Behind the scenes: what some guys do (I know ladys do too)

[wwwjd]

Everything is happenstance, accidental, right? Not really. And for the well planned and successful people, almost nothing is.

 

Here's what I did recently because I knew I would be merely CROSSING PATHS with someone of interest the other day.

 

1. Altered my path and plan for the afternooon enough to control everything around that short path crossing.

 

2. Stopped buy Penney's, tried on and bought 3 new shirts. I knew exactly which one I would use, but wanted backup options to try on in front of mirror. Had a backup store in mind incase Penney's was lacking.

 

3. went home, did an additional teeth brushing and mouth washing.

 

4. trimmed up beard, and clipped some rogue eyelashes

 

5. freshened up cologne from the day with another spurt. sprayed some Axe body spray under my shirt (shaddup!)

 

6. tried on my new shirts, went with my first choice (as I knew I probably would, but now I have some other nice shirts for variety later)

 

7. cinched belt up one extra hole more than normal to keep things in their place

 

8. picked out a sharper jacket than the one I wore to work

 

9. dug out some nicer shoes and used that foam instant shiner thing on them

 

10. headed out and made sure the car was clean and dusted off

 

11. crossed paths, eye contact, brief hellos, MISSION ACCOMPLISHED

 

Best feet forward always. It's the only way to go.

If nothing else, it always makes one feel great stepping out live when you "Got it going on"

 

Anyone else willing to admit they do this kind of thing?

[LZ2000]

Yup.

 

I did that before.

 

I did that because at that point in time, just making a small detour to catch a glimpse of a girl whom I like made my day.

[dasein]

Of course, we've all done it, part of what puts the "humor" in "human."

[wwwjd]

but do the ladies even know WE guys put this much into even a small chance crossing?

[dasein]

They do because they do the exact same thing. Most things thought coincidental are far from it.

[wwwjd]

Ladies? Nothing?

 

Oh, I know.... you don't wanna hear this. And prefer everything be all wonderful and farey tale like. It's just natural, not planned or contrived.

He's just NATURALLY like heaven!! [sigh] hahahahhahaa

[january2011]

but do the ladies even know WE guys put this much into even a small chance crossing?

 

Outside of movies and TV series depicting the rites of passage of male teenagers preparing for their first date, no, I didn't know that adult men went to these lengths just for a very brief encounter. It makes sense, but it's not something I've really put much thought into. I guess it's because I've always been looking at prep from a female point of view and the rigmarole that we put ourselves through to look presentable.

[The Great Gazoo]

Hey wwwjd.

 

No offense dude. But that seems like a lot of effort just for a chance encounter. Can't say I have it in me to chase or work that hard.

[RedRobin]

There have been times when I've put in extra effort to attract the attention of someone I was interested in.

 

Most of the time I resist that urge and just take care to be my authentic self... consistently.

 

If there is something that I think needs improving (over all), I'll work on that quality for my own betterment and enjoyment... and try not to worry about who pays attention.

 

If you feel, OP, that you want to cultivate some of the qualities you listed above and feel that would attract the kind of woman you want, then perhaps you need to work some of those things into your daily or weekly routine in some way.

 

That way, when some other interesting person crosses your path, you are prepared.

[mixwell]

The only time I've went the extra step was when I had a date or whatever, I never go out in public 100% groomed out to HOPE some chick notices me. I hope the effort you put into grooming and having a chick notice you isn't for nothing and you actually approach her.

 

When I see a chick in public that's quite attractive it seems to fade quickly for me.. I see her and check her out "Damn she looks good" which is obvious but then what ? How is she personally, am I going to approach her etc... Doesn't matter how decked out you get if you're not interacting with the person you're trying to look good for.

[Negative Nancy]

sprayed some Axe body spray under my shirt

 

[wwwjd]

Hey wwwjd.

 

No offense dude. But that seems like a lot of effort just for a chance encounter. Can't say I have it in me to chase or work that hard.

 

Wasn't the first meeting, and won't be the last. And I LOVE the thrill of the chase anyway.

It was the end of my work day and I wasn't exactly in top form at that time. All I did was some additional tweaking to regular decent hygiene. All part of the master plan and laying a solid foundation.

 

Needed some new shirts anyway, so, I made that timing fit.

Besides, the whole thing is kind of a mental build yourself up thing anyway. Just makes ya feel good to step out like that.

 

When I see someone in public, the first thing I look at is her ring finger

[carhill]

I put on a clean baseball cap.

 

Truth told, what seems like a lifetime ago, yeah, I would do all that primping and preening stuff. In retrospect, it was just a waste of my valuable time. As one ages, priorities become more focused. Primping for women is not one of them. The ladies who attended a small dinner party the other evening got a first-hand taste of that, after I had spent all day under a house doing plumbing and merely took off the coveralls over my street clothes for dinner. Priorities. The house helps me recover from my divorce. The ladies, not so much.