riggs Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Question for the women. If you are into a guy that is on the quiet/reserved side will you, in general, be patient before he makes a move?
verhrzn Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Question for the women. If you are into a guy that is on the quiet/reserved side will you, in general, be patient before he makes a move? It depends. If he isn't showing much interest in me... communicating with me in some way (texting or chatting online if he's too shy in person)... I give him a week, maybe two, and then I move on. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Question for the women. If you are into a guy that is on the quiet/reserved side will you, in general, be patient before he makes a move? I wasn't born with the patient gene. If the fellow stands there like a lump and doesn't try to hold my hand or look right into my eyes, show some sign of life, then, no. Either you feel something or you don't.
Author riggs Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 I wasn't born with the patient gene. If the fellow stands there like a lump and doesn't try to hold my hand or look right into my eyes, show some sign of life, then, no. Either you feel something or you don't. My circumstances are different. I occasionally and only briefly see a woman with my job (we dont work together). Based on her eye contact, voice inflection and the fact she said my name twice within 20 seconds of my introduction I know she is interested. Next time I see her, I plan on making a move. Problem is, I don't know when that will be.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 My circumstances are different. I occasionally and only briefly see a woman with my job (we dont work together). Based on her eye contact, voice inflection and the fact she said my name twice within 20 seconds of my introduction I know she is interested. Next time I see her, I plan on making a move. Problem is, I don't know when that will be. Start out by asking her out for coffee next time you have a conversation together. No harm in that:)
Author riggs Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 Start out by asking her out for coffee next time you have a conversation together. No harm in that:) Oh, I'm just going to ask for her number. I'm a courier for a national delivery company and she has signed 6 or 7 times since January. She is busy, I'm in a hurry, her co-workers are around.....it's not the best environment. She has a comfort level because I make innocuous comments and she isn't having to explain herself. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Oh, I'm just going to ask for her number. I'm a courier for a national delivery company and she has signed 6 or 7 times since January. She is busy, I'm in a hurry, her co-workers are around.....it's not the best environment. She has a comfort level because I make innocuous comments and she isn't having to explain herself. Go for it:)
Author riggs Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 Thanks. I'm off this week so it will be at least a month between visits. I want to ask her and get it out of the way.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Thanks. I'm off this week so it will be at least a month between visits. I want to ask her and get it out of the way. Could you make a special trip to see her and ask?
Author riggs Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 I could, but won't. I really don't have a rapport with her. Basically, she is busy but has time for me and is receptive to comments I make. She isn't the type to flirt just to flirt, so I know she has some interest. She is attractive and a tad reserved, so I'd imagine she is tires of explaining herself all the time to guys who approach her. I just want to ask her in the normal flow of things. I think she would be turned off if I went in solely to chat her up.
Charulata Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Hey, so I think you gotta make a special trip to go in & see her. Maybe save her delivery for the end of your route. Otherwise you will continue to find an excuse not to ask her. Go when she isn't busy, towards closing ( when things are winding down). If you just do it you'll get it out of the way no matter the result. It'll stop driving you crazy. Good luck!
Charulata Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 And... I don't think she will be turned off! I would be flattered if a guy came in to see me. She might not get hit on that much, unless she goes out to bars a lot. Ok, so those are totally my own projections but still ask her out! And I hope to hear how it goes.
Author riggs Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 And... I don't think she will be turned off! I would be flattered if a guy came in to see me. She might not get hit on that much, unless she goes out to bars a lot. Ok, so those are totally my own projections but still ask her out! And I hope to hear how it goes. I'm tempted but don't think so. It would be awkward if she was on the phone or gone and I had to explain to her co-workers why I was there. You never know, but based on her voice inflections and how she reacted when I told her I knew her name I get the idea she has stored this in the back of her mind and is curious enough to give it half a chance.
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