Necris Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 (edited) I know there is a thread similar to this but I don't want to clog it up with my personal story. I know a woman who is my neighbor literally next door and lately I've been feeling a bit of attraction towards her and find myself trying to get to know and meet her but she doesn't seem very interested which is okay. Before now I've been feeling absolutely zero attraction (maybe even negative attraction), not to be mean or superficial or anything but I just didn't find her physically appealing: she's extremely skinny (while skinny can be attractive she is a tad bit too skinny and possesses no "figure" (hips, butt, breasts, etc.)) at all, her hair is also thin and she has it in a sort of "wet" hairstyle (I love hair but that's not really my type I prefer long thick hair), her head also seems unusually large one of the biggest heads I've seen in particular the cranium region just seems massive, I also can't find her face particularly attractive its hard to describe but just something about it doesn't seem right. Her personality isn't all that attractive either she doesn't come off as nice but she isn't mean either maybe a tad aloof. It is also a bit strange its hard to describe but she just behaves "differently" and more withdrawn than most girls so she's not very social and I've never seen her with another person, which is fine to me since I'm not very social but for some reason I can't really describe it but she just comes off as wierd though she does seem intelligent which is a plus. Now all of a sudden I'm feeling sort of attracted to her. Why am I feeling this way? Any advice or personal stories? Edited April 14, 2012 by Necris
casanovadude81 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Love is a great poet, its resources are inexhaustible. We love without heeding reason, and cease to love in the same manner. Love is only a feeling of curiousity more or less intense, grafted upon the inclination placed in us by nature that the species may be preserved. 1
january2011 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Something about her resonates with you right now. Unfortunately, that's as far as it goes in terms of a random internet stranger getting inside your head and telling you why you feel the way that you do. My advice: either enjoy the crush or do something about it.
Author Necris Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 Something about her resonates with you right now. Unfortunately, that's as far as it goes in terms of a random internet stranger getting inside your head and telling you why you feel the way that you do. My advice: either enjoy the crush or do something about it. Something about her is making me attracted but I don't know what and I'm curious to find out, so I guess I have to go find out for myself. Unfortunately talking to her is difficult since we normally do not cross paths during our day to day but since we are neighbors I know where she lives but knocking on her door for no reason other than to talk would probably look very odd. Any personal stories like this?
Author Necris Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 also any advice for approaching her if I decide to or any general advice? Also similar personal stories are welcome.
louise_23 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I know there is a thread similar to this but I don't want to clog it up with my personal story. I know a woman who is my neighbor literally next door and lately I've been feeling a bit of attraction towards her and find myself trying to get to know and meet her but she doesn't seem very interested which is okay. Before now I've been feeling absolutely zero attraction (maybe even negative attraction), not to be mean or superficial or anything but I just didn't find her physically appealing: she's extremely skinny (while skinny can be attractive she is a tad bit too skinny and possesses no "figure" (hips, butt, breasts, etc.)) at all, her hair is also thin and she has it in a sort of "wet" hairstyle (I love hair but that's not really my type I prefer long thick hair), her head also seems unusually large one of the biggest heads I've seen in particular the cranium region just seems massive, I also can't find her face particularly attractive its hard to describe but just something about it doesn't seem right. Her personality isn't all that attractive either she doesn't come off as nice but she isn't mean either maybe a tad aloof. It is also a bit strange its hard to describe but she just behaves "differently" and more withdrawn than most girls so she's not very social and I've never seen her with another person, which is fine to me since I'm not very social but for some reason I can't really describe it but she just comes off as wierd though she does seem intelligent which is a plus. Now all of a sudden I'm feeling sort of attracted to her. Why am I feeling this way? Any advice or personal stories? sometimes you cant explain what happens in your head/heart. i think probably because she doesnt seem into you its increased the challenge for you maybe? i felt like this for years about someone. i mean, ive had better looking people in my time than this guy. his personality is ok sometimes, but he can be an ******* and hes always been quite immature. i havent spoke to him or seen him in about a year but i still dream about him for some reason. he lives a few blocks away from me. any time ive spent time with him ive felt drawn to him. in truth though, hes a train wreck of a human being. feelings can be ignored!! you could still ask this chick out and see if it kills your fascination? might get awkward as shes your neighbor though if she says no.
Author Necris Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 If I decide to talk to her any advice on how? Talking to her is difficult since we normally do not cross paths during our day to day but since we are neighbors I know where she lives but knocking on her door for no reason other than to talk would probably look very odd.
Pierre Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Familiarity causes attraction and romance. That is why so many affairs develop at the work place.
LZ2000 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 If I decide to talk to her any advice on how? Talking to her is difficult since we normally do not cross paths during our day to day but since we are neighbors I know where she lives but knocking on her door for no reason other than to talk would probably look very odd. I think the most easiest and natural approach to this situation is to just go about your own business and be your natural self. You do have an attraction to her, but you also need to be patient to wait out for a perfect opportunity to "approach" her. In the meantime, if you do "wait out", you may wish to contemplate and reflect on your feelings for this girl, and see for yourself whether your own feelings for her is genuine or merely a temporal fleeting crush.
somedude81 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 If I decide to talk to her any advice on how? Talking to her is difficult since we normally do not cross paths during our day to day but since we are neighbors I know where she lives but knocking on her door for no reason other than to talk would probably look very odd. Learn her routine, when she comes and goes. Then be outside doing something at a time when you know she will be. Then just talk to her.
casanovadude81 Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 Learn her routine, when she comes and goes. Then be outside doing something at a time when you know she will be. Then just talk to her. This is good advice. You probably already know her routine or atleast the most likely times you'll run into her.
jobaba Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 In terms of just feeling an attraction for a woman, it could be anything ... -the way they smiled at me that morning -saying something smart and witty -finding out they like the same obscure band as me -finding out they play a musical instrument (aside ... I wish women had such a simple attraction factor as me) But in terms of feeling a strong attraction, it's always been a woman I spent a lot of time with and had a rapport with (at least in my mind) or somebody who was physically attractive.
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