blauren88 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Should I keep trying? So I started seeing this guy that I hooked up with months back. Things were going really well and we were hanging out every day. I told him I was moving and he kind of asked me to move in with him. He told me he really liked me and that he was falling for me and wanted to see where it goes. A few days after that I noticed him pulling back and when I would hang out with him he felt so distant. His friend told me he wasnt ready for a relationship and when I asked him what was up he said he wanted to talk in person, I told him I already knew so there was no point. He then told me he still wanted to talk so I would know the reason why. This happened a week ago and I still havnt seem him. Going fr hanging out with him almost every day to not at all, with no explanation I don't know what to do. I have asked to talk to him 2 days in a row now and he keeps avoiding it almost. I don't know wether I should try and show him what we had was good and can work even if I am moving or just move on cuz obviously I am not that important enough that he can't mak the time to talk about somethig serious.... Help
mixwell Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I was kinda in a similar situation with a chick who I had started seeing and then was moving away, I understand his initial reaction to have you move in to try to keep you with him but I think he might have thought emotionally without realizing what all would be involved. He could be distant now because he knows that it might not be rational to have you move in and perhaps with the distance he's just trying to "get over you" already and prepare himself rather than getting more emotionally invested on something that will most likely not work out if you're moving. Funny because there's a chick I really like and she moved I was almost considering asking her to just move in with me but I haven't known her long and I know logically it wouldn't be a wise choice for her to move in but emotionally I wanted to say Fk it. I still talk to this chick but now as I am realizing the facts I have been more distant from her because I don't want to keep stringing along a relationship that really has no chance. I think this is what this guy could be potentially doing hence him not replying. I wouldn't try to show him what you had or whatever... He already knows and if he's not replying the best thing for you is to just cut your loss and move on as much as it sucks..
louise_23 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Should I keep trying? So I started seeing this guy that I hooked up with months back. Things were going really well and we were hanging out every day. I told him I was moving and he kind of asked me to move in with him. He told me he really liked me and that he was falling for me and wanted to see where it goes. A few days after that I noticed him pulling back and when I would hang out with him he felt so distant. His friend told me he wasnt ready for a relationship and when I asked him what was up he said he wanted to talk in person, I told him I already knew so there was no point. He then told me he still wanted to talk so I would know the reason why. This happened a week ago and I still havnt seem him. Going fr hanging out with him almost every day to not at all, with no explanation I don't know what to do. I have asked to talk to him 2 days in a row now and he keeps avoiding it almost. I don't know wether I should try and show him what we had was good and can work even if I am moving or just move on cuz obviously I am not that important enough that he can't mak the time to talk about somethig serious.... Help someone has just more or less done this to my best friend. DO NOT CONTACT HIM. dont chase him, dont do anything. she did this to this guy and it pushed him even further away. a month later, she hasnt done anything, said anything, texted anything, whatever. he is slowly crawling back. not saying that will happen here or whatever, but self respect! dont beg anyone thats pushing you away its ludicrous
stillafool Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Should I keep trying? So I started seeing this guy that I hooked up with months back. Things were going really well and we were hanging out every day. I told him I was moving and he kind of asked me to move in with him. He told me he really liked me and that he was falling for me and wanted to see where it goes. A few days after that I noticed him pulling back and when I would hang out with him he felt so distant. His friend told me he wasnt ready for a relationship and when I asked him what was up he said he wanted to talk in person, I told him I already knew so there was no point. He then told me he still wanted to talk so I would know the reason why. This happened a week ago and I still havnt seem him. Going fr hanging out with him almost every day to not at all, with no explanation I don't know what to do. I have asked to talk to him 2 days in a row now and he keeps avoiding it almost. I don't know wether I should try and show him what we had was good and can work even if I am moving or just move on cuz obviously I am not that important enough that he can't mak the time to talk about somethig serious.... Help He did want to talk to you but you initially said there was no point. So it seems you gave him an easy out and now he has moved on.
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