dsw31 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I guess I'm just in denial but, I always feel like somehow my ex will still want me.I tend to not really enjoy anyone else's company & know he used to feel the same way.Now I feel like"how can he not want me?" How can he have fun with another girl when I couldn't even imagine having fun with another man?I am so sad,especially on the weekends. I'm sooo tempted to break NC but, I KNOW I can't & I won't.I have to prove my point-that I will not be his friend now...or ever! I just can't! If he doesn't want a relationship, I won't give him the comfort of friendship.I don't want to feed his ego by texting either.Gotta stay strong! I am so sad though.Sorry for the rant guys.I just needed to get this out.Thanks for listening! 2
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I guess I'm just in denial but, I always feel like somehow my ex will still want me.I tend to not really enjoy anyone else's company & know he used to feel the same way.Now I feel like"how can he not want me?" How can he have fun with another girl when I couldn't even imagine having fun with another man?I am so sad,especially on the weekends. I'm sooo tempted to break NC but, I KNOW I can't & I won't.I have to prove my point-that I will not be his friend now...or ever! I just can't! If he doesn't want a relationship, I won't give him the comfort of friendship.I don't want to feed his ego by texting either.Gotta stay strong! I am so sad though.Sorry for the rant guys.I just needed to get this out.Thanks for listening! Good you said all of this...Now you've got to believe it;) I was where you are. Why doesn't he want me? Then I went into self destruct mode and ate chocolate icing right out of the jar until my undies eventually cut off my circulation. But.....I am back and better than ever and he can't have me;) Know you are the prize he was not meant to have:) 2
Mr Scorpio Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 It sucks that you are hurting, but at least you have the attitude that he is missing out. It would be much worse if you were of the "of course he doesn't want me, who would?!" mindset. 1
nowwhatnow Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 it has been about 18 months and i STILL feel like that. all of the time. i still dont understand why he broke up with me (he also never told me). and i know he was hooking up with another girl for a while and its weird to think that he can so easily move on to the next. we were amazing together and i dont understand what he thought someone else could give him that i couldnt. i dont understand why he doesnt miss what we had when i miss it everyday. i even tried going on a date with someone and i felt numb. i felt nothing. i just wished it was my ex.
coltsfan1 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 this feeling is all part of the healing process and will fade in time. I went through both "how could she leave" then "why would she stay." But once I gained my confidence back I began to not care. You will get there in time, it took me 18 months. Hopefully it wont take you that long!!
Mcnulty Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Colt and nowwhat...god I feel for you..christ, 18 months...and counting for now what....I'm 6 months down and it still really hurts. (was an 8 year relationship). I haven't saw her once in that period, but saw her car last week outside the rebound guy's house, (he used to be my friend)..my heart just sank to know that she was still with him after 6 months...guess she's happy with him. I know it just takes time, but i so want to feel better...it stinks.
Mcnulty Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Colt and Nowwhat...how long were you together with your ex?
coltsfan1 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 Colt and Nowwhat...how long were you together with your ex? I was with my ex for about 4 years. I took the breakup BAD and she did everything to rip me apart. It took 6-8 months for me to truly come to terms with it, then another 6-8 months for me to get back to myself. I was in a pretty nasty motorcycle accident which didn't help, but once I made the decision that she couldn't come back no matter how much it hurt I was able to begin to move on. At this point we don't talk, share any friends, or know what the other does, but we can be in a bar at the same time and it not ruin either of our nights. That is why I can say the feeling will fade just takes time, determination, and a few breaks in life to help build you back up.
Mcnulty Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 similiar backstory, ive been in hospital, serious illness, just got out and it's really hard as i'm limited, cant do exercise or go out really, gives me more time to think of her. I hope you're right regarding breaks in life...god I need one!
coltsfan1 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I hope you're right regarding breaks in life...god I need one! Trust me I am. I couldn't wipe my a$$, walk and chew gum, I couldn't pee standing up without something going bad on my end. I just kept at it and then all the hard work started paying off at once, I got a HUGE promotion that came with a HUGE pay raise, I bought my first home, now I have the issue of deciding if I am going to get a new car or a new Harley. It was like life was saying "here is a huge plate full of steaming ****" but once I got the poo eaten off the plate I found out the plate was made of platinum. Go search some of the threads I started a year ago, you will cringe when you read them. I was so lost, I can't describe the hole I felt like my soul was in. Then over time that hole just seems to have filled in, it is still there and I stumble upon it every now and them. But it isn't some deep, dark, pit anymore just a little place that I can easily step right out of. I must say the raise and the house really was a huge part of it. I work in IT for the largest healthcare network in my state, and I just bought a large home for the area I live in. For the sake of sounding childish its kind of like I am too busy f#*king the world to worry about f#*king my ex, lol.
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