Women are funny...you start dating one, and the others come out of the woodworks

[jobaba]

My ex gf called and wants to give it another try, and then every girl I been flirting with this year started hitting me up on fb wanting to hang and texting. I think girls get jealous off each other and will even give men sex just to be on top even if they don't really like a dude. It's funny. And obviously a girl can act like she doesn't like you and ignore you but really want to date you. You cannot judge a woman by how she acts at all. Lol.

 

Although a lot of this is in mens' heads I do think this is somewhat true.

 

The thing is, it's like winning a lifetime gift certificate to a steakhouse when you're a vegetarian.

 

I have never cheated and will never willingly do so, so there's no point in women being into me if I have a girlfriend.

 

But like I said before, I think a lot of it is in mens' heads.

 

I have had women flirt with me ostentatiously because they hated my ex girlfriend. That made for some funny stories.

[RedRobin]

Although a lot of this is in mens' heads I do think this is somewhat true.

 

The thing is, it's like winning a lifetime gift certificate to a steakhouse when you're a vegetarian.

 

I have never cheated and will never willingly do so, so there's no point in women being into me if I have a girlfriend.

 

But like I said before, I think a lot of it is in mens' heads.

 

I have had women flirt with me ostentatiously because they hated my ex girlfriend. That made for some funny stories.

 

... and I've had women pass rumours and swear that I was hitting on her BF when I was just being friendly and 100% professional (both of them worked with me).

 

When in reality, HE was the flirty one. I got the sense he wanted to get some kind of 'cat fight' started over him.. or he was the type that needed a new GF before he traded in the old one. I wasn't playing along.

 

She was no saint herself. Both of those two had a wierd relationship.

[jobaba]

... and I've had women pass rumours and swear that I was hitting on her BF when I was just being friendly and 100% professional (both of them worked with me).

 

When in reality, HE was the flirty one. I got the sense he wanted to get some kind of 'cat fight' started over him.. or he was the type that needed a new GF before he traded in the old one. I wasn't playing along.

 

She was no saint herself. Both of those two had a wierd relationship.

 

LOL.

 

My ex was kind of a b@tch. So when a female friend of mine tried to introduce herself and get friendly, she totally blew her off.

 

Sometime later I showed up at a party with my ex and that woman was there. She started rubbing me all over before I could stop her and my ex stormed out of the party. I'm pretty aware that woman had absolutely no interest in me.

 

The things women do to make each other jealous.

[RedRobin]

LOL.

 

My ex was kind of a b@tch. So when a female friend of mine tried to introduce herself and get friendly, she totally blew her off.

 

Sometime later I showed up at a party with my ex and that woman was there. She started rubbing me all over before I could stop her and my ex stormed out of the party. I'm pretty aware that woman had absolutely no interest in me.

 

The things women do to make each other jealous.

 

I know, RIGHT?! I admit... I did have some fun with all that though before it was done. She was chatting up Mr. Hot Stuff (another eligible bachelor from work)... while her BF hung out with the other guys. I have to admit, her BF was being pretty patient. After about a half hour or 45 minutes of extended one-on-one time with Mr. Hot Stuff... her BF (and the rest of the guys) took me up on the suggestion to go on the 'bouncy bounce' they'd rented for the day for the kids (it was a company picnic).

 

See... Me being the out-there, adreniline freak... I got the low-down from the bouncy-bounce attendent that it isn't just for kids and got some of my fellow (very staid) employees to come along. It was great fun!! Boy, did THAT get her attention. She dropped Mr. Hot Stuff and came running over when she saw me having fun with the guys (her BF included). She wasn't queen bee anymore. Mr. Hot Stuff even came over and gave me an admiring glance (he was 6'-5" though, so no way he was getting in there).

 

Good times...ha ha.

[RedRobin]

oh, I should add. Her BF seemed pretty pleased about the turn of events that day too.

 

I have no doubt they went home and had some pretty hot "anger" sex over it all. They ended up getting engaged not long after that. :love:

 

So, alls well that ends well...

[singlelife]

So I went out on two dates this weekend with two hot ladies. I also kept up the flirtatous texts to other ladies as well. I also flirted on fb. All of a sudden a lady I talked to last year came out of the woodworksand sent me a fb request ( We broke up bad twice before and I deleted her both times ) and told me long time no see. lol. I know she has been hearing good things about me partying and hanging out because I haven't just dogged any ladies. So I feel like it is a he's having fun with all these hot women ( a couple of them are friends of hers or run in her circles ) and just like the other's she is on it because it's the competition thing. Interesting.

[singlelife]

Ok a chick I went out with this weekend just came into the library and I was talking to another girl ( a friend) and I didn't see her and she gave me a dirty look then left. I was like, really. lol. She never comes in the library and I am always in there. Not sure how to read that one but I guess I'll text her later. Also a girl I messed around with a few weeks ago was giving me hugs and everything earlier in front of everyone and she sat at my table while I studied with other people and kept sending me nice flirty messages on fb. Funny because the ladies I were studying with were not date material but just study partners and she was all into what we were doing. This whole being occupied with other chicks is the only way to go. Women are like wired to react to it even if you aren't making them jealous.

[Woggle]

I remember one time I was out with a friend who is a lesbian and while she got up to go to the bathroom the waitress slipped me her number. Any man who has experience with dating can attest to how true this thread is.

[singlelife]

I remember one time I was out with a friend who is a lesbian and while she got up to go to the bathroom the waitress slipped me her number. Any man who has experience with dating can attest to how true this thread is.

 

It's an epidemic!!! lol.

[singlelife]

It's an epidemic!!! lol.

 

A girl I used to date texted me and asked what I was up to. i told her I was chillin. Then I called her and we talked and she said her and her gf's are going to a concert this weekend and she told me I should go. We chatted a while then I told her I couldn't but I would like to party with her sometime. Then she said she would love that. So she may come through this weekend before or after the concert. Either way I don't really care but it is a good story to share about all this.

[Oxy Moronovich]

This thread also explains why rebound chicks exist. A woman knows a guy is pining for his ex so she feels the need to compete by being the rebound. She also has a desire to nuture his wounded feelings.

[fishtaco]

One thing that guys have to understand, is when women start pushing and shoving with each other, the guy is almost incidental. The reverse also holds true.

 

The individual the herds are fighting for, becomes a trophy for a number of competing individuals.

 

This is true.

 

During my single days, which I assume I will be revisiting very soon, I employ this strategy all the time.

 

You can get women's attention easy. But easy come easy go. You better make your move and leave your mark, because the attention won't last. You're getting the attention not because of you, but because of the women around you.

 

But that's step 1, getting positive attention. It's 100 times better than NOT getting it.

 

But what you do next still matters. It's not like panties will be flying just because you have a couple of hot girls hanging off of you in an ambiguous manner.

 

It's like people always say oh yeah, chicks like musicians. They do. But I know musicians that can't score. Because being a musician and being on stage gives you a freebie when it comes to positive attention. That is an important step, not trying to discount it, but not the only step. You still have to know what to do with it, i.e. flirt and charm.

 

But I disagree with the guy stuff. Herd mentality yes, but men have this territory thing going. If a woman has a man, she won't be approached. Only men that will disregard this are the aggressive jerk types, because they have no respect for other guys territory, and they will hit on you even if you have your wedding ring on and your husband is standing right next to you.

 

And I don't mean by saying women are men's territory, not trying to start a gender war, this is only in men's perception as in "who can I approach".