I may suck at dating but I never did anything pathetic like this

[Star Gazer]

Yes, there are women who have ignored a man's texts.

 

But I've never seen a woman on LS ignore an man's texts and then come on here to gloat about it.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Women want men to take the hint so why can't women take the hint? If a guy was doing the same thing she was doing he would be labled a creepy stalker.

 

I had a woman who stopped taking my calls but I didn't go back online and send a message and say.."what happened to you?"

 

You only have control over how you treat people Phillydude. No matter what other people do. At the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and your choices.

 

I have had men that have just ignored my calls or never called me again and a host of other things. That doesn't mean that I have to treat other men like that in return. I have to live with me. So I choose to be honest with guys and let them know where we stand so there is no guessing game. But here is the thing, even if you didn't respond to her, the fact that you came here to post about her is what is really lame. And by trying to highlight what you consider her "patheticness", it only makes you come off mean and small.

[Oxy Moronovich]

Yes, there are women who have ignored a man's texts.

 

But I've never seen a woman on LS ignore an man's texts and then come on here to gloat about it.

So if he wasn't gloating repeatedly ignoring her texts would be okay?

[Disenchantedly Yours]

So if he wasn't gloating repeatedly ignoring her texts would be okay?

 

It would be a fact of life that people , both men and women, ignore texts. To gloat and verbally abuse the woman is a whole different issue.

[PhillyDude]

You only have control over how you treat people Phillydude. No matter what other people do. At the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and your choices.

 

I have had men that have just ignored my calls or never called me again and a host of other things. That doesn't mean that I have to treat other men like that in return. I have to live with me. So I choose to be honest with guys and let them know where we stand so there is no guessing game. But here is the thing, even if you didn't respond to her, the fact that you came here to post about her is what is really lame. And by trying to highlight what you consider her "patheticness", it only makes you come off mean and small.

 

I came on here to post about it because it;s not normal behavior for a grown women. I never had anyone do anything like this before

[Star Gazer]

You only have control over how you treat people Phillydude. No matter what other people do. At the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and your choices.

 

I have had men that have just ignored my calls or never called me again and a host of other things. That doesn't mean that I have to treat other men like that in return. I have to live with me. So I choose to be honest with guys and let them know where we stand so there is no guessing game. But here is the thing, even if you didn't respond to her, the fact that you came here to post about her is what is really lame. And by trying to highlight what you consider her "patheticness", it only makes you come off mean and small.

 

I agree on all points, especially the bolded.

[Oxy Moronovich]

I am betting you have been one of them at one time or another. The other day I said no one is obligated to respond to a text message at all. Ever. Not even phone calls.

 

You quoted me on this. Then said due to that comment my commentary was unworthy, or something to that affect.

 

I stand by what I said before. No one is obligated to respond to a text message. Even you.

He's not obligated to respond to her texts. And he can gloat if he wants. Women gloat all the time. How many women gloat, "Women are catty toward me because of my confidence and my looks"?

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Ah, I see you are the arbiter for what you consider a healthy women. The golden rule, is it? It's easier for you to compartmentalize other females as unhealthy I suppose.

 

Most of society has a basic understanding that those that seek out or stay in abusive relationships are not healthy. Such as those women that go for "jerks". This isn't a hard concept to grasp.

 

Healthy women like healthy men that treat them with kindness and respect. Because as human beings, 99.9 of us will naturally equate kindness and respect to being "healthy" while being mean and abusive as "not healthy.

 

It's not rocket science and despite your attempt to make it seem like I have some crazy insane standard about healthy women vs unhealthy ones, most people will agree with me on this very basic definition.

[Star Gazer]

I am betting you have been one of them at one time or another. The other day I said no one is obligated to respond to a text message at all. Ever. Not even phone calls.

 

You quoted me on this. Then said due to that comment my commentary was unworthy, or something to that affect.

 

I stand by what I said before. No one is obligated to respond to a text message. Even you.

 

You advocated the FishTaco ignore HIS GIRLFRIEND's texts. Specifically, her texts asking him to come outside to walk her in when she arrived late at night. Your advice is deplorable, IMO. In that thread, and this one.

[Star Gazer]

He's not obligated to respond to her texts. And he can gloat if he wants. Women gloat all the time. How many women gloat, "Women are catty toward me because of my confidence and my looks"?

 

Please find a thread started by a female wherein she explains how she ignored a man's calls/texts/emails and then came on to LS to gloat and verbally attack said guy. Find one. I'll wait.

 

Actually, find one by any other guy other than PD too. You won't be able to because this behavior is RIDICULOUS.

[Oxy Moronovich]

It would be a fact of life that people , both men and women, ignore texts. To gloat and verbally abuse the woman is a whole different issue.

So what would you rather see him do: ignore her and gloat? Or have sex with her, dump her, ignore her, and then gloat? I can tell you there's no shortage of men who would do the latter.

I came on here to post about it because it;s not normal behavior for a grown women. I never had anyone do anything like this before

I don't think you did anything wrong, gloating or no gloating. If she's decent in the looks dept, you should have had sex with her.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

I came on here to post about it because it;s not normal behavior for a grown women. I never had anyone do anything like this before

 

I actually think it's very normal behavior when you got two people communicating over a electric box and you can't know what's going on in the other person's head. She was trying. So what? You want to punish her for that? You could have been straight up. Problem solved.

 

But no, you didn't post about this because it's not something you consider normal behavior. The tone of your post would have been different if that's all you were doing. You posted about it because you have something mean inside your heart. You can fix that if you really wanted to. You don't have to be the guy that mocks people behind their back and calls them pathetic abusively.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

So what would you rather see him do: ignore her and gloat? Or have sex with her, dump her, ignore her, and then gloat? I can tell you there's no shortage of men who would do the latter.

 

I don't think you did anything wrong, gloating or no gloating. If she's decent in the looks dept, you should have had sex with her.

 

I think I have been very clear about what I would like to see him do.

 

A) Be honest and tell her he isn't interested kindly.

B) Ignore her and leave it at that.

 

But please continue to advocate for using women for sex while you complain with clearly somewhat of a hardened heart about what women do when they treat men poorly.

[Star Gazer]

So what would you rather see him do: ignore her and gloat? Or have sex with her, dump her, ignore her, and then gloat?

 

There are options that do not involve gloating or calling the woman in question names.

[RedRobin]

So what would you rather see him do: ignore her and gloat? Or have sex with her, dump her, ignore her, and then gloat? I can tell you there's no shortage of men who would do the latter.

 

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...and for some reason, you think this is not only....OK!!! but this is recommended behavior... as if these were his only two choices.

 

hmm...

 

Here are a few more options:

a) Tell her kindly "thank you, but I don't think we'd be a good match. Good luck with your search!"

b) Continue to ignore her. She WILL get the hint eventually.

c) go ahead and contact her, then tell her you are only interested in something casual.

[Star Gazer]

You posted about it because you have something mean inside your heart.

 

Indeed.

 

And those advocating that he did nothing wrong have equally mean hearts.

[Oxy Moronovich]

You women are making way too big a deal outta this. He just ignored her. He didn't abuse her. All he's doing is talking about how lame she is. Are you going to tell me women don't gloat about pathetic male behavior?

[PhillyDude]

...and for some reason, you think this is not only....OK!!! but this is recommended behavior... as if these were his only two choices.

 

hmm...

 

Here are a few more options:

a) Tell her kindly "thank you, but I don't think we'd be a good match. Good luck with your search!"

b) Continue to ignore her. She WILL get the hint eventually.

c) go ahead and contact her, then tell her you are only interested in something casual.

 

 

In Philadelphia, when someone is not interested you do the "QUIET FADE OFF"

 

That's been going on for as long as I can remember, say like 1996?

[Imajerk17]

Absolutely, women do this. And then they do, I ream them for that too. I've earned my name on here plenty of times!

 

Seriously, can't stand people with no manners, I don't care how common it is...

[Oxy Moronovich]

Indeed.

 

And those advocating that he did nothing wrong have equally mean hearts.

I just don't see what the dude did wrong. He didn't do anything to her. He merely came here and said she was pathetic. He didn't post her pic or any other info. He didn't come here to degrade all women. He's just wondering why this chick is so desperate in a playful way. Why is it so hard to see it's not that big of a deal?

[january2011]

Phillydude, I'm constantly amazed by the material you come up with for your threads. This may be real life to you but it comes across as the material for a stand-up comedian. And I don't mean that it in a saracastic or vindictive way.

 

Every time I read one of your OPs, I do genuinely wonder what you get out of these interactions and the subsequent thread-posting to gloat about how stupid/ridiculous/naive/idiotic/etc. you consider the women you connect with to be. Is it the attention from posters? Validation? From what I remember most people post to tell you how ridiculous you are being and there are usually only a small minority or support your comments about how women are X,Y,Z.

 

What do you get out of disparaging these women online? Does it help your dating situation? Are you trolling and/or just looking to get a rise out of people? Trying to start a conversation/revolution? For *****s and giggles because you're bored? Do you genuinely want to find a female partner and be in a relationship?

[Oxy Moronovich]

Absolutely, women do this. And then they do, I ream them for that too. I've earned my name on here plenty of times!

 

Seriously, can't stand people with no manners, I don't care how common it is...

Jerk, I can see both sides of the issue. I agree with what you're saying, it lacks manners to not respond. You still have to realize women ignore men's messages ALL THE TIME. If you always called out a woman on loveshack who posted she ignored some guy's message, your post count would be in the 10thousands.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

Words matter. Calling someone pathetic is abusive.

[Star Gazer]

Are you going to tell me women don't gloat about pathetic male behavior?

 

PEOPLE - male or female - who have any semblance of respect for their fellow human beings do not do what PD did here in starting this thread.

[PhillyDude]

Phillydude, I'm constantly amazed by the material you come up with for your threads. This may be real life to you but it comes across as the material for a stand-up comedian. And I don't mean that it in a saracastic or vindictive way.

 

Every time I read one of your OPs, I do genuinely wonder what you get out of these interactions and the subsequent thread-posting to gloat about how stupid/ridiculous/naive/idiotic/etc. you consider the women you connect with to be. Is it the attention from posters? Validation? From what I remember most people post to tell you how ridiculous you are being and there are usually only a small minority or support your comments about how women are X,Y,Z.

 

What do you get out of disparaging these women online? Does it help your dating situation? Are you trolling and/or just looking to get a rise out of people? Trying to start a conversation/revolution? For *****s and giggles because you're bored? Do you genuinely want to find a female partner and be in a relationship?

 

 

I was experiecing a funny situation tonight and I wanted to share it.