SushiX Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 What's wrong with just giving him some booty? You said you're not looking for anything serious either! 1
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 Most of you got it wrong. I am not afraid of getting feelings, I am more afraid of never having feelings again. I feel completely frozen inside. None of these guys mean anything. I couldn't care less if they call/don't call. I even forgot that model was supposed to be back in town this week. Trutfully, I just want to pull away and be by myself. I guess I am afraid that if I do that, I will become like before - I was so comfortable on my own that I avoided dating for years. I am not sure if isolation is good for me but it's what I long for.
Anela Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 If that's the way you feel, then I think you should do that. I felt that way for a long while, but ignored those feelings for the same reason you mentioned - that was a mistake. I should have followed my gut, and now I back off when I feel the need to.
RedRobin Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Most of you got it wrong. I am not afraid of getting feelings, I am more afraid of never having feelings again. I feel completely frozen inside. None of these guys mean anything. I couldn't care less if they call/don't call. I even forgot that model was supposed to be back in town this week. Trutfully, I just want to pull away and be by myself. I guess I am afraid that if I do that, I will become like before - I was so comfortable on my own that I avoided dating for years. I am not sure if isolation is good for me but it's what I long for. I think most people are concerned about the impression that you are not being honest with these men in some way. Your contradictory actions seem to belie the fact that you are very capable of having feelings... they seem to be misdirected and very 'all or nothing'. I get that. It's one reason I can't do anything casual. Either I feel absolutely nothing and the guy gets hurt, or I get sucked in. So, I don't know what to tell you. Have to think there is some middle ground between being a hermit and having f me now flings.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 So I am kind of dating "simplify dude". Lunch went well and we are having dinner next week. No sex yet, he is being a gentlemen. BTW RedRobin, yes -I tend to go to extremes. Either no feelings at all or consumed by feelings to the point of obsession.. I am just an extreme person in everything. Even when I cook, I never follow a recipe. I think of my own stuff to add and it either becomes the best meal you ever had or a complete disaster. Nothing I make or do is middle of the road 1
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 His advantage to the model is that he is quite intelligent and I enjoy having conversations with him.
ThaWholigan Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I am just an extreme person in everything. Even when I cook, I never follow a recipe. I think of my own stuff to add and it either becomes the best meal you ever had or a complete disaster. Nothing I make or do is middle of the road I can relate to this. For all my levelheadedness, I am equally just as unorthodox, I don't do middle of the road either. It's nothing to be upset about , you should embrace this quality.
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