SJC2008 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Was getting a haircut today and was joking around with the girl cutting my hair. I JOKINGlY asked her how much longer do I have before the rest of my hair falls out and she goes "let me give you a tip, confidence man, girls like that". I wasn't offended at all but if she was serious that making a joke about my thinning hair showed a lack of confidence she's got another thing comming. Hindsight being 20/20 she's cut my hair a few times and can be a witch with a b intead of a w.
sid3 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Was getting a haircut today and was joking around with the girl cutting my hair. I JOKINGlY asked her how much longer do I have before the rest of my hair falls out and she goes "let me give you a tip, confidence man, girls like that". I wasn't offended at all but if she was serious that making a joke about my thinning hair showed a lack of confidence she's got another thing comming. Hindsight being 20/20 she's cut my hair a few times and can be a witch with a b intead of a w. Wow she's obviously very intuitive. Question is did you tip her well.
Author SJC2008 Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 Wow she's obviously very intuitive. Question is did you tip her well. Don't know about intuitive bc like I sais I was joking and wasn't sobbing. To me being able to joke about it would show the opposite of a lack for confidence IMO. I tipped her $2
january2011 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 People come out with all sorts just to make conversation. They can be tactless, offensive, well meaning hackneyed responses just to avoid uncomfortable silences and in some respects stock phrases used in certain customer service roles just to keep the 'client' happy. I'd say that if you were happy enough with your haircut that you tipped her, then she did a good job.
Author SJC2008 Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 People come out with all sorts just to make conversation. They can be tactless, offensive, well meaning hackneyed responses just to avoid uncomfortable silences and in some respects stock phrases used in certain customer service roles just to keep the 'client' happy. I'd say that if you were happy enough with your haircut that you tipped her, then she did a good job. Lol about the tip. Like I said, I wasn't offended and actually thought it was funny. I just get a kick at how some women throw the word around and fast like it's a silver bullet or something. You can be a confident man or woman but if he/she doesn't like you there's nothing you can do about it.
xxoo Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Sounds like she touched a nerve. Not about the baldness, but about the confidence. 1
johan Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 It was condescending of her. It was also an artful dodge. She didn't have to answer the hair question.
USMCHokie Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I would have interpreted that as absolutely nothing but a humorous response to your question. I probably would have had a longer conversation stemming from that. But then again, I go to the same barber girl once a week...rapport is built...fun times are always had.
january2011 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Lol about the tip. Like I said, I wasn't offended and actually thought it was funny. I just get a kick at how some women throw the word around and fast like it's a silver bullet or something. You can be a confident man or woman but if he/she doesn't like you there's nothing you can do about it. I think she was just trying to be helpful. Most hairdressers I come across seem to think that they're amateur therapists and take on this role with glee. Regarding confidence = silver bullet, I think there's is no denying the anecdotal 'evidence' that confidence can have on a positive effect on a guy's success rate and self-esteem, otherwise, it wouldn't be trolleyed out as often as it is. Perhaps it is not a cure for all ills and there is no guaranteed method to get an individual girl. However, raising a guy's confidence and his self-esteem gives him the kahones to keep putting himself out there and to keep trying, even when faced with frequent and sometimes quite brutal rejection. Your hairdresser probably has no idea what your 'success rate' is with girls - she probably doesn't really care because it doesn't really affect her - however, what she does care about, presmably, is doing a good job and keeping her client happy so that he might tip her and return to the salon again for his next hair cut. She read you wrong in this instance but gave you a nice little anecdote for a thread. Seems like win all around!
Author SJC2008 Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 I wasn't trying to open a can of worms. I just thought it was a weird response to a joke. Now if I was sobbing like "I'll never get a girl cuz I'm going bald" then point taken. But I asked her with a smile and everything. I was expecting like a "You'll be bald when you wake up tomorrow" or something along those lines. It wasn't awkward after that bc I took it in stride and we still made small talk.
carhill Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 So did you give her a tip back? Sometimes people just 'bla, bla'. I know, since my exW has been a hair stylist for about 20 years now. Some of the stuff I heard...
january2011 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I wasn't trying to open a can of worms. No worries. It's a good thread topic and interesting angle to consider whether or not we (men and women) do use confidence as some kind of silver bullet for men and dating.
Author SJC2008 Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 She didn't read me wrong at all IMO. She was even joking with me about another woman making small talk with me saying that cougar liked you (lady WAS not a cougar). She probably get's the question and is her "stock" answer. She personally did not offend me, I have thicker skin than that. It hit a nerve in what I said in a previous response, some women throw the word around like it's a silver bullet when there are many more factors that come into play.
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