshirt?. LOVE a woman with great style, and I guarantee that woman will never see in a Nascar tshirt, or camo for that matter. I respect a woman who tries to look her best, as I do the same. However everyone had different tastes in style, so... that can vary.
spookie Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I think most guys care more than they care to admit. 3
mesmerized Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Yes and don't let them tell you otherwise. Another reason Im giving up on men. Just looking good for them is like a full time job.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Yes and don't let them tell you otherwise. Another reason Im giving up on men. Just looking good for them is like a full time job. You're free to wear a pair of jeans and a hoodie on a date with me.
firehawk_1 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Yes and don't let them tell you otherwise. Another reason Im giving up on men. Just looking good for them is like a full time job. wrong. you women do that all by yourselves . and then say "dont have time for anything" yet are on dating sites all the time....
mesmerized Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 wrong. you women do that all by yourselves . and then say "dont have time for anything" yet are on dating sites all the time.... We do all of that to attract men. maybe where you live is different, where I live people are superficial and want a dolled up woman.
USMCHokie Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 We do all of that to attract men. maybe where you live is different, where I live people are superficial and want a dolled up woman. I would say that all of that is done to "compete" against other women...not necessarily to attract men...
threebyfate Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I think most guys care more than they care to admit.Sure they do. But many don't realize how much. The jock guy will be looking for the sorority sister look. The slob will be looking for a 'relaxed' look. The well dressed guy will be looking for a well dressed look. The hipster will be looking for another hipster. There's plenty more types with mix and match of any types but I guess in general, a guy's going to be looking for his "type" of looking woman which includes what and how she looks, wearing the clothing that she does. 1
mesmerized Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I would say that all of that is done to "compete" against other women...not necessarily to attract men... Lol ofcourse but this competition is for attracting men!!!! For what other reason possibly would we want to compete with eachother?
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 For me the most important thing is that the girl actually like me. I don't exactly have women beating down my door to date me so I can't really be all that picky about how she dresses. In the grand scheme of things no one should be that picky about what somebody wears (within reason of course).
M2155 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I've asked a lot of guy friends this question and most of them say no. As long as it is neat and confident and flattering to the figure, it doesn't matter how fashionable it is. Of course we want to be stylish and look good when we are out with our man (and to look better than the other women) so we go the extra mile. I think it's most important to wear something YOU look and feel good wearing. I'm totally wearing a hoodie on my next date now. Let's see how that goes lol.
Jane2011 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I've never worn a hoodie on a first date (not in recent years anyway), but I've definitely worn jeans.
Woggle Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 All a man cares about is if she looks good or not. We couldn't care less whether she got those clothes at a high end boutique or at an army and navy store. Also I agree that women who care about high fashion are trying to impress other women. It's there version of a pissing contest. Do you really think most men give a damn about designer hand bags?
ThaWholigan Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I have personally never been too bothered by fashion of any kind (probably to my detriment I might add). So a girl who looks good to me isn't necessarily because of her clothes, although I can appreciate when a girl dresses well. It's never been an important fixture.
starla33 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 My sister is completely fashion and image obsessed. She is the one that is married with kids. I am the one that is in my 30's and still single. I think I dress fine and yes I can still pick up and stuff so why go on and on about it? But my sister is being a complete bitch about it. She is being so bad that every time I go clothes shopping I am starting to get paranoid about what I am buying. I am my own person and I don't want to end up like my sister's clone or something. She is doing my head in and seriously pissing me off about it. . I know she is just trying to help but she does not have to be a total cow about it all. Is fashion really that important to a guy? I don't think guys care because my date last week i wore Toms, jeans and a sweater and the guy asked me on a 2nd date.
spookie Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Sure they do. But many don't realize how much. The jock guy will be looking for the sorority sister look. The slob will be looking for a 'relaxed' look. The well dressed guy will be looking for a well dressed look. The hipster will be looking for another hipster. There's plenty more types with mix and match of any types but I guess in general, a guy's going to be looking for his "type" of looking woman which includes what and how she looks, wearing the clothing that she does. Yup. That's how I get all the slobs.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I've never worn a hoodie on a first date (not in recent years anyway), but I've definitely worn jeans. It was actually the second date she wore the hoodie. I don't remember what she wore on the first date.
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 They care way more about your body than your actual clothes is actually the honest mans truth. Do we like when you look good and dress well? I mean who doesn't... However dress too well and expensive and you'll give off the high maintenance vibe, which isn't the most attractive quality to most men. After all they can have someone equally as good looking who doesn't spend a small fortune on clothing and looks equally good in the buff, but If you're a hottie you can do whatever you please of course. Not dressing well just gives you that more "down-to-earth" type of vibe, however dressing frumpy or way out of style is not the most exciting attire in the world for you to be wearing. I personally I like a woman who knows how to dress well in special occasions, but from day to day isn't over the top about how she looks and what she wears because I don't want to sit around for two hours waiting for her to get ready while I'm starving and ready to eat! or what not. But then again I prefer a girl with more natural beauty than cake-up all over her face, with all the trickery that woman's clothing can provide which isn't actually the woman's real body at all. Update your ward-robe If It's old as dirt, dress well to the point you feel confident with yourself and you'll be fine. 4
threebyfate Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 They care way more about your body than your actual clothes is actually the honest mans truth. Do we like when you look good and dress well? I mean who doesn't... However dress too well and expensive and you'll give off the high maintenance vibe, which isn't the most attractive quality to most men. After all they can have someone equally as good looking who doesn't spend a small fortune on clothing and looks equally good in the buff, but If you're a hottie you can do whatever you please of course. Not dressing well just gives you that more "down-to-earth" type of vibe, however dressing frumpy or way out of style is not the most exciting attire in the world for you to be wearing. I personally I like a woman who knows how to dress well in special occasions, but from day to day isn't over the top about how she looks and what she wears because I don't want to sit around for two hours waiting for her to get ready while I'm starving and ready to eat! or what not. But then again I prefer a girl with more natural beauty than cake-up all over her face, with all the trickery that woman's clothing can provide which isn't actually the woman's real body at all. Update your ward-robe If It's old as dirt, dress well to the point you feel confident with yourself and you'll be fine.That's a pretty detailed report for a man who doesn't care.
OhHey Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Give me a Hoody, Pajamas and slippers and I am gone for the day.
FitChick Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 There's plenty more types with mix and match of any types but I guess in general, a guy's going to be looking for his "type" of looking woman which includes what and how she looks, wearing the clothing that she does. I've read profiles where the man didn't want a woman who wore makeup. One guy who lived in an isolated area of the countryside was looking for a "tomboy." He didn't own a suit. Everyone is different. Dress to attract the type you want.
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