DjinnAgain Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I had never before intuited that a guy was interested in me and been incorrect. I have thought a guy wasn't interested in me and been wrong many times. My exes had always called me naive on that front. I thought I only picked up on obvious signals and was pretty safe on that front. It would appear I have gotten rusty. I was talking to the guy after putting my daughter bed for an hour plus each night while I went about chores for several weeks now. If I didn't text him during the day, he'd send me a text. We have a lot in common and are a lot a like. He knew from the moment we met that I was divorced with a child, because it was brought up in conversation before I arrived why I was late to the get into town. (We have mutual friends in the town he lives in.) Several times he drove two hours to come see me in my town and talked about what we would do in the future. He sent a long email complimenting my mothering ability and sharing his attempts into adoption. Recently, we went for a short backpacking trip with a small group and it was only then I began to think he might be interested. He told me three times unprovoked that I looked beautiful (When I got there; half way through; and before we parted ways). He asked to hold hands when he fell and hurt himself and we had to wait for help, and for a hug when I got there and when I left, and thank me a lot for staying with him while we waited. He did shrug aside when I attempted to compliment him with a laugh or something, and that was my only clue that maybe how I was starting to feel about him was not reciprocated. Well, and talk about how hard it is to find somebody, but I just read that as insecurity more than "just good friends". He is not the type I dated before I was married. I was talking to him on the phone tonight and I asked him what he was looking for, and among the list of NO WAYs, "And I won't date any one who has been divorced because they don't take commitment as seriously as God intended." Wooooaaaaah. "Wait? You like me? I had no clue. I'm sorry I said it that way. I hope we can still talk. I would really miss you." Though I am very attracted to him, it does look like I have another friend. Which might be good, because my friend base is strongly females - the males are all just married to females in my friend base. A single male might have a good perspective. Also, I hate feeling like a 16 year old again. Maybe I really will just stay single forever. I thought it was just a joke to put off the hordes of setups my friends are trying to bring on because women cannot stand leaving another woman single. This is lame! Haven't I grown any in the last over a decade? Instead, I've gotten worse at it! Thank Goodness I have a while before I possibly have to advise teenagers. "I'm sorry, sweetie, Mommy is what we call socially inept." I can't even sleep now and I guarantee you my child will be up at 6 am with a wake up call. Did I really used to think dating and all related was fun?
Author DjinnAgain Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 yeah, I guess there wasn't much a question there so much as venting. Anyone else care to share their stories of completely misread the situation to make me feel like less of an idiot?
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