Did I ask too much? Or just worrying about nothing?

[Scratches]

English isn't my native tongue.

 

Alright, I'm a 26 year old guy who's been in 3 serious relationships, they all lasted around 1½-2 years. Two of them were LDR and that was fine and not the breakup issue.

 

Anyway, while not sounding ego or anything my looks somehow do attract girls usually when I go out the problem I'm extremely picky so I never just **** around or anything. 2 weeks ago I met this girl completely randomly while standing in line for a club and we had a lot in common, for example vegetarianism. Anyway I asked her and her friend if I could hang out with them the rest of the night and we did hang out a bit and dance and have fun (although I wasn't with them 100% of the time)

 

...to make a long story short we added each other on facebook yesterday (I sent her a message on FB asking if she was the one I met, a few days after we had met) and she replied yesterday saying she had read it and forgotten to reply and apologized, and she was the one friending me on facebook after this. I accepted the friend request of course.

 

Now to the problem, I was having some personal issues with my family that day and was kind of down so when I read her message it lit up my world a bit so I wrote back and saying that her late reply was no problem at all and then I wrote if she wanted to hang out, have some veggie food and a beer or something - and I also continued saying that of all the people and experiences that night at the club I met she got stuck on my mind and I how I didn't expect that to happen.

 

(since I'm picky about girls remember?)

 

then I continued with some random babbling and how "it felt odd writing this since I never really meet any interesting girls even as a girl friend, and being vegetarian as well" I finished it off by saying "Anyway no pressure, think about it and we can talk here later about it or something, I'll type out my phone number just in case that's easier <insert number" ****, I really regret how much crap I talked instead of just shortening it down and asking for her number.

 

To make matters worse I guess I wrote 4 hours later saying that I had just woken up from a long powernap (which was true) and that I realized how much babbling I had replied with to her and that I hope it was alright. Then I said that she can send her number to me instead of that I gave her mine (in a slightly joking manner, it's hard to translate it into english)

 

Well, it's only been 24h but I honestly hate how I handled this already. A similar thing happened 3-4 years ago when I was "too excited" to have found someone that I really thought was incredibly interesting and I basically probably came across as some "hyper/overly babbly" person. And now I'm probably looking overly paranoid haha ^^

 

Anyway obviously I should just wait out and see if she'll reply back but what's your opinion about this and could this potentially have f'ed things up about a potential date/hanging out?

 

Since she did say "Sorry about the late reply" and that she was the one adding me, I guess the chances aren't too slim but I hope she'll just give her number since I'm actually a very calm, chillout and very good at having a phone conversation. Plus I feel horribly stupid for half-asking her out on FB.

Edited April 15, 2012 by Scratches

[january2011]

In your eagerness, you're over-thinking this.

 

If she likes you, she'll respond. It's out of your hands now. Best to just chill and find something else to focus your energies on.

[Scratches]

Yeah you're right. I'll do that now.

 

It's so annoying though because this has only happened once before with a girl and she was actually really into me but at that time we both had really busy job schedules so we texted each other a lot (which I'm not really a fan of either) and I guess (can't really remember) I did have similar a similar overly excited tone in most of my texts. Our texts and contact did fade away eventually after 2 months (we did talk a few times on the phone but yeah we did both have really busy jobs and I was working in a medical environment that didn't allow me to carry my phone around on my shifts)

 

Anyway 24h is a short time and her FB wall isn't too active so I'll just go and clean my apartment and such, it's good to stay active in situations like these.

 

If anyone's done something similar or had some guy/girl give them this impression, then feel free to share that experience and what happened. My situation isn't too extreme/clingy but feel free to share those too if you've had them.

[M2155]

First, I understand your eagerness having been in similar situations- it's so infrequent that we meet someone that gets us excited that it is hard to be patient. Like you said, it's only been 24 hrs.

 

That said, if I was on the receiving end of your message does make you sound a little over-eager which is a turnoff. For example I had a guy message me on an online dating site over and over again, even when I didn't respond- I had not been online much so first I did not have a chance to respond and when I did, I had a reply from him within minutes. In the back of my mind I'm wondering does he do this to everyone? Is he a stalker?

 

Anyway, back to you. You only contacted her twice so leave it at that for now, especially if you don't see any FB activity. You put it alllll on the table so she doesn't have any questions. But I know if I were you, I would write again in a week saying Hello I tried this great vegetarian spot and think you may like it. Would you like to go? But definitely wait a while and give her a chance to respond.