Misar7 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Ok well after being with someone for 9 yrs and it ending 9 months ago, I stayed to myself I had met a few guys here and there, but none I had any interest in at all. Well, then this guy comes along, who right from the start I like a lot and am very attracted to, a very strong chemistry, one that I actually have never experienced before, and the feelings seemed to be very mutual, and as times goes by I like him more and more everyday. He seemed very concerned with my level of attraction and feeling towards him though, kind of seemed unsure all the time. Also was hurt in the past and had a few trust issues. Well, last weekend we spent the weekend together, as he is in the Marines and will be deploying again very soon. Well, during this weekend things were great, he was very sweet and very affectionate and told me how much he cares about me how happy I make him, I met his family and friends. Then the next day, he got upset when my phone went off and he seen that it was my ex..my ex does try to contact me, but as I have told him over and over, that I do not want him back and I have told him all about seeing him. So then he gets weird on me and says maybe I should go home and think about everything, and that he needs to think too. I live a 4 hr drive from where he is. So before I left I talked to him, he seemed fine and was all over me, and tells me to txt or call him later. Well, when I did he was short and barely would talk back to me. So the next day I called him, and he was short and then got pissy over nothing and hangs up the phone..that was Sunday..we are on Friday and I have called txted and I have not heard a WORD from him..like he has dropped off the face of the earth, but I did see he was on FB..it is so out of character from what I know of him these past few months. He was such a sweet and respectful country boy was such a gentlemen..and he does this?? After acting so crazy about me..just ignores me not a word..I really do not think I will ever hear from him again! This makes no sense to me! He leaves in days and will gone for a long time. I am lost! Help me understand what happened!
january2011 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 I suspect that the call from your ex triggered something. Perhaps he had a bad experience with a former girlfriend who was still in contact with her ex. Until he talks to you though, you'll never know. You're not a mindreader. You could try one last message and suggest that you both clear the air before he deploys. Otherwise, you might have to just move on without getting an explanation. It's frustrating but it's out of your hands unless he talks to you.
Author Misar7 Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 Thank You for your reply. I guess I will never know as he will not talk to me. I do not know what is over the line in this situation..like keep calling him or txting him. I mean..idk..I feel he owes me an explanation. I have left him a message explaining how I felt and what it all meant to me, and if he wanted nothing else to do with me to please call or txt and tell me and I will leave him alone. But he ignored it.
january2011 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Another potential explanation is that he wants to reset his mind back to deploying and would rather not have to deal with the emotional fallout of your relationship. He may not want you to wait for him because he doesn't know what might happen out there. And as far as he is concerned, you're not together anymore, therefore, he doesn't owe you an explanation. It's pure speculation. Unfortunately, whatever is going on, it's out of your hands now and you're going to have to seek closure another way. I'm sorry, I know it's painful not knowing but you don't have a choice in the matter. Therefore, better to bring the focus back onto yourself and your life.
Author Misar7 Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 Well I just decided to send one last txt since it had been few days since I had, I was nice in it and just said I hope he is safe and to take care and I was done trying to talk to him..he actually replied..all he said was "whatever ok bye". Wow..he is truly not the man I thought he was. How immature.
january2011 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Oh dear, perhaps it was one text too many. Time to move on now. Onward and upward!
Author Misar7 Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 (edited) So he will not talk to me but then I wrote a status on fb last night about "If I could do it over, I would trade and give away all the words that I saved, that I left unspoken." and he liked the status.. I said that because that was one thing he did get frustrated about with me also is that he wanted me to be more open and vulnerable with him and my feelings, and I couldn't do it, because of my past I am so guarded. So, I thought well let me write one last time, so I did, but I got no response, and that took everything I had to do, cause I do not like to be open and vulnerable and I layed it all on the line in that msg. But, why keep me as a friend on fb and why like my status if you refuse to communicate to me! Makes no sense! He leaves Wednesday. I would give anything to see him before he leaves..I just do not know what to do at this point. I guess chalk it up to a wasted 4 months. But, I know there is no way the things he said to me and the way he acted, could have been genuine if he could just cut me off like that. Edited April 16, 2012 by Misar7
SJC2008 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 How long did yall date? And the million dollar question would be did you sleep with him?
Author Misar7 Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 (edited) About 4 months and yes I did. He tried to talk me into letting him get me pregnant before he left, he said that I make him really happy and that he could see himself with me. But I could not go along with getting pregnant yet, I said we should wait, I told him I would wait for him to get back I was not gonna go anywhere. One thing I noticed about him though, is that he was really insecure about where I was who I was with..he always seemed to think I was lying to him. He said that he was taking this more serious than I was, which was not true. All seemed to change so fast. Edited April 16, 2012 by Misar7
SJC2008 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 He wanted to get you pregnant and is a cold fish now? Forget about that psycho. You'll feel better as time passes
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