joejoe Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Guys this might sound stupid but i have been out of a 4 year relationship with my ex for over a year now and havn't dated anyone else. I really want to start dating again but its like i've forgotton how. I literally dont know how to approach women anymore. Any advice on how to get back in the game would be appreciated more than you know.
january2011 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Get out of the house. Join a local interest/hobby/sports group. Try googling 'meetup'. Or take an adult education class. Say hi and smile at everyone. Learn the art of conversation and get to know people (men and women). Learn to interact with women so that you're comfortable talking to them about most subjects. Get to know the ones that you are attracted to outside of the group situation - ask them out for a coffee or for lunch. You might have to strike out a few times, but it's worth persevering. It might even be worth accepting that you're going to be rejected a few times before you get a yes, just so that it doesn't become the unsurmountable hill that it can be for some guys. Anecdote for you: I know a guy who wanted to get back in the game very quickly and he knew that he had to overcome his self-esteem issues after a very long and soul-destroying relationsihp. He did it to the extreme and parked himself in a local dive bar. Spent an evening chatting up nearly every woman (even groups of women) he met using corny lines, knowing that he was going to get rejected. He even managed to get the bar staff to help him think of outrageous things to say. He was rejected 20+ times that night and didn't get a single number. Thankfully, none of the women he approached were offended. Some even walked away from him without saying anything. But the exercise did the trick in that he got back in the game and reminded himself that approaching women isn't the big bad wolf it can be for some.
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