berry_A Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Me and my ex boyfriend dated for 2 years and they were very good for the most part. The last 5 months of our relationship started getting rocky and was not as stable as I would have liked it to be. A few weeks ago he told me the reason he's been acting distant is because he feels guilty. He confessed he cheated on me during the first few months of our relationships and apologized/begged for forgiveness. I still haven't forgiven him because it takes time. He never talks about his feelings so when he finally told me how he felt it was a lot to handle but i was almost relieved. We continued to hangout but less often and talked less often. All of his friends would tell me how much he loved me and how guilty they knew he felt, which i could truly see. A few weeks went by and I was in a phase where I was upset over what happened but he always made me feel better so I became to dependent on him in the last few weeks of our relationship. I know that I should've taken a good amount of time away from him but it was just really hard because I could see his guilt. A few days ago the unexpected happened... I went out with a few friends one of which was his best guy friend. He was out of town and couldn't go out with us so he got really jealous and mad. He told me he thought we both needed space because he constantly felt like i was going to "get even" and he didn't want to be jealous. I feel the same exact way, I've wanted space for a while I just haven't been honest with myself about it. Now that he's gone I really miss him. He told me that he still loves me and wants to be with me, but that over the last few months he's felt distant and didn't think he was "in love" with me. He says he just needs space and time to clear his head so we can start fresh. I really want to do the same. He told me he wasn't going to see other girls and I told him my goal was to move on. Any advice on this situation? I'd just like to know if anything similar has happened and actually worked? or if it's just time to move on?
HollyBolly Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Me and my ex boyfriend dated for 2 years and they were very good for the most part. The last 5 months of our relationship started getting rocky and was not as stable as I would have liked it to be. A few weeks ago he told me the reason he's been acting distant is because he feels guilty. He confessed he cheated on me during the first few months of our relationships and apologized/begged for forgiveness. I still haven't forgiven him because it takes time. He never talks about his feelings so when he finally told me how he felt it was a lot to handle but i was almost relieved. We continued to hangout but less often and talked less often. All of his friends would tell me how much he loved me and how guilty they knew he felt, which i could truly see. A few weeks went by and I was in a phase where I was upset over what happened but he always made me feel better so I became to dependent on him in the last few weeks of our relationship. I know that I should've taken a good amount of time away from him but it was just really hard because I could see his guilt. A few days ago the unexpected happened... I went out with a few friends one of which was his best guy friend. He was out of town and couldn't go out with us so he got really jealous and mad. He told me he thought we both needed space because he constantly felt like i was going to "get even" and he didn't want to be jealous. I feel the same exact way, I've wanted space for a while I just haven't been honest with myself about it. Now that he's gone I really miss him. He told me that he still loves me and wants to be with me, but that over the last few months he's felt distant and didn't think he was "in love" with me. He says he just needs space and time to clear his head so we can start fresh. I really want to do the same. He told me he wasn't going to see other girls and I told him my goal was to move on. Any advice on this situation? I'd just like to know if anything similar has happened and actually worked? or if it's just time to move on? It sounds like you're both really young. My advice? Live life. You will learn soon enough that this is just a glitch. Don't worry about it too much.
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