aconfused Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 (edited) Hello everyone, My guy went to a work party and I saw the photos posted on the internet. There is a picture of him and his employee. I blurred it so you can't really seem their faces. It looks like he is grabbing her waist and it looks affectionate to me. I am not sure if I'm thinking too much. I wouldn't pose like that with my worker if I was their manager so I don't know if it's fine. What do you think? <photo deleted at member request> Edited April 16, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
shocked_confused Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Well I don't think he was being inappropriate, he has a normal, friendly stance in the picture. His co-worker is striking a sexy-ish pose, but I know that a lot of girls do that in pictures. If anyone was inappropriate, I guess it would be her but I wouldn't worry about it. She looks like the type of girl who does that a lot in pictures, whether it's with guys or her girl friends. Either way, i don't believe your boyfriend was being inappropriate and I hope you're not angry with him
PlumPrincess Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Looks fine to me. He doesn't look flattered or overly happy and she is doing this starlet pose which she probably does every time she sees a camera pointing at her. 1
Author aconfused Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 Well I don't think he was being inappropriate, he has a normal, friendly stance in the picture. His co-worker is striking a sexy-ish pose, but I know that a lot of girls do that in pictures. If anyone was inappropriate, I guess it would be her but I wouldn't worry about it. She looks like the type of girl who does that a lot in pictures, whether it's with guys or her girl friends. Either way, i don't believe your boyfriend was being inappropriate and I hope you're not angry with him Thanks for seeing it from my point of view. I was expecting a "You are overreacting badly." I didn't bring it up but but it looked to me like he really enjoyed being next to her with his arm around her waist in the photo. I might be overthinking still.
Radu Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 (edited) Hello everyone, My guy went to a work party and I saw the photos posted on the internet. There is a picture of him and his employee. I blurred it so you can't really seem their faces. It looks like he is grabbing her waist and it looks affectionate to me. I am not sure if I'm thinking too much. I wouldn't pose like that with my worker if I was their manager so I don't know if it's fine. What do you think? It's inappropiate. Friends put their hands around the shoulders. Lovers put their hands around the waist. What's worse is the fact that the woman in the picture is feeling comfortable in that position, the first thing to come in my mind is 'purring like a kitten'. She has her hand around his neck, so it's 'friends' signal, but left hand that is holding the drink is right on top of his chest. When you see a woman with her hand on a guy's chest at a party don't you immediately think 'they are together' ? Your guy doesn't know boundaries, and she might be interested. Edited April 16, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
maybealone Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Friends put their hands around the shoulders. Lovers put their hands around the waist. But if he put his hand around her shoulder, he'd be touching bare skin. If I were him, I would not want to be touching the bare skin of a colleague. I think he looks normal in the photo. He is looking at the camera, and looks like he is just having a good time. She looks like she thinks she is really hot, and like others have said, probably poses like a sex kitten in every picture. I can't imagine posing like that at a work-related event. Are there other pictures with her in them? Does she look like that with others too? 1
SJC2008 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 To me it looks like he's posing for a pic and she looks like she's all over him. She if facing him, arm around him. That or like everyone said she might always pose like that because she thinks her you know what is laced with diamonds. Too close to judge but closer to insppropriate than ok IMO 1
Author aconfused Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 Now I'm not sure whether I was overthinking. Some of you agree with me that it is inappropriate. It is the only photo of her in it. I might come off as jealous if I say something because I am opposite of what his employee seems to be like. He probably hasn't gotten as much female attention before he became a manager. I don't want to justify that photo but I am a reserved person who would never pose like that.
dasein Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Just that one picture? Nothing wrong at all. Was dating a woman, supposedly exclusively (her idea), who was cheating on me with a coworker of hers. I wouldn't have ever known about it, but the company posted work related social pics on the internet. At any given corporate event, half or more of the pictures were of my GF and this dude in affectionate poses (never actually kissing or flagrant). I asked her about it and she lied. After we broke up it came out that she had been dating me to make that guy jealous and get him to come around. Now this bears on your experience only in the difference in scale. One picture at a work party? NBD. If it gets to be 100 pictures over time, get worried.
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 He does look a bit on the happy side, I don't blame him for the hand around the waist thing, I doubt he had time or put much thought in how this pic was going to be taken...plus I only put my hands around the shoulder If It's a guy or since I'm tall a shorter person. I don't think it's that big of a deal, as long as he still commands authority and respect in the officer or wherever, but honestly he doesn't look like the type of guy either . But yes she's looking like a hoochie in that pic, and well they're always going to look like that. I would remind him that If he is a supervisor/manager or in a position of authority he wants to maintain a buffer or they may lose respect for him and think they can push the limits a little bit in the work place.
zengirl Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 You're putting pics of other people on an internet forum without their consent? I can still see their faces -- it's not that blurred, btw. That seems more inappropriate than the picture itself to me. Anyway, it looks a little flirty, but alone is nothing to worry about. People take pics like that all the time. It's really not your BF making the flirty face, and he doesn't seem to be doing anything inappropriate, so I wouldn't worry. The pic is a bit racy for my tastes in general, but I have the FB page of a teacher, so what do I know? 3
make me believe Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I wouldn't be happy if I saw a pic like that of my husband and one of his co-workers. They look way too cozy imo. How come you weren't invited to this work party? Do you ever get to go with when he hangs out with his co-workers?
dasein Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Cmon folks, I have to assume everyone in the thread has been to at least one party as an adult in their lives. At parties, someone is generally walking around with a camera. No matter who one is talking to, no matter the topic, no matter how well one knows who one is talking to, when that camera comes around, the expected behavior is lean in, usually put an arm around (male or female), smile and do your best to look happy and not like an antisocial idiot who isn't having fun. He looks "happy" because someone just told him to SMILE. Is this a cultural thing? Are some of us in the thread from cultures where people frown, run away, shoot a bird, or turn their backs when the camera comes around at a party because they are afraid it's going to steal their soul? maybe a mafia upbringing like the first scene in the Godfather where cameras are concerned?
O'Malley Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I'm pretty immune to this sort of thing, but it doesn't seem that horribly untypical for a party picture. He isn't focusing on her at all, and her pose is more for show than any serious intent -- as already said, she probably does this every time a camera is pointed in her direction. I'd only be concerned if his responses about her seem off; if he either talks about her often, or seems very hesitant to mention her. He should act professional with staff, but if it's a more casual workplace environment they all are probably acting with less maturity, especially at a party.
Author aconfused Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 (edited) I found another pic but its just the back of him, he is in the blue shirt. The girl in the first pic is on the floor in front of him. You can't see much here but I think they were dancing in front of everyone. The pics might mean nothing after all. Edited April 16, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
CarrieT Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 You're putting pics of other people on an internet forum without their consent? I can still see their faces -- it's not that blurred, btw. That seems more inappropriate than the picture itself to me. That is exactly what I was thinking as well.... Shame on you.
dasein Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 What kind of "company" is it exactly that your BF works for? Is it a restaurant or retail clothing store?
wwwjd Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 people go to any party where there is drinking and expect this to NOT happen? all we all that thick?? No, seriously... I see this all the time... "I went out clubbing, and this guy grabbed my boob..." Really? "CLUBBING"?? What the heck do you expect? bible studies?? Yoga? many affairs and mis-deeds happen when mixed with alcohol... how can people NOT see this? Happens every day, 24/7 all around the world. It IS really obvious. People's numbness amazes me. The only way it could possibly get any worse is if everyone walked around with tiny digital cameras, and were able to post all these instant pics of someones FACE in a BOOK that was available globally. That would suck.
PlumPrincess Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 (edited) I found another pic but its just the back of him, he is in the blue shirt. The girl in the first pic is on the floor in front of him. You can't see much here but I think they were dancing in front of everyone. The pics might mean nothing after all. The girl in front of him looks Asian and wears a black dress, not like the other girl. Edited April 16, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author aconfused Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 The girl in the first pic is on the floor, kneeling in front of him. It's hard to see but I think they were dancing in the middle of everybody.
veggirl Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 (edited) I found another pic but its just the back of him, he is in the blue shirt. The girl in the first pic is on the floor in front of him. You can't see much here but I think they were dancing in front of everyone. The pics might mean nothing after all. Why is she on her knees in front of him? Umm...I'm with the others, what kind of job does your BF do? Must be service industry or something? How come you weren't at the party, do you get invited usually? How long have you been together? The first picture would annoy me, I'd ask my BF about her. The 2nd combined with the first would really give me pause. Edited April 16, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
veggirl Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 The girl in the first pic is on the floor, kneeling in front of him. It's hard to see but I think they were dancing in the middle of everybody. Dancing or mimicking a blow job...
Author aconfused Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 Are you sure? I thought it looked like they were dancing and she probably was a bit drunk so she fell on the floor for support. It looked like a pic taken at the wrong time?
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