MintChocolate Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 In fact... I have no idea where this relationship is going. I last saw him thurday last week... Oh and I LOVE him. We are both 19, I'm his first girlfriend, he's my second boyfriend. But... Besides te fct that his work and my college schedual conflict, even when we CAN see each other, it is very often a no. Like, last Saturday... NO, He offered o work on his day off. Thursday, I got tickets to see a famous band in concert... He wanted to go to his aunt (who lives like 10min away he sees her and hisxousins all the time) instead. Yesterday, I invited him to a zombie costume party at my college, he said no it is 'stupid and immature'. I was SUPPOSED to hve him over today... Nope due to issues with his mother. (who he lives with, and... Still asks for permission to go out to see me at 19...). I let him know this upsets me, and he got very irritated saying He spends more time with me than anyone else (true, he does not have many friends, ...and neither do I )and I have no right to complain. Note that he has issues HIMSELF-- He lives with his mom who has extreme emotional problems, his dad is dead, (he also has an older sister). He does not drive (lives 40min away) and rarely leaves his small town.... He has, adhd and non-verbal learning disorder (which I think is a form of autism). I just don't know what to do... I really have strong feelings an ADORE what little time we spend together. He is funny, caring, kind, smart (and VERY handsome) and I want to make this work but he seems distant, but he seems to be like this to everyone... By the way I wrote this on my phone so sorry for the wall of text and typoes. What should I do?
TaraMaiden Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 (edited) well, sorry to sound abrupt but no, you don't have a BF. you have someone who hangs around with you when he feels like it. So, sorry, but in brief...? Dump him, and find someone who makes you his priority, not an optional extra.... And if he has mental issues, i'm not sure you should be in a relationship with him, because he probably doesn't fully realise the enormity of what he's doing. I'm sure he's very nice - but you can't 'fix' him, and this shouldn't be happening.... Edited April 14, 2012 by TaraMaiden
stillafool Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I don't think it's so bad that he still lives with his mom at 19. I don't think he is that interested in your relationship if he doesn't want to spend more time with you. I agree with TaraMaiden, you need to move on.
eddiesay Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 I have been dating my gf since January. e only get a day a week. And she refuses to have more time together, although I would really like a lot more time together...Sigh...some people want lots of time, some dont want so much. And it seems the opposites attract. Good luck.
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