antineutrino Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Basically, this guy tries to be as awkward as possible when approaching girls, and at one point actually secures a number. I was a little surprised since everyone says that confidence is the key. Almost 22 here. Never been on a date. Generally been too shy to approach/ask out random girls. I've asked out a few friends in the past (after developing a strong attraction), but that never worked. I did a search on cold approaches, and found mixed responses on whether this is a good method for getting a date. People suggested using environmental cues to begin conversations -- what about using a line like "Hey, I think you're in one of my classes" (or something along those lines)? Are cold approaches even advisable for someone w/o the experience? I'll be starting grad school in the fall, and have heard from several people that it's not a good idea to date within the department/school (avoid drama, small classes means things travel through the grapevine easily, etc). Does that mean I should go after girls who are still in undergrad? Or just random people in the city?
jobaba Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 With your experience level and likely poor game, I wouldn't rely on cold approach. Though you can still do it to mitigate your fear of rejection and nervousness around women, don't expect tangible results from it. Graduate school is great for talking to women. Unless you are majoring in Applied Math or something similar, it will be a social, very small, close knit community with cute women. There is also a lot more camaraderie than undergrad. That will help you with talking to women. And don't worry about what people say. There were a few couples in my grad program. Nothing weird or dramatic ever came from it. Your best bet is to join campus activities and be involved in stuff you like. Just talk to and hit on a lot of women. Since you've never been on a date, you have a bit of a mountain to climb. Your first date (when you get it) probably will not go well. It will probably take a few dates or even several before you find a woman that likes you. Quantity, my man. Make it a point to chat up women and ask them out. Yes, it's a rough game. Gotta take the bull by the horns.
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