jnd Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough time for a few weeks now. We've been together for 7 years, living together, and this is the first huge argument we've been having. He still wants to have sex (our "normal" if you want to call it that is at least once a week). My birth control doesn't help me not wanting to do it to begin with, but I feel like there's a wall between us lately, and it would make sex not as intimate. I don't want to shut him completely out, but I don't want to lose him because of not having sex with him either. I highly doubt he'd leave me over something simple like that, but I guess it would add to it if it came down to it. The last time we did it, I just wasn't feeling it but did it for him. Opinions?
Cypress25 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 First of all, switch to a different birth control pill, or use condoms instead. You don't have to tolerate side effects like that. That part of the problem is easily solved. The other part, about the emotional wall between you, is not so easy. What is causing this? Have you talked to him about it?
veggirl Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Are you trolling? If not you and this guy sure do have lots of issues. Don't sleep with him if you don't want to. You are having a huge fight...pretty understandable that you're not horny for him right now, he doesn't understand that? Weird. Sally must give it up regardless of her mood. You're really worried about your BF leaving you for not having sex with him when you just caught him huge lies?
Author jnd Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 veggirl: not sure what trolling is- but yes, the issues are all around. i just didn't want to make my post even longer, so i'm breaking down the different aspects in different posts cypress: i didn't think to switch, i'll have to check with the doc, thanks! as far as the BF, he lies about stuff because he feels he needs to, to not make me mad when he goes out without me, yet it makes me even angrier. i get jealous of his freedom of going out when i'm home trying to sleep for work the following day. he keeps me up worrying
Author jnd Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 Just trying to understand- you're saying he's only with me for sex? If so, I can see that as a factor but not the whole reason we're together. I knew him 5 months before we started dating/having sex. He asked me out in the 3rd month but I said no. We hadn't had sex at that point
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