SJC2008 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 (edited) play games when you met your hubby/wifey? There have been a lot of threads about game playing or variations of on the dating side. Mostly about the women acting busy or not returning calls too soon or initiating contact. To the guys: Did you play it cool? act aloof early on? It seems like it's bad according to loveshackers (not all) to show your hand to soon and to tell a woman early on that you like her. Early on as in 4-6th date to give a time frame. Edited April 14, 2012 by SJC2008 forgot question mark
KathyM Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 No game playing in my relationship. I was anxious to meet my guy whenever he wanted, and would always be available to answer his calls when he said he would call. He did no game playing either, and made it very clear he was very interested right from the start, sending flowers and cards to my house frequently after we started dating. 1
Pyro Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 no game playing at all here. That crap will get you no where. You definitely do not want to let someone know too soon that you like them because that may scare them away. It may take longer for some people to realize that they like someone in that way. I tend to take my time with everything and that is what I did.
Radu Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 No. My husband pursued me relentlessly. That doesn't fully answer his questions, does it ? Did you play games ?
Toodamnpragmatic Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 No. My husband pursued me relentlessly. Actually sounds like you did play games and wonder if it all is an even playing field in the marriage.
Author SJC2008 Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 no game playing at all here. That crap will get you no where. You definitely do not want to let someone know too soon that you like them because that may scare them away. It may take longer for some people to realize that they like someone in that way. I tend to take my time with everything and that is what I did. That's what I don't understand. If you're dating someone how does telling them you like them scare them away? Isn't that the point? I liked the last one, I'm not saying I was SURE about her as there were a couple eyebrow raisers with her attitude. But I was very attracted to her and thought she was funny. Now would it of been too soon to tell her that by the 3rd or 4th date? Sorry if I sound naive but I lack seroius exp. Relating to the op, she played games.
Pyro Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 That's what I don't understand. If you're dating someone how does telling them you like them scare them away? Isn't that the point? I liked the last one, I'm not saying I was SURE about her as there were a couple eyebrow raisers with her attitude. But I was very attracted to her and thought she was funny. Now would it of been too soon to tell her that by the 3rd or 4th date? Sorry if I sound naive but I lack seroius exp. Relating to the op, she played games. I guess it depends on how soon after you met that you tell them that. So many people like to drop the 'I like you' bomb after only a week or so or a couple of dates (whichever comes sooner). IMO that is not enough time to know if you truly do like the person.
The Blue Knight Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I've never been much of a game-player. In my first marriage I was young when I met her . . . around 19. We saw each other daily mostly because our hormones were always on "crazy" and I put it out there that I liked her after I found out from a mutual co-worker that she liked me. I was kind of dumbfounded when I found out. Frankly, I kind of considered her out of my league, so I just kept it as a friendship while I worked with her. Second time around I was 36 and I just had zero time for nonsense in my life since my ex-wife had been such a huge game-player. When I met my (now wife) she was 25. By that point in my life I just said it the way I felt it, and of course by my actions. If I was interested I said so. I don't know why, but by that point in my life . . . and coming off a divorce just a few months earlier, I had little time for games of any kind. And my wife wasn't a game player either which made it all the better. I didn't worry about things like rejection. Life is too short. You give it your best shot and if you come up short . . . hey . . . you took your shot. Seems to have worked out fine because we just hit our 15th anniversary!
pie2 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 No games! We're both pretty much open books with each other.
Eve Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 No game playing here. Hubby scared me a bit because he was so into me. I felt the same but had not expected the feeling to be so strong. .. I did not play games in previous relationships either. Wouldn't know where to start with any of that. Take care, Eve x
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