fishtaco Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Having platonic female friends is definitely a good thing. But it's difficult, and I would not recommend it, if you find them attractive, like other posters have said. But with that said, why not do things in RL instead of going OLD? OLD sucks. It works for a specific type of men that are built for it. What is that type you ask? Well, if you have to ask then it's not for you. And you are right, OLD dating is for dating, not for friendship. Unless you have trouble meeting friends. I would suggest meetup or something like that. Finding platonic friends on OLD is... strange.
Author irc333 Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 Having platonic female friends is definitely a good thing. But it's difficult, and I would not recommend it, if you find them attractive, like other posters have said. But with that said, why not do things in RL instead of going OLD? OLD sucks. It works for a specific type of men that are built for it. What is that type you ask? Well, if you have to ask then it's not for you. And you are right, OLD dating is for dating, not for friendship. Unless you have trouble meeting friends. I would suggest meetup or something like that. Finding platonic friends on OLD is... strange. Actually, I've been doing Meetups, they're great! What's funny is, I'm seeing a lot of women from the Meetup events ALSO on dating sites as well. So I'm seeing them on BOTH arenas. Kind of shows how both online and OFFline are blending in together.
Eddie Edirol Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 (edited) Lately, I've really been trying to take friend's advice on being okay with being "just friends" with women, and having no expectations that it could turn into something. Most Women friends are useless as friends if they wont set you up with their friends. Especially if they wont tell you why you arent attractive to women to help you out. They are usually the ones that blow you off often. A woman I met on a dating site, that I had met, and really hit it off, she loved my humor, and compared to the other men she'd met, they just creeped her out or did something to turn her off. This women didnt really hit it off with you, she knew within the first 20 minutes that she wasnt attracted to you, she just put on a happy act to get the date over with. She's not reeling from a divorce, she just didnt like what she saw. Dont be platonic friends with someone who is too chickenshyt to tell you what youre doing wrong, its weak character. I have friends telling me, if I"m not okay with being just only friends with women, it might not be healthy....that I SHOULD be open to it, because you can get USED to being around women, and if they're comfortable around you to be friends with you (Because there are just some guys that want to get into their pants, nothing more....so they don't' get invited out to any parties) Wrong. All the jerks get invited to the parties. Your girlfriends need an emotional tampon when their friends dont want to listen. I mean, who invites you to all the parties? WHo actually tries to set you up with their friends. They only do it if it makes them look good. So if none of them do it...... Not only that, very few women, probably only one or two, will actually be a true friend. The rest have an agenda. Also, if you're a man that is SEEN with other female friends OTHER women will find this attractive, being how you might have something to offer, even if these platonic friends are with you. Being around women, is attractive TO other women, yes?? Only if at least one of those women is all over you. PDA and such. Women see this stuff from a mile away. If none of those women are actually touching you often, the scoper will wonder why and assume its because you arent a good mate. Ones that arent aggressive enough to go for it wont even bother. Also, "networking" by allowing yourself to be okay with friendships with women, can allow you access to their OTHER female friends, right? I found that the only female friends that wanted to set me up with their friends are women that were attracted to me themselves. But by that point, I didnt need any help. But lately, I dunno, just been kind of turned off by my 4th or 5th offer of friendship. Youre on a website that has all the clues and hints to turn women on, you havent tried them yet? Edited April 17, 2012 by Eddie Edirol
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