kyle77 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 So I met the love of my life back in high school at the very end of grade eleven. We started dating immediately and there was a passion filled relationship. We dated for about 10 months before we took a mutual break for roughly a month. We then got back together and started dating again for another 3-4 months. Basically the old problems were still there and my ex broke up with me. She quickly got into a rebound relationship that didn't last more than 2ish months I don't remember didn't count to the day.... She is now single and I want more than anything to be with her but I don't know how to make it work. We had a class together in university this year and it has been about 6 months since we broke up. We were each other's first for everything and I know this girl inside and out. I know how she thinks, her habits, just not how to get her back. Admittedly people can change in 6 months so I guess I don't know everything but I do know that I want this girl back! In the relationship the big problem was that she didn't feel appreciated enough. I am only 19 so I am still young and am not sure how to get better at showing her my appreciation and that I truly do care for her. We have an awkward situation now as we will likely not see each other over this summer, unless I can somehow find a way to hang out with her, we are friends (only because we had that class together and talked on a weekly basis) but it is a pretty dismal situation none the less. I truly think this girl may be the one and I want to do anything I can to improve upon the problems of the past and make this relationship work. I know she must have some feelings for me because of everything I just don't know how to go about getting her to see how happy I can make her.
HollyBolly Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 So I met the love of my life back in high school at the very end of grade eleven. We started dating immediately and there was a passion filled relationship. We dated for about 10 months before we took a mutual break for roughly a month. We then got back together and started dating again for another 3-4 months. Basically the old problems were still there and my ex broke up with me. She quickly got into a rebound relationship that didn't last more than 2ish months I don't remember didn't count to the day.... She is now single and I want more than anything to be with her but I don't know how to make it work. We had a class together in university this year and it has been about 6 months since we broke up. We were each other's first for everything and I know this girl inside and out. I know how she thinks, her habits, just not how to get her back. Admittedly people can change in 6 months so I guess I don't know everything but I do know that I want this girl back! In the relationship the big problem was that she didn't feel appreciated enough. I am only 19 so I am still young and am not sure how to get better at showing her my appreciation and that I truly do care for her. We have an awkward situation now as we will likely not see each other over this summer, unless I can somehow find a way to hang out with her, we are friends (only because we had that class together and talked on a weekly basis) but it is a pretty dismal situation none the less. I truly think this girl may be the one and I want to do anything I can to improve upon the problems of the past and make this relationship work. I know she must have some feelings for me because of everything I just don't know how to go about getting her to see how happy I can make her. Why don't you just call and ask her? What's wrong with that?
Author kyle77 Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 the only problem with me just calling and asking her is that I think she will think its desperate for me to still want her after all this time apart. You see to me she still is everything i want and I have taken and am still taking steps to ensure that the problems in the past won't happen again. But I am just not sure if she wants me still. Also I feel like she will think I'm whipped or just not her type if I openly display that I want her...I feel like it needs to grow more naturally with her or else I won't get a positive outcome...I don't know but I mean she used to love pda when she was with me and then now that she is not all I hear from mutual friends is how she hates pda and thinks its needy and desperate....doesn't make sense.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 So I met the love of my life back in high school at the very end of grade eleven. We started dating immediately and there was a passion filled relationship. We dated for about 10 months before we took a mutual break for roughly a month. We then got back together and started dating again for another 3-4 months. Basically the old problems were still there and my ex broke up with me. She quickly got into a rebound relationship that didn't last more than 2ish months I don't remember didn't count to the day.... She is now single and I want more than anything to be with her but I don't know how to make it work. We had a class together in university this year and it has been about 6 months since we broke up. We were each other's first for everything and I know this girl inside and out. I know how she thinks, her habits, just not how to get her back. Admittedly people can change in 6 months so I guess I don't know everything but I do know that I want this girl back! In the relationship the big problem was that she didn't feel appreciated enough. I am only 19 so I am still young and am not sure how to get better at showing her my appreciation and that I truly do care for her. We have an awkward situation now as we will likely not see each other over this summer, unless I can somehow find a way to hang out with her, we are friends (only because we had that class together and talked on a weekly basis) but it is a pretty dismal situation none the less. I truly think this girl may be the one and I want to do anything I can to improve upon the problems of the past and make this relationship work. I know she must have some feelings for me because of everything I just don't know how to go about getting her to see how happy I can make her. ...problems of the past? in the 11th grade? You are both so very young and should be able to call one another up for a date. I doubt at 19 she would think you are desperate. Looks like this thing happened too much too soon and it fizzled. You both still have a lot to learn at that age. Seems like the passion was teenagery lust, easily confused with love. Take it slow. You have a whole life ahead of you. 1
Author kyle77 Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 so you also agree that I should just call her up and ask to hang out with her? I was at a university party with her yesterday and we talked but it was that awkward conversation. Nothing special. As cheesy as it sounds I honestly just want to make her as happy as possible and we had this magical passion filled relationship for about 10 months and then it kind of went all weird. But I just want to get her and I back to that time where we made each other so happy.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 so you also agree that I should just call her up and ask to hang out with her? I was at a university party with her yesterday and we talked but it was that awkward conversation. Nothing special. As cheesy as it sounds I honestly just want to make her as happy as possible and we had this magical passion filled relationship for about 10 months and then it kind of went all weird. But I just want to get her and I back to that time where we made each other so happy. I'm sorry, but I can't keep a straight face when I read that you had a "passion filled 10 months" at your age. Do you miss the passion or do you miss just hanging out and going to a movie and dinner with her? Do you miss the good conversation and just being in her presence? Don't rush it, whatever you do. If you call her up to hang out, make sure that hanging out means hanging out. Call her for a date. 1
Author kyle77 Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 kay ya sorry passion might be the wrong word...to be honest what i miss is just playin around. Just laughing at the little things. Going to the movies and putting M&M lipstick on one another....cheesy i know but its the little things that i miss soooo much....Like thinking now the happiest I have ever been in my life was when I was just sitting on the couch with her helping her study her german notes and laughing at the funny words and pronouncing the words funny. I don't so much miss the passion as i miss who she was as a person and the fun times we had together.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 kay ya sorry passion might be the wrong word...to be honest what i miss is just playin around. Just laughing at the little things. Going to the movies and putting M&M lipstick on one another....cheesy i know but its the little things that i miss soooo much....Like thinking now the happiest I have ever been in my life was when I was just sitting on the couch with her helping her study her german notes and laughing at the funny words and pronouncing the words funny. I don't so much miss the passion as i miss who she was as a person and the fun times we had together. Sounds like you had a very sweet connection and a friendship to base things on. Give her a call and take it from there. Don't be nervous as you were connected and it just seemed to drift. Since you know her very well, maybe take her to a favorite place she likes to eat, maybe a nice walk to catch up on things, too.
HollyBolly Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 kay ya sorry passion might be the wrong word...to be honest what i miss is just playin around. Just laughing at the little things. Going to the movies and putting M&M lipstick on one another....cheesy i know but its the little things that i miss soooo much....Like thinking now the happiest I have ever been in my life was when I was just sitting on the couch with her helping her study her german notes and laughing at the funny words and pronouncing the words funny. I don't so much miss the passion as i miss who she was as a person and the fun times we had together. Honey, you're both so young! Enjoy this. Give her a call. Don't complicate things now. Just go with it! Trust me. Just call her. What have you got to lose, really? Good luck, hon! I want to say 'May the force be with you' but you may be too young to get it. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Honey, you're both so young! Enjoy this. Give her a call. Don't complicate things now. Just go with it! Trust me. Just call her. What have you got to lose, really? Good luck, hon! I want to say 'May the force be with you' but you may be too young to get it. I just want to give this guy a hug; sounds like a sweetie; hope it works out well for him. 1
HollyBolly Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I just want to give this guy a hug; sounds like a sweetie; hope it works out well for him. Me, too! Btw, I had that song in my head ALL day: "He's a fool and don't I know it. But a fool can have his charms..." 1
Author kyle77 Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 Thanks for the advice guys! I have an exam coming up and so I think Im gonna call her and see if she maybe wants to study with me. Maybe I can ease her into hanging out over the summer. Any advice on how to act and what to do while with her? Im guessing just keep it easy and be myself?.... 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Thanks for the advice guys! I have an exam coming up and so I think Im gonna call her and see if she maybe wants to study with me. Maybe I can ease her into hanging out over the summer. Any advice on how to act and what to do while with her? Im guessing just keep it easy and be myself?.... Just be yourself:)
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