quietGuy13 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I'm not a talker, i'm slow..i'm simple and not mature. But sometimes i try..it comes out slow and simple. But no matter how i try, they lose interest cause most women seem to love talkers who sound kind of like the way all those hip hop celebrities, and those highschool students in MTV made, and all those cool hip and talkative nerds or hip and cool club going guys who have nonstop blabber coming throught their mouths etc. That's the kind of guys women like. Everywhere i go, women lose interest in me right after they see how simple and plain and childish my conversation is. So how in the world am i supposed to get a GF if they are not interested in me cause of the way i speak.
SushiX Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 It sounds like the women you're trying to talk to are actually still girls. Try real women. And for improving your game, try reading books and practice your game on ugly chicks and work your way up. And do not fear rejection. It's a numbers game. Stick with it and you can get more than one gf if you want.
Kamille Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 qG, ever considered not all women act as if having the same collective mind? Some women like talkers. Those aren't women you'd be compatible with. What about you, what kind of woman do you imagine yourself having a great relationship with? What qualities does she possess?
OhHey Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 And for improving your game, try reading books and practice your game on ugly chicks QG, I'll say it.... If yerr a little slow or whatever, there are many chicks out there that would be compatible with you. You need to look in the right places.
westrock Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I'm not a talker, i'm slow..i'm simple and not mature. But sometimes i try..it comes out slow and simple. But no matter how i try, they lose interest cause most women seem to love talkers who sound kind of like the way all those hip hop celebrities, and those highschool students in MTV made, and all those cool hip and talkative nerds or hip and cool club going guys who have nonstop blabber coming throught their mouths etc. That's the kind of guys women like. Everywhere i go, women lose interest in me right after they see how simple and plain and childish my conversation is. So how in the world am i supposed to get a GF if they are not interested in me cause of the way i speak. I disagree. Blabber mouths can get boring fast because they usually like to talk about themselves and don't let the other person get a chance to say anything. A good conversation is one where there is an equal mixture of listening and talking by both sides. This is accomplished by asking questions and sharing your own experiences. If you are a man of few words, then choose those words wisely. A few good words can lead to a more meaningful conversation, if you do it correctly. Here are some suggestions for you: 1. read the newspaper (either print version or online version) so that you are up to date on current events. Know a bit about what's happening in current news, politics, sports, entertainment. This will allow you to have an adult conversation instead of a childish conversation. 2. focus first on listening first and then following up with a mixture of sharing your own experiences and also by asking good open ended questions with the five w's : who, what, where, when, how. For example, if you ask someone what are their hobbies and it's something in common, you can respond with your own experiences and ask follow up questions. For example, "Oh, I like to play tennis too.", then ask a follow up question such as "how often do you play?", "where do you play?", "how do you like those new courts they just built?", "do you want to play a match with me sometime?"... simple questions and you don't have to say much, but ones that open up the conversation. But don't just ask 20-questions like an interview. It's just as important to listen to what the other person is saying and to share your own experiences too... "No, I missed watching the U.S. Open on tv this weekend, was the final a good match?", or "You work there? I just bought a new racket from that store and I'm going this weekend to try it out".
betterdeal Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 There's a couple I see in the local store from time to time. Both clearly have significant learning difficulties and aren't very well worded at all. Despite not being the most cerebral, well dressed, or outspoken they look, and sound, blissful and happy with one another. I don't know how they met, but I guess through one of the activities laid on for people in their position. Maybe going to groups and events organised for people like yourself, quietGuy, would be a way to meet a nice girl who, like yourself, expresses herself more non-verbally and has a heart of gold just like you.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 There's a couple I see in the local store from time to time. Both clearly have significant learning difficulties and aren't very well worded at all. Despite not being the most cerebral, well dressed, or outspoken they look, and sound, blissful and happy with one another. I don't know how they met, but I guess through one of the activities laid on for people in their position. Maybe going to groups and events organised for people like yourself, quietGuy, would be a way to meet a nice girl who, like yourself, expresses herself more non-verbally and has a heart of gold just like you. I think I have suggested this a dozen times. No response, ever. OP seems to enjoy staying in his room and on the Internet more than experiencing life outside.
wwwjd Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Watching a video series from some guy about dating, and he asks the question: Are you the person, that the person you are looking for, is looking for? In other words, you could look at yourself and see if you fit what the person you are after would like also. If was after a girl who's life is Kayaking, and I sit infront of a TV all day and night playing COD, does it make any sense that SHE would be after a guy like me? No. So I need to be someone seekable, or at least some sort of match up with the person I think I want. Or when I find a person I want, they'll be looking the other way. Make sense, doesn't it?
wwwjd Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 MODS DELETE MY ABOVE POST. I was trying to start a whole different thread and botched it
Feelin Frisky Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 These are appearances and your interpretation of them and not fact, qg. What is more true is that women respond to confidence. They'll usually sort out after the confidence whether the rap has any appeal in it in terms of character and make a value based upon confidence and looks. A way to get around this is to distinguish yourself so that your character sells itself.
Author quietGuy13 Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 To the people who say "GO TO THE RIGHT PLACES" Oh well, everywhere i go is the same. When i went to school it was aweful, i was the most different and all the girls went with the talker guys. Same in the workplace. And now i go to some group thing, and even there , nobody is interested in me. and i'm myself there. And to those who say talkers get annoying...Well how come al the girls go with the talkers..all the time.. in everyplace i've been. THey go for the talkers, they become GF with talkers. And by the way, by talker i dont' just mean blabber mouth talker. I mean normal guy who talks normal and alot of things and conversation .. Something which i'm not.
westrock Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Something which i'm not. Then change. Improve yourself. People do it all the time. Read, learn, practice, get therapy. Whatever it takes. Stop coming up with reasons why you can't. You're never going to get a different result as long as you keep doing the same thing.
betterdeal Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Something expressive but non-verbal would seem to suit you better. How about visual or performing art? Painting, pottery, dance, that sort of thing.
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