kyle77 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Okay so I have another thread that I got some great answers on...Im just looking for a little more advice and some more opinions. So I am 19 and my ex girlfriend is 18. We dated for just under a year and than took a mutual break. A month later we got back together and dated for another 3-4 months but the same problems were there and she eventually broke up with me. Now I am young and I am not very experienced with this whole situation but regardless here it is. I really want my ex back. She is a very special person to me and I feel incomplete without her. It has been about 6 months since we broke up and even after all this time I still want to do anything I can to get her back. I am a very task oriented person so I am trying to see what things I can do to make my ex come back. Now I have two problems: 1. How do I make my ex regain interest in me after so long apart? (How do I get it to the point where I can hang out with her and talk to her on a regular basis) and 2. If and when I get my ex back how do I keep her for the long term? Some background info: We are both young and this was both of ours first serious relationship. We go to university together and take some classes together but it is exam period now and we will likely not be in contact all summer unless I can regain her interest. The relationship was amazing at the start and lasted that way for the majority of the time. Towards the end though my ex felt unappreciated and I guess it just wasn't as fun anymore. So I am also in this thread looking for ways as to improve myself in how to show my ex she is appreciated and to make the relationship have as much fun as there was in the start of the relationship.
CaliBabe Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 My suggestion would be to make sure you both take some reasonable time apart to work out your issues. This would explain why the last time you guys got back together the same problems arose and resulted in you two breaking up again. To regain her interest you should be making yourself the best you that you can be. Get in the best physical and mental shape of your life. I want to say that you should be doing this for yourself, not to get someone to love you again. Everything first starts with you. You love yourself first and then allow someone equally as awesome to love you. 2
Author kyle77 Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 so then do you advise i maybe just "forget" about her this summer and then maybe next year when school starts up try and regain that spark? in the meantime just focus on making myself as good as possible?
Nohbody Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I'm sorry, man. You have control over this situation. This isn't a movie, it's your life. You can't make her come back. The only thing you have control over is yourself. So work that as best you can. Make yourself better so that if she DOES come back it will be like coming back to super you. And hopefully things will work out. If she DOESN'T come back, then you have to be ok with that, and you have to be the best you can be for yourself and the person you DO end up with. 1
Author kyle77 Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 Okay so the general consensus is to improve myself and maybe see if things work down the road. Now as Calibabe mentioned I need to get in the best physical and mental shape possible. Physical thats pretty obvious and I actually have gotten into the routine of working out 4-5 times a week. However, how do I go about getting in the best mental shape possible? What does that mean? I am guessing I have a lot of work to do in this area just don't know how to go about it...
mridul_chajilee Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 If she has no boy friend now and you are sure that she still loves you then u can do a drama,coz u both are adolescent and u both have 'JOSH'.U just pretend to be sick and admit near any hospital and send a message to her by any means,but remember add the word 'serious' and see the magic,if she REALLY Loves you,she will run back to see u in hospital.Try this coz ALL IS FARE IN LOVE AND WAR.Good luck.
Nohbody Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 If she has no boy friend now and you are sure that she still loves you then u can do a drama,coz u both are adolescent and u both have 'JOSH'.U just pretend to be sick and admit near any hospital and send a message to her by any means,but remember add the word 'serious' and see the magic,if she REALLY Loves you,she will run back to see u in hospital.Try this coz ALL IS FARE IN LOVE AND WAR.Good luck. I say this as someone who has been to war: No.
Nohbody Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 You have control over this situation. NO CONTROL, I meant no control.
xxSRMxx Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 If she has no boy friend now and you are sure that she still loves you then u can do a drama,coz u both are adolescent and u both have 'JOSH'.U just pretend to be sick and admit near any hospital and send a message to her by any means,but remember add the word 'serious' and see the magic,if she REALLY Loves you,she will run back to see u in hospital.Try this coz ALL IS FARE IN LOVE AND WAR.Good luck. Dont do that.
Reddice Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 If she has no boy friend now and you are sure that she still loves you then u can do a drama,coz u both are adolescent and u both have 'JOSH'.U just pretend to be sick and admit near any hospital and send a message to her by any means,but remember add the word 'serious' and see the magic,if she REALLY Loves you,she will run back to see u in hospital.Try this coz ALL IS FARE IN LOVE AND WAR.Good luck. This guy is awesome! I'm laughing my ass off with his advice! 1
mridul_chajilee Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 @Reddice,bro where from you? But it happens in east.....you have to see BOLLYWOOD movie.:D
macardent Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 @Reddice,bro where from you? But it happens in east.....you have to see BOLLYWOOD movie.:D I did a shahrukh khan move on my ex.. she was like man you are so bollywood.. and insulted me.. LOLL
mridul_chajilee Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 @macardent,atleast ur EX is replaying...thx GOD.Any way what was the movie?
olivec Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 Okay so I have another thread that I got some great answers on...Im just looking for a little more advice and some more opinions. So I am 19 and my ex girlfriend is 18. We dated for just under a year and than took a mutual break. A month later we got back together and dated for another 3-4 months but the same problems were there and she eventually broke up with me. Now I am young and I am not very experienced with this whole situation but regardless here it is. I really want my ex back. She is a very special person to me and I feel incomplete without her. It has been about 6 months since we broke up and even after all this time I still want to do anything I can to get her back. I am a very task oriented person so I am trying to see what things I can do to make my ex come back. Now I have two problems: 1. How do I make my ex regain interest in me after so long apart? (How do I get it to the point where I can hang out with her and talk to her on a regular basis) and 2. If and when I get my ex back how do I keep her for the long term? Some background info: We are both young and this was both of ours first serious relationship. We go to university together and take some classes together but it is exam period now and we will likely not be in contact all summer unless I can regain her interest. The relationship was amazing at the start and lasted that way for the majority of the time. Towards the end though my ex felt unappreciated and I guess it just wasn't as fun anymore. So I am also in this thread looking for ways as to improve myself in how to show my ex she is appreciated and to make the relationship have as much fun as there was in the start of the relationship. I'm gunna be honest your extremely young and should not be concerned at all with a long term relationship. I think you should definetly work on yourself like others have said. However if your doing this to get your ex back its a huge mistake. You should focus on meeting new people and go from there. Your very young and there is soo many great people you could meet. Why limit yourself and spend energy on someone you've already tried and failed with. Sadly your gunna have to understand it was not meant to be and move on.
Author kyle77 Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 ya i know its just sometimes i feel like if I could get her back I think it would actually work...but then again if thats the case maybe she will come back on her own one day...I think I can accept that maybe I have to move on but I really want to do everything I can while we are not together so that if we do get back together I will be giving it the best chance I can to make it work....so other than bollywood stuff anyone know how I can improve mentally....
DisGai Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 anyone know how I can improve mentally.... There is no formula to follow that will increase your chances of a successful relationship with your EX. However, I believe that it is possible to improve yourself mentally and emotionally by making your best effort to interact with people. Being an introvert, I was always uncomfortable with the idea of going out of my way to meet up with people, to have meals, etc.. I simply lived life "naturally," without much risk or discomfort. But in the end, I wasn't happy with that. When my EX broke it off with me 10 weeks ago, it was the hardest thing in the world, but I sought and found happiness through intentional relationships with the people around me. This meant...(in the college life,) asking friends if they wanted to catch-up while eating/chatting, intentionally meeting new people, gathering a bunch of guys to play basketball with (great way to exercise and socialize), and simply finding ways to be a more sociable/friendlier person. Being around people makes me happier, and it should have been that way since forever ago. I feel more more sociable, more confident, and ultimately more manly. A lot of times, being a man means being unafraid to put yourself in discomfort to _____, which in my case is, to make others happier.
macardent Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 @macardent,atleast ur EX is replaying...thx GOD.Any way what was the movie? LOL.. well we were on the phone.. so she had to reply.. and she loves me still just that I made a mistake of breaking up with her for 3 minutes and she dumped me 3 days later, just thinks i will break her heart again. And the movie was Kal Ho Na Hoo... I asked her to go back to her ex, and dont **** her life up cuz of me.
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