EasyHeart Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I think at this point we have to assume he likes her. We know he's single, he's on a dating site looking for dates, and he showed up as a good match for Tigressa on that site. I admit that I don't know much about online dating, but she also might have shown up as a good match for him? Either way, he's single, he's similar in age, he's friendly, and at least some computer program thinks they're compatible. That means there's a very high probability that he's attracted to her. Tigressa: One of the good things about meeting someone at work (or school) is that you get to see each other on a regular basis -- without having to do anything else! When you think about it, "dating" is just an excuse to see the other person, get to know them, and then decide if you want to pursue a relationship. Don't put any weight into the fact that he hasn't called you. It's irrelevant because he knows he can see you at work every day. Assuming he's interested, you're just skipping the first few initial dates where you get to know each other and you're doing that at lunch and whenever else you see each other. That's a gift, so appreciate it for what it is. I know you're impulsive and I can relate (because I'm an Aries, too!), but this is one of those situations that you should let develop slowly. If you're really dead-set on having a rebound, then this guy probably isn't your best choice. Take a few weeks/months to get to know him and see what happens. If you really need a rebound (which I discourage) go to a bar.
kaylan Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 (edited) I wouldnt do this OP. Its one thing to risk a job for someone you truly click with and care about. Id go for it if I truly wanted to date a girl from work. But I wouldnt risk my job, or risk my comfortableness at my job, simply for the sake of a fvk. Seriously, things could be super weird after you guys hooked up, if you do in fact hook up. Who wants to deal with seeing someone they used to hook up with every day at work? Like other said, dont crap where you eat. And Im surprised you were silly enough to use your work email to talk to each other so much. Totally unprofessional and Id have given you both a warning if I was your supervisor. It makes no sense why you two ever used the work email for talking all day if you knew your superiors could see it.Is it just me or does it seem typical that one day someone on here is crying about "their man" and being all emotional/dramatic and telling you how they can't let go, then the next day or weeks later It's a post about a new guy entirely! Like wtf! lol I'm starting to lose track...man this is crazy, women just move on way too fast..It's mind-boggling and must be exhausting to be a woman. "I'm looking to have some fun with my office crush; I see him as an ideal candidate for it. It'll be lovely to have him as a friend if he isn't interested otherwise. I'm not looking for anything remotely serious so I won't be crushed." Like really? Famous last words right there...weeks later It'll be about how emotionally attached you are feeling and whether we think he wants something serious or not. Should I just predict the next three posts and comment on them accordingly? might save some time! Rebounds have the most to do with this since rebounds let us escape our feelings for someone else for a little bit. Women dont move on any quicker than men imo. They are just able to hide the fact that they havent moved on, easier than men can Why? Because they have a new guy distraction quicker then dudes will have a new girl distraction. This is because men do the chasing usually so rebounds come without much effort for women. When guys are getting over someone, sometimes are effort is too zapped to care about chasing women. I knew when I was on the rebound from my ex, a girl chased me hard at a party and things sorta just happened that night. Nothing would have happened if I had to chase her myself. Personally I dont think OP is over her ex. I simply think shes rushing things to force herself to move on. I dont think shes going about it organically. I feel the rushing to get a rebound, the quickly throwing out of all reminders of the ex, and the cold posts are just an attempt to move the process long as fast as possible. If she wants to do it that way, then cool, but how well is this all gonna work when the ultimate reminder is that you will still be living in the apartment you had together with that ex. Like I get reminders of my ex when Im in my room at home, since we spent a lot of time in my room, but its MY room...it was never OUR room. Maybe Im just different, but I couldnt see myself staying in the apartment I got with my ex, and then building new connections with other women inside of that place. Good luck though OP...just sharing my opinions Edited April 16, 2012 by kaylan
Author tigressA Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 Well, he now knows I'm on OKC. I saw he visited my profile earlier.
Author tigressA Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 Aaaaand guess who I just got a text from....
johan Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Sorry. I was trying to text my sister. Her name also starts with T. 1
Art_Critic Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Sorry. I was trying to text my sister. Her name also starts with T. hahahaha.. I hope you don't talk like that to your sister
Star Gazer Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Aaaaand guess who I just got a text from.... At 10:00 on a Sunday night? Hmm.
SmileFace Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 At 10:00 on a Sunday night? Hmm. Isn't that the proper time for a booty call? Which will be the goal in this situation, right? 1
Author tigressA Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 Won't be happening tonight; I'm already settled in. Seems like it's all coming along nicely though.
Star Gazer Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Isn't that the proper time for a booty call? Which will be the goal in this situation, right? A Sunday night? Actually, no.
johan Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 hahahaha.. I hope you don't talk like that to your sister TigressA shouldn't take it personally when I say, "stumbled across more of your porn pics. My eyeballs are burning." 2
SmileFace Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 A Sunday night? Actually, no. Why not? Is there some kind of religious rule tied into proper booty call etiquette ? (haha) No seriously, why not?
Author tigressA Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 Why not? Is there some kind of religious rule tied into proper booty call etiquette ? (haha) No seriously, why not? Yeah, I'm curious too.
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Wohoooo! TigressA and me are having flingzzzz
reallyhotguy Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Wohoooo! TigressA and me are having flingzzzz Wait, so you're the one who texted her? 4
Author tigressA Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 Things have been developing nicely. Today I let him know we had to quit with the work email. He agreed. We were texting for hours; my inbox is full.
dispatch3d Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 It's a lot easier to send emails than to call a girl. Calling a girl is relatievely difficult honestly. What does he invite you to? Whats the purpose? etc. etc. I mean I realize from your end he has your number whats the problem, but from his end he has to figure out basically everything from phone call to non-awkward first meeting.
Author tigressA Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 We had a team meeting today and sat near each other. Started deliberately taking our breaks together, and we were texting on and off today too. Gaaaaaahhh, he's bloody gorgeous. 1
JohnnyCage Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I did make clear in a previous thread that no one else motivated the split. Other things that were actually important took precedence--like my own well-being, for instance. I did post that I was extremely stressed out and making myself ill, losing weight, getting chronic headaches, being unable to sleep. I am not concerned with my ex outside of practical issues that still exist, so I couldn't care less about getting revenge on him. Why would I even want to? I broke up with him. I don't care to kick him when he's down. Trust me on this. He is definitely not down to be rid of you. He is probably thanking the stars that "you dumped him" for a crush!!!
InJest Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Texting for hours, until your inbox is full...and you want this to be a casual thing?
perryb13 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I know that, as a guy, I'm always super cautious when it comes to approaching a girl, even if she's acting like you're acting. The problem I've had is that some girls give mixed signals and it makes us guys hesitant...perhaps try being a little more direct with him? If you're interested, try and act like you are definitely interested. Best case, he figures that out and then you start something...worst case, he's not, and then you move on. But it's just stressful when you're both playing that guessing game. Again, that's just a male opinion on things.
Author tigressA Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 I don't see it as stressful at all. It's a lot of fun talking and hanging out with him. I'm no longer thinking of where it's all leading. I'm enjoying it for what it is.
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