ryan131131 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 (edited) hi everyone my name is ryan this is my first time here and i though i never would be doing this 8 months ago i found the love of my life she was in my town for college and we hit it off after a month of dating we knew we were right for each other soul mates you could say well we fell in love and wanted to live together so we did it never seemed to quick it seemed right well anyway she moved in with me to my parents house just so we could save some money to get our own place which we did well then i got layed off my job she was driving and hour both to work and home just to get a pay check well we made bad decisions with criedt cards and bills so she got very stressed out about them having no money and the stuff that was going on at my parents house well not to mention her father never approved of me for reasons of i dident have a good job or a good education so he wanted her home and did anything he could to get her back she stuck up for me and dident leave well at this time were finally out and got out very first apartment yay but then my father had his fience of 6 years leave for there own reasons well everyone knows family is important so me and my gf moved back home to help out with bills so he wouldnt lose the house well me and my gf were kinda stressed out with our lives cause of everything with bills and stress and her dad not wanting her with me well two weeks and a bit a ago on the 27 of march 2012 my girlfriend was at work and said we needed to talk well i drove so fast up there and first question i asked are you breaking up with me and the answer was yes and no she told me that she was going to move back home for two weeks and if things changed she would come back for the month or two untill we both moved down to her home town 2.5 hours away from here i was very upset but agreeed to it well the day after she said i cant do it anymore i wasent happy and that friends were in order my life came and smashed in to a wall at 100mph i was heart broken we had so much togeather and shared so much she had a miscarrage and from there it went down from there well we still talked on fb a bit nothing more i was so depressed and upset cause i wanted to always make her happy never sad well it took me almost 2 weeeks to get her to call me i was so happy to hear her voice so we talked and hung up well i asked her to come see me a few times and got turned down then finally one day she asked if i was working the next day I said no so the day came where i wasent working april 12 2012 few days ago she showed up i couldnt belive my eyes i havent cryed so much in my life now here comes the broken heart AGIAN we talked and we havent smiled so much with eachother before it felt like the first week of being togeather well we had dinner went to the beach and i said i dont want you to leave she said im not i can stay the night and i couldnt belive it i got to sleep and hold her finally once agian well we talked and talked and talked well our feelings came back and started kissing and oviboulsy made love to eachother ( i know i know bad thing ) but it just felt so right with her well we have a wonderful night finally once agian we wake up and have another great day well the next day comes and more talking well i kept the blanket from the miscarrage and she wanted me to cut it in half and we both wrote on our parts of it and just cause we know that our son or daughter will always be there for us but wont talk much about that its to hard for me sorry well the time comes for her to go home she tells me ryan i promise im going to come back to you i promise we will get married agian and she doesnt care what her father says about me she would talk to him when she got home and wouldnt be scared of what he said Well she leaves texting me on the way home saying i love you dont worry everything will be ok well gets home at 10:30 pm says im home i said ok well do you want to say good night now or are you talking to you parents dident get a replay ( guess she told her parents she saw me agian) well 12:30am comes i got a text i cant do this im sorry if you love me or care for me you wont call or text anymore im sorry but i have to move on with me life i sat there and i was so dame upset i was more upset now then i was when she left two weeks ago i know she is listing to her father and doesnt want to make him upset ( big connection daddys lil girl ) but i just cant belive in two days i never knew how happy i could be then bam right in to the wall agian im sorry for pouring my heart out i have never done this before and never ever in my life have been this hurt in a break up well thank you everyone for reading my story im not expecting anything just wanted to tell you all thank you agian Ryan !!!!:(:(:( Edited April 17, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Yikes, one long text message. I gave up.
Can I Change Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 hi - im new to this forum too on behalf of myself, welcome. If you can simplify this to 10 issues or less, (sounds like less) I can maybe think it out with you better How old are you? I'm in my mid 40's first off, as best as I can understand you are not married and without children dont put all your eggs in one basket I'll try to re read your essay to see if I think this is a workable situation for you. you seem to have your head on straight anyway how long have you been in this relationship again?
Author ryan131131 Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 i am 24 she is turning 22 but as i mentioned and dident say this was her dad wanted her home and away from me so much he payed all her debt off if she never saw me agian and he did 9000 dollars so its a losing battle i think but i just dont understand why she did that to me agian you dont promise someone all those things and sleep togeather and make love
TaraMaiden Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I couldn't read it. I'm sorry, I just couldn't. No punctuation at all... hard to say where one sentence ended and the next began... No capital letters, and just one big block of text. Sorry buddy - I just couldn't get through it.
Author ryan131131 Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 no offence but i could care less about capital letters or any of that right now
january2011 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 You've been through a lot together, especially with the miscarriage. It's not surprising that your emotional bond is difficult to break. However, you need to respect her request that you don't contact her again. You both tried to make it work but couldn't. She wants to move on with her life and I think you need to do the same.
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