I may suck at dating but I never did anything pathetic like this

[PhillyDude]

Words matter. Calling someone pathetic is abusive.

 

I said her actions are pathetic.

[Star Gazer]

Is her behavior the true definition of "Down and out"?-lol Damm i mean how pathetic can a woman be? Now part of me wants to call her back so I can be involved in safe adult fun. lol

 

LOL.

 

You called her down and out and pathetic, and then gloated about using her.

 

Horrendous.

[PhillyDude]

You called her down and out and pathetic, and then gloated about using her.

 

Horrendous.

 

 

Well it looks like she has a fetish of being USED anytime she goes back online trying to connect with someone she already chatted with on the phone.

 

You know what, I will leave that girl a message tonight so I can be pathetic too and so everyone on this thread can feel better ok?

 

About to leave the message now

[january2011]

I was experiecing a funny situation tonight and I wanted to share it.

 

I don't think many people see the humour in the situation. You might think that's unfortunate and dismiss it as a case of people not understanding your sense of humour. However, surely part of you must wonder at the responses to your 'humourous' threads? No?

[RedRobin]

Or... maybe she read someplace that some men can be shy and she was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt.

 

Putting herself out there like so many men do.

 

Trying to be fair and brave... like men have to be in the dating world.

 

Instead, you come here and call her 'pathetic'.

 

Which, you are entitled to think. We don't know the whole story and can't see your email exchanges.

 

It is your utter lack of empathy and fascination with hurting people that is causing people confusion.

[january2011]

Far be it for me to suggest you succumb to peer pressure. However, could it be that some of the posters have a point and your way of conducting yourself is not very respectful or successful?

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Words matter to YOU!. Not so much for everyone else. And if pathetic is a word that matters a tremendous amount to you, then you are in for a rude awakening called life.

 

Gee Golly, do tell me more Mr. Brady...what's this thing called life..*smiles and twirls her pigtails ready to hear more about life.

 

Words matter to everyone.

[PhillyDude]

I don't think many people see the humour in the situation. You might think that's unfortunate and dismiss it as a case of people not understanding your sense of humour. However, surely part of you must wonder at the responses to your 'humourous' threads? No?

 

Yeah just like when everyone thought it was mean I had a issue with a MAN trying to fool straight men on a dating site and dress up as a woman.

 

This board is super sensitive

[Disenchantedly Yours]

It's not just that you have issues with things. It's the fact that you're simply cruel about it.

 

By the way, there was on condusive evidence that this person was a man or that they were trying to "fool" anyone. You didn't really have enough information about the situation.

[PhillyDude]

It's not just that you have issues with things. It's the fact that you're simply cruel about it.

 

By the way, there was on condusive evidence that this person was a man or that they were trying to "fool" anyone. You didn't really have enough information about the situation.

 

Me having 20/20 vision is all the proof I need. And when I mentioned it to the person they didn't deny it so there you go

[Oxy Moronovich]

Or... maybe she read someplace that some men can be shy and she was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt.

 

Putting herself out there like so many men do.

 

Trying to be fair and brave... like men have to be in the dating world.

 

Instead, you come here and call her 'pathetic'.

 

Which, you are entitled to think. We don't know the whole story and can't see your email exchanges.

 

It is your utter lack of empathy and fascination with hurting people that is causing people confusion.

I applaud her for taking the initiative. No one said taking the initiative is going to be easy. It just means you have a better chance of getting a large quantity and quality of dates. Still, guys do have to deal with women who claim we're being "desperate" and "creepy" and "bothering them" when all we're doing is being persistent.

 

You know what's real rude? When you're trying to flirt with a woman and she whips out her cell phone and starts fiddling with it as an excuse to zone out from you. That happens ALOT. If women want men to stop rude behavior, they must equally be prepared to stop being rude.

[january2011]

Yeah just like when everyone thought it was mean I had a issue with a MAN trying to fool straight men on a dating site and dress up as a woman.

 

This board is super sensitive

 

I must have missed that thread. From as far back as I can remember, most (if not all) of your threads have been along a similar disparaging vein. It doesn't surprise me that people's perceptions and reactions to your posts are coloured by your previous posting history. It's very difficult to give a poster a break when that poster's previous posting history suggests that they're not willing to do the same for others.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Me having 20/20 vision is all the proof I need. And when I mentioned it to the person they didn't deny it so there you go

 

As I recall, they didn't respond to you at all. They don't have to answer to you for their life. This was another situation you could have ignored and gone about your own business. It's like you like being miserable and mean.

[PhillyDude]

As I recall, they didn't respond to you at all. They don't have to answer to you for their life. This was another situation you could have ignored and gone about your own business. It's like you like being miserable and mean.

 

No I wasn't going to ignore it because I'm looking out for all the straight men and if I see someone looking suspicious I say something. And when I told the person.."who you think you foolin? The deleted their profile

 

I WONDER WHY???????????????

[RedRobin]

If women want men to stop rude behavior, they must equally be prepared to stop being rude.

 

... and empathy starts with you, my friend.

 

You want women to feel your pain??

 

Feel theirs.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

No I wasn't going to ignore it because I'm looking out for all the straight men and if I see someone looking suspicious I say something. And when I told the person.."who you think you foolin? The deleted their profile

 

I WONDER WHY???????????????

 

PhillyDude, saving one straight dude at a time.

 

 

More seriously...more likely they hide their post from you. Again, you have no evidence that points to them deleting it.

[RovingReporter]

It's a good thing you've rejected her up front as it will save her the time of finding out you're a douche IRL and the subsequent offers for prostitution.

[serial muse]

C'mon people, clearly this "woman" was actually just a bot hoping to scam money out of PhillyDude. Hence the repeated calls/texts/"flirts" online.

 

It's the only answer that makes any sense.

[mortensorchid]

I agree she sounds like she is either suffering from low self esteem or clueless. Or just plain crazy.

[Kuen]

Wow. Being true to your self is appreciative to the person because they will know that you are easy to deal with and willing to explore things.

[Radu]

I had a 1st conversation with this woman off a dating site and then decided she was really someone I wanted to meet. So I just started ignoring her texts and calls and figured she would get the hint.

 

Then all of a sudden she goes online and sends me a message saying,,,"what happened to you?"

 

I ignored that message and figured she would go away. Then five days later she sends me a FLIRT???-LOL After I have ignored text messages and phone calls and a message on the site.

 

Is her behavior the true definition of "Down and out"?-lol Damm i mean how pathetic can a woman be? Now part of me wants to call her back so I can be involved in safe adult fun. lol

 

This is how you set up a date with a girl like this

 

"Hey I was thinking we can meet at a cafe and talk and get to know each other. But this cafe is kind of different because it's out of coffee supply and located inside my apartment. Sp how bout some lemonade instead?

 

LOL.

 

 

What, you make it sound that you need to have graduated West Point to get a date.

 

What was wrong with 'seems we get along, let's meet up'. And if she doesn't in one form or another, cut all communication with her.

Unless you prefer cybersex/phonesex/cyberdates/phonedates.

[PlumPrincess]

So if he wasn't gloating repeatedly ignoring her texts would be okay?

When people don't respond, it's a sign they're not interested. That's the same for men and women. I have no always answered, because I didn't know what to say and I had guys not answer, because they were probably not interested and didn't know what to say.

 

What PhillyDude is doing is using her to feed his ego by making fun of her. That's what's wrong. Also, he is the kind of guy who constantly gets worked up when a girl doesn't conform to his expectations of what appropriate and decent behavior means. If you don't believe me, search through his threads. You can really call him a living, breathing personification of double standards.

[PlumPrincess]

You women are making way too big a deal outta this. He just ignored her. He didn't abuse her. All he's doing is talking about how lame she is. Are you going to tell me women don't gloat about pathetic male behavior?

There are certain female posters like this girl who complained about men being, uh, kittens. Does she give you the impression that in general she is particularly popular with the other women on this board?

[Ginger Grant]

Not to mention that 2 women just did it to me in the past 3 weeks. lol

 

You are nothing more than a spiteful predator. Fortunately most women figure this out before the first date. Your name and address will appear on the sex offender list, it's just a matter of time. You have expressed terrible thoughts about women, and sadly, I don't think any from of therapy can help you.

[CarrieT]

I came on here to post about it because it;s not normal behavior for a grown women. I never had anyone do anything like this before

Based on your multiple posts of trying to figure out women and dating and the LENGTHY threads of people trying to advise and guide you towards intelligent, grown-up behavior and attitude, I would say that you don't have a frigg'n clue what is NORMAL behavior for a grown woman.

 

Or any women for that manner.