Should I text my ex gf? Is there any chance we can get back together?

[HockeyGuy89]

Ok so back in October, I started dating this girl. I had known her for about a year before that, because she was a friend of my best friend from college, and I actually became really good friends with all his friends from home because we lived in the same town. Anyways, so me and this girl started dating in October, and honestly, it was probably one of the best relationships I had, and she told me the same thing at the time. And it seemed perfect because all of our close friends were the same people, so we already hungout in the same circle. We always had a blast, and she always told me I was the best boyfriend she ever had.

 

However, in the beginning of January, I developed a case of mono, so I was really not able to be in contact with anyone for two weeks. And during those two weeks, the only person that did not wish me well was her, so I already had a bad feeling. So when I started to get better, I went and hung out with the guys, and she was there, and boy did she give me the cold shoulder. I texted her the next day to see what was up and she broke up with me (through text. I know right?). The reasons she gave were that it wasn't working for her anymore, and that she felt I liked her more than she liked me (which really was not the case).

 

 

So anyway, fast forward three months to now. I haven't really seen her that much, because the guys like hanging out with me and feel that she made everything awkward for breaking up with me. I mean a couple times I saw her for 5 minutes because my best friend is her roommate, but that's it. I haven't texted her, and obviously never begged for her back, because that's just dumb and makes you look weak. But last night we all went out for drinks, and she came out as well. And I have to admit things were a little awkward, because I didn't really talk to her that much at all, but I did occasionally make her laugh when I was telling jokes to the group, which made me feel good actually. I thought I was over her but all these emotions kept coming back.

 

So thanks for reading that lol but what I want to know is, after hanging out with her for the first time in three months, do you think it's ok to text her and be like, "hey it was really nice to see you last night, hope we can do it again soon"? And do you think that we could ever have a chance of getting back together?

 

Also, I know she didn't leave me for someone else because she really isn't like that, and since we are all close friends one of us would have definitely found out by now.

[january2011]

I think it's a bad idea. Not only to text her but to use those words in your example.

 

You were ill. She did not wish you well, nor did she treat you well when she saw you for the first time after you recovered. She then breaks up with you by text the next day because she's 'not feeling it'. Not only does that indicate a lack of compassion in general but a lack of care for your wellbeing. That doesn't sound like a good friend, let alone a good girlfriend.

 

You still have feelings for her. But as far as I can tell from your post, nothing has changed for her in the interim. Your being able to make her laugh occasionally doesn't constitute a green light to reconcile.

 

Since you're all part of the same social group, presumably it would be difficult for you to avoid each other completely. However, I suggest that you try to limit your contact with her in group situations and don't contact her directly at all.

[TaraMaiden]

(what's 'mono'....?)

[january2011]

(what's 'mono'....?)

 

It's N. American for glandular fever.

[TaraMaiden]

Ah.

thanks.

Also known as the 'kissing disease'....

 

Someone with glandular fever is contagious for at least two months after initially being infected with EBv....

 

(Epstein-Barr virus)

 

Are you sure you're ok now....?

[Can I Change]

Sure, what's the worse that could happen?

 

Rejection?

 

you could maybe score yourself a fun date with no complications

[Can I Change]

"hey it was really nice to see you last night, hope we can do it again soon"? And do you think that we could ever have a chance of getting back together?

 

"hey it was really nice to see you last night, hope we can do it again soon"? "Maybe we can even get something going."

(add hokey sentimental ie)

"You are the most (flatter her most admirable quality) {down to earth}

woman I know."

 

that would be my play if I wanted her like you seem to.

 

good luck

Edited April 15, 2012 by Can I Change

[TaraMaiden]

Oh god, no....!

if that was me receiving it - I'd puke.

that just sounds pathetic - i'm sorry, but really, from a woman's perspective, it does.

 

Really, she's made her character quite clear.

you really shouldn't have to work that hard.

don't send anything, just let it go.

[HockeyGuy89]

Thanks for all the responses so far.

 

I don't think I will contact her, it is hard though because this was one I really did care about