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Women are funny...you start dating one, and the others come out of the woodworks

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GorillaTheater Established Member

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What I have found is that some women will become more attracted to you if they think (or know) that other women are attracted to you. Almost like a confirmation of your personal magnetism, attractiveness and high value. Seen it happen, been out with female cousins and friends and women tend to respond more positively to me in general.

 

Absolutely. I'm not sure why this seems to be taken as a put-down by some of the women here, but the phenomenon is undeniable.

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somedude81 Established Member

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Now I really need to get a female friend and start going out with her, and have her be a prop.

RedRobin Established Member

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I will say that many people act like 'sheep' in many areas of life... Where they live, what they drive, what they do for a living...

 

I'm notoriously non-sheep-like... I'm a chick who drives big motorcycles, jumps off of buildings, and also knows how to sew evening gowns and make a pretty mean cherry-pie from scratch. I also ask men out on dates and have never once expected a man to pay for a date in my entire life no matter who asked first. (I secretly suspect this is not working in my favor, ha ha).

 

so, if you gents feel that most women chase after you like 'sheep' because you happen to be attached, then I guess I'll believe you.

 

I'm just not one of them.

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RedRobin Established Member

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Now I really need to get a female friend and start going out with her, and have her be a prop.

 

Right behind you, buddy.

 

Starting with 'imaginary BF'. Yea... I'll just make one up. He'll be awesome. He'll make 6+ figs, he'll take me to exotic places for vacation... amazing in bed too. OH!! and at least 10 yrs younger. That'd do it.

 

Even better. I'll pop that diamond out of the setting I put it in after my divorce and fashion a new 'married to me' ring so I can attract the guys. :love::love:

 

Whaddya think?

prune juice Established Member

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I will say that many people act like 'sheep' in many areas of life... Where they live, what they drive, what they do for a living...

 

I'm notoriously non-sheep-like... I'm a chick who drives big motorcycles, jumps off of buildings, and also knows how to sew evening gowns and make a pretty mean cherry-pie from scratch. I also ask men out on dates and have never once expected a man to pay for a date in my entire life no matter who asked first. (I secretly suspect this is not working in my favor, ha ha).

 

so, if you gents feel that most women chase after you like 'sheep' because you happen to be attached, then I guess I'll believe you.

 

I'm just not one of them.

 

jump off buildings. i will call bullsh*t.

Anela Established Member

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Ok... so, before you guys get carried away... there is another phenomena at play here.

 

Sometimes we feel more comfortable being friendly to men who are with another woman because we know we won't get hit on.

 

It has nothing to do with anything romantic. It's only in (some) of you men's minds that friendly = potential pickup. ;)

 

Yes, this has happened to me more than once. Happened late last year, with someone who's been my friend for a while (just like his now ex-girlfriend). I was never attracted to these men, I just thought they were in happy relationships, and felt comfortable being friendly with them - I felt no pressure.

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somedude81 Established Member

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Right behind you, buddy.

 

Starting with 'imaginary BF'. Yea... I'll just make one up. He'll be awesome. He'll make 6+ figs, he'll take me to exotic places for vacation... amazing in bed too. OH!! and at least 10 yrs younger. That'd do it.

 

Even better. I'll pop that diamond out of the setting I put it in after my divorce and fashion a new 'married to me' ring so I can attract the guys. :love::love:

 

Whaddya think?

If you want to repel men go ahead.

Yes, this has happened to me more than once. Happened late last year, with someone who's been my friend for a while (just like his now ex-girlfriend). I was never attracted to these men, I just thought they were in happy relationships, and felt comfortable being friendly with them - I felt no pressure.

And you were also probably more open to being with if it came up because you were more comfortable with those men. Felt less on edge etc.

Anela Established Member

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deflection. you know gals do it but wont admit it. instead of admitting it you blame guys.

 

Men do it, too.

 

Other than my response to Robin, above, I've wondered if it had anything to do with the person in the relationship being attractive when they're happier - that confidence = attractiveness thing. Also, PUA teachers will encourage guys to chase women in relationships, as well as single girls.

Anela Established Member

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And you were also probably more open to being with if it came up because you were more comfortable with those men. Felt less on edge etc.

 

I wasn't more open to being with them, and they knew that I wasn't hitting on them. they always seemed to be taking advantage of any perceived vulnerability, too, which really annoys me.

 

I know one woman who had a friend's husband approach her for an affair, when she was a single mother. He acted like he was doing her a huge favour, seeing her as lonely and vulnerable, and attempting to cheat on her friend with her. :rolleyes:

Oxy Moronovich Established Member

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Ok... so, before you guys get carried away... there is another phenomena at play here.

 

Sometimes we feel more comfortable being friendly to men who are with another woman because we know we won't get hit on.

 

It has nothing to do with anything romantic. It's only in (some) of you men's minds that friendly = potential pickup. ;)

 

That's ok. Makes it easier for me when I actually DO want to pick one of you up... ha ha. (the single ones, of course!).

This is real dumb. None of these women have any reason to be friendly to us. These women come to us and start being friendly. We're minding our own business and they come to us. Not the other way around.

 

When I'm at the club with my gf, women dance against me. When I'm alone, they don't do it blatantly.

 

When I'm at a restaurant with attractive women, I've had women come up and chat to me. When I'm alone, nothing.

 

When I'm grocery shopping with my gf, I have women smiling at me. At the grocery store, nothing.

 

When I'm laughing with a woman at the gym, I have women strike up convos with me. Alone at the gym gets me nothing.

 

So your theory is so ridiculous no guy believes it.

prune juice Established Member

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Men do it, too.

 

Other than my response to Robin, above, I've wondered if it had anything to do with the person in the relationship being attractive when they're happier - that confidence = attractiveness thing. Also, PUA teachers will encourage guys to chase women in relationships, as well as single girls.

 

men do it too. that's gals answer to whever they do. not a lot of men do pua. i haven't but gals talk abot pua all the time. gals want what they can't have.

prune juice Established Member

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This is real dumb. None of these women have any reason to be friendly to us. These women come to us and start being friendly. We're minding our own business and they come to us. Not the other way around.

 

When I'm at the club with my gf, women dance against me. When I'm alone, they don't do it blatantly.

 

When I'm at a restaurant with attractive women, I've had women come up and chat to me. When I'm alone, nothing.

 

When I'm grocery shopping with my gf, I have women smiling at me. At the grocery store, nothing.

 

When I'm laughing with a woman at the gym, I have women strike up convos with me. Alone at the gym gets me nothing.

 

So your theory is so ridiculous no guy believes it.

 

it happens with me too. gals won't admit to it.

Anela Established Member

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deflection. you know gals do it but wont admit it. instead of admitting it you blame guys.

 

You're calling us liars?

 

Both men and women do it for some reason. Either insecurity or cockiness. Not ALL men and women do it, but those who do, make the rest of us look bad to the other gender, or even to our own gender.

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Anela Established Member

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liar. its girls prefer guys who are in demand.

 

Sounds like somebody needs to grow up.

 

jump off buildings. i will call bullsh*t.

 

Of course you do.

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RedRobin Established Member

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Sounds like somebody needs to grow up.

 

 

 

Of course you do.

 

Exactly... Why would I lie about jumping off of buildings? It's not exactly a man-magnet (obviously).

RedRobin Established Member

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So your theory is so ridiculous no guy believes it.

 

Um, ok. I happen to be a woman. So, I think I know what goes on in my own head more than any guy would.

 

But you keep telling yourself you are 'all that' whenever you have a gf. Wouldn't wanna burst your bubble. ;)

RedRobin Established Member

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If you want to repel men go ahead.

 

Why would that repel men? According to your theory, people think you are more of a 'catch' when you are trolling around some fresh kill.

 

Actually, the only thing that has proven REALLY effective in repeling men is chopping all my hair off after my divorce, talking about my salary and what I do for a living. :p

 

Oh, and that I'd rather rebuild a 62 corvette than drive one (well, I'd love to drive one too... but even better if it were one I rebuilt).

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threebyfate Established Member

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Yup, seen this phenomenon in action with women. I've actually deliberately caused it on LS, just to see if it works. The expected female members haven't failed me yet! :laugh:

 

That said, guys are like this too. Internet sites are awesome places to observe herd mentality.

prune juice Established Member

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Sounds like somebody needs to grow up.

 

 

 

Of course you do.

 

that someboby's you.

RedRobin Established Member

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Yup, seen this phenomenon in action with women. I've actually deliberately caused it on LS, just to see if it works. The expected female members haven't failed me yet! :laugh:

 

That said, guys are like this too. Internet sites are awesome places to observe herd mentality.

 

?? You mean, you found a GF and the 'expected female members' started hitting on you??

 

About the herd mentality. Sad, I know. I'm sure it must have been useful at some point in our evolution. :love:

threebyfate Established Member

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?? You mean, you found a GF and the 'expected female members' started hitting on you??

 

About the herd mentality. Sad, I know. I'm sure it must have been useful at some point in our evolution. :love:

Ha..nope. Not going to explain what happened. But needless to say, it works like a hot damn! :laugh:
Oxy Moronovich Established Member

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Um, ok. I happen to be a woman. So, I think I know what goes on in my own head more than any guy would.

 

But you keep telling yourself you are 'all that' whenever you have a gf. Wouldn't wanna burst your bubble. ;)

Whatever. The cases men are speaking of do not involve women merely trying to be friendly. They are actively flirting.

threebyfate Established Member

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One thing that guys have to understand, is when women start pushing and shoving with each other, the guy is almost incidental. The reverse also holds true.

 

The individual the herds are fighting for, becomes a trophy for a number of competing individuals.

prune juice Established Member

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Yup, seen this phenomenon in action with women. I've actually deliberately caused it on LS, just to see if it works. The expected female members haven't failed me yet! :laugh:

 

That said, guys are like this too. Internet sites are awesome places to observe herd mentality.

 

guys do it too. guys do it too. guys do it too. what are you? three?

RedRobin Established Member

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One thing that guys have to understand, is when women start pushing and shoving with each other, the guy is almost incidental. The reverse also holds true.

 

The individual the herds are fighting for, becomes a trophy for a number of competing individuals.

 

You know what... that is friggin dead on.

 

There was a woman I used to work with who had this strange idea that I was hung up on Mr. Hot Stuff-Ladder-Climber. The only reason *I* liked him was because I heard he had a farm and liked animals. I couldn't give a darn that he was on his way up. Her on the other hand... boy, she had it bad. She never failed to drop his name into the conversation whenever I happened to see her (rather obsessively, I might add).

 

After, oh, a couple of years of this, I had to have a little chat with her about the fact that if she were really that into him, he ought to know... As for me... I cleared things up with Mr. Hot Stuff pretty early on and we ended things on good terms. Her? Whoa. Major orbiter.

 

So yea. You are so right. It wasn't about HIM at all. It was about her thinking she was getting something over on me. I really couldn't care less.

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