malfide Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 So here is my story. There is this girl in my class. At first I didn't feel anything for her. I just found her different. After a while I began to noticing her and began having feelings for her, but I was too shy to go up to her and talk to her. Then she didn't come to class for like 3 weeks. So two week ago I just went up to her and started having a conversation. It was hard for me to have a talk with her because she often goes home during the class. We only had about four brief conversations until now. But yesterday it really felt like we were talking but there were bit awkward pauses because I didn't know what to say(keep the conversation flowing). To me it seemed more like she was being friendly then showing interest in me. And when we were in the class it felt like she looked at me time to time and my notes what I was doing. I have no idea if this means something. So next time I see her I was thinking about telling her that I have feelings her and asking her out for a drink on Saturday after the class(yes we have class on Saturday morning) for a talk. It is hard to do on other days because the class ends 10pm except on Saturday and I find it a little bit late especially we don't know each other so well yet. What do you guys think. Is it too soon for me asking her out? Or should I approach this differently?
sid3 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Ask her out, yes! Telling her you have feelings for her, no!
jobaba Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 So here is my story. There is this girl in my class. At first I didn't feel anything for her. I just found her different. After a while I began to noticing her and began having feelings for her, but I was too shy to go up to her and talk to her. Then she didn't come to class for like 3 weeks. So two week ago I just went up to her and started having a conversation. It was hard for me to have a talk with her because she often goes home during the class. We only had about four brief conversations until now. But yesterday it really felt like we were talking but there were bit awkward pauses because I didn't know what to say(keep the conversation flowing). To me it seemed more like she was being friendly then showing interest in me. And when we were in the class it felt like she looked at me time to time and my notes what I was doing. I have no idea if this means something. So next time I see her I was thinking about telling her that I have feelings her and asking her out for a drink on Saturday after the class(yes we have class on Saturday morning) for a talk. It is hard to do on other days because the class ends 10pm except on Saturday and I find it a little bit late especially we don't know each other so well yet. What do you guys think. Is it too soon for me asking her out? Or should I approach this differently? Sounds like (and correct me if I'm wrong)... 1) You guys are in college 2) You are shy and have limited experience with women 3) She is really cute, I bet This being the case, I think you should take a total 180 on your approach. Look at the bold. Never put a woman on a pedestal until you have at least kissed her. Your 'feelings' at this stage are called a crush since you don't even know her well. I would forget about asking her out and continue to talk to her in class as well as the OTHER women in the class and outside your class. If you feel a rapport with her after that, then ask her out. I mean this in a good, helpful way, but it sounds like you have a ways to go with women. I have been where you are. Try and find a friend or brother or cousin or something who is good with women and have him help you out.
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